On the first day of the Chinese New Year, the movie "Miracle Stupid Child" was released, and the protagonist Jing Hao, played by Yi Qianxi, gathered a group of ordinary people to start a business and chase happiness together in order to make his sister live a better life.
From the perspective of the world, this group of people want money and no money, they have no ability, they are completely a group of "old, weak, sick and disabled" and "disabled soldiers and defeated generals", such a group of people can also start a business?
But they have to use their persistent "small strong spirit" to prove that "stupid children" have the same ability to obtain happiness.
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What is worth singing is never a miracle, but every you and I in life who do not give up their efforts and do not give up the pursuit of happiness.
This is also the reason why the film was renamed "Miracle Stupid Child" from the original "Miracle".
Popular for more than 40 years,
The greatest talent is persistence
The promotional theme song of "Miracle Stupid Child", "Still a Stupid Child", is adapted from Andy Lau's classic "Stupid Child", and the healing lyrics have encouraged countless frustrated people.
And this song is also a true portrayal of his own life...
In 1981, on a very ordinary day, Andy Lau appeared in the public eye.
To date, he has been in the industry for more than 40 years.
In the video of "Andy Lau's 40th anniversary of his debut" some time ago, Andy Lau said:
"What should be celebrated is not to celebrate 40 years of being popular, but to celebrate 40 years of serious work as an ordinary person."
In our eyes, how glamorous the King of Heaven is, but Andy Lau's evaluation of himself is:
"I'm also very stupid, I need to practice a lot of time to do something, and every scene you see is just the result of the hard work of an ordinary person named Andy Lau every day."
Andy Lau, who debuted as an artist 40 years ago, came from an ordinary background and was not a talented player; at that time, there was a saying that Andy Lau was not as good as Aaron Kwok, singing was not as good as Jacky Cheung, and acting was not as good as Dawn.
He has acted in a lot of bad films, that's because he doesn't know which drama is good, so he simply takes more, but each one is taken seriously:
Filming "Divine Eagle Hero", he nibbled on the book written by Jin Yong over and over again;
Filming "Deer DingJi", he repeatedly studied ancient etiquette through history books;
In "The Storm", in order to hunt down the bandits, he hangs himself outside the car;
Unless forced to use a stand-in, the scene of jumping off the building fell to the bone fracture of the foot...
When he first began to march into the music world, the big guys in the industry hated his "bad singing" and "lyrics will not have any big achievements in a lifetime", so he buried his head in hard practice:
Use the gap between acting to hide in the car and practice writing lyrics;
Singing never allows you to look at the teleprompter;
Even if he is now famous and sings a wrong lyric, he will still be annoyed with himself for five months.
He said, "Even if there are only five people, I will sing it to you." I'm going to sing desperately until you laugh, I'm going to sing desperately until you cry. ”
To this day, many of the movies he has acted in have become classics, and many of his songs make people cry when they hear it.
It is with day-to-day efforts and seriousness that Andy Lau has won a place for himself in the show business circle, even if the entertainment industry is updated so quickly, he is still a well-deserved king.
He used his own experience to tell all ordinary people:
The ability to continue to work hard is the real talent.
A miracle that belongs to the "stupid child"
In life, we have seen many ordinary people like Andy Lau, with a general background talent, relying on persistence and hard work to become the best in the industry.
Well-known such as 365 days a year, 389 live broadcasts, crazy lipstick Li Jiaqi;
There is also a short video industry where fame and fortune come and go quickly, and there is still no hurry to update at a fast speed, but Li Ziqi who strives for excellence...
In the documentary "The True Colors of The Connoisseur", it also tells the stories of many people who have achieved the top in all walks of life.
There are celebrities such as Hayao Miyazaki and Ken Takakura, and some unknown but definitely the existence of big guys in the industry.
Among them, there is an airport cleaner, Haruko Niitsu, who is impressive.
Source: Documentary "The True Colors of the Connoisseur"
Haruko came from the bottom of the ladder and worked as the only cleaning job she was willing to hire since high school, for 23 years.
This may not be such a weighty and respected job as everyone sees, nor is it technical, and it is highly replaceable.
But since it came to be safe, Haruko put aside all the interference of the foreign plot and concentrated on doing the work at hand.
She often squatted on the ground, observed the floor for dust by the bright light, and then walked quickly, paying attention to the mop not touching the pedestrians.
She can also memorize the use of more than 80 cleaners, and a glance at the stains will tell which cleaner can be treated cleanly without hurting the surface of the appliance.
For the cleaning dead ends that her colleagues are helpless to do, she will even invent special tools to reduce the possibility of illness of travelers.
Ordinary work, do not have to deal with things, every day, Haruko like a master carved every corner of the airport;
The vast airport, in her hands, has become an admirable work of art.
