56-year-old retired woman self-statement: If you want to live happily in your old age, you must learn to be "fierce" A little introduction: If a woman wants to live happily in her old age, she must learn to be cruel and cruel.

The 56-year-old retired woman said that if you want to live happily in your old age, you must learn to be "fierce"

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If a woman wants to live happily in her old age, she must learn to be cruel and cruel, this is a self-statement of a 56-year