Haruko's work has far exceeded the scope of cleaners, and this "stupid child" has become a top cleaner by relying on his own perseverance, achieving technical supervision and management positions, leading a team of more than 700 people.
Just like the ordinary people who laugh at life in the movie "Miracle Stupid Child", everyone can still prove with practical actions in the complex and changeable external environment that the goal of perseverance is a value that will never go out of fashion to achieve the ideal.
Take the initiative to stick to the secret
Why tell the story of the struggle of these bigwigs in the industry here?
Because every parent expects their children to succeed in the future, to struggle like these inspirational people, to work hard in learning, and to persevere in interest; adults also love to motivate their children with such positive energy stories.
However, insisting on this matter is really not something that can be done easily with chicken blood or chicken soup for the soul; these forces from the outside world have a very limited effect, and each of us probably understands it deeply.
The most important thing is how to promote a person to take the initiative to persist from the heart.
From the king of the entertainment industry to the national treasure cleaner, why can these leaders in all walks of life be able to persist for ten years?
Why is it acceptable for others to suffer "suffering" that is suffering in the eyes of others?
Leaving aside all external factors, just looking at them themselves will reveal:
Without exception, they have found the love in their hearts, and the career they love has given them a sense of happiness, value, and a sense of competence in exploration and experience.
These feelings assist them in completing the different stages of self-identity.
【Self-Identity】
It refers to the individual has a clear understanding of what kind of person he is and "what kind of person he wants to be", and can unify the past and the future, the ideal and the reality, the subjective and objective self, so as to make the current life practice more directional.
In this way, is it not that as long as we help children find the love in their hearts, they can become the ones of knowledge and action?
In psychology, there are four states of "self-identity":
Self-identity confusion: periods of minimal maturity in which neither exploration nor commitment is formed.
For example, young children usually do not think about questions such as "who am I" and "what am I going to do in the future".
Premature closure of self-identity: exploration does not occur, but commitment is formed.
For example, children who grew up in a family of medical practitioners do not know whether they are suitable or not, and they are indoctrinated from an early age to become doctors.
Self-identity is delayed: Exploration is taking place, and commitment has not yet been formed.
For example, adolescents who have arrived in adolescence, began to think about life, fell into confusion and actively searched for answers.
Self-Identity Completion: Completion of exploration also forms commitment.
That is to say, there are relatively clear answers to "who am I" and "what kind of person I want to be".
The completion of self-identity is, of course, a most ideal state.
But the reality is that the four states of self-identity are not absolute and independent of each other, but are dynamic and variable.
For example, in middle school, the goal is to enter a good university and form self-identity;
After being admitted to a good university, you have to explore the areas that you are most interested in in order to achieve self-identity;
When it comes to work, it is necessary to explore in practice and find interest and value...
Different ages will think differently about the same thing because of different developmental tasks, like:
Some big stars initially enter the entertainment industry, not for interest, but for subsistence;
Some entrepreneurs do not create value at first, but only to make money;
Top cleaners don't necessarily love the profession in the first place.
It's just that in the experience, in the exploration, the feedback information they continue to receive gives them the belief to persevere.
Therefore, self-exploration is a lifelong task.
Protecting "certainty in uncertainty"
Because of this, when we hear parenting experts say, "Don't force your child to take an inappropriate path, but discover your child's talent and love", you will immediately feel that "it is too difficult to find the natural interest of the baby, I am not sure what my baby loves".
The variability of self-identity, coupled with the variables of the external educational environment, directly confuses parents and confuses the tasks of parenthood.
Brushing aside the fog of all variables, we can be sure that:
To complete self-identity, it is inseparable from the input and feedback of external information.
How does this information come about?
Children who are in it, as the main body of experience, need to explore and digest on their own.
What parents have to do is never to find their children's talents and love, but to protect their desire to continue to explore from being destroyed.
And the best way to protect —
That is, when the child says, "I want to do it later...", try your best to provide the opportunity for the child to try;
It is when the baby finds that this road is really not suitable for herself after trying, she tells the child the known factual information and her own experience, but fully allows the child to make his own choices.
At the very least, when Eva proposes a goal that is like a "fantasy", don't first make a mocking denial and extinguish the small flame in ta's heart.
There is not a single stupid child, only an ordinary person who is eager to explore; the difference is only whether the exploration continues or stagnates.
This is what we can be sure of in the midst of all uncertainty, and it is also the best help that parents can provide on the way to happiness and success.
There is not a single stupid child in the world
There is only one child who is unique
Wise parents are good at using positive eyes
The right to choose, the right to try, the right to make mistakes
Give it back to the child
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About the author
Ah Wei, Yin Jianli Parents Academy Original Content Editor, Childcare Worker, constantly learning and disseminating parenting knowledge. On the way to raising a baby, we grew up together. This article was first published on the WeChat public account: "Yin Jianli Parents School ID: yinjianlifumuxuetang", reprint this article please send "reprint" on the public account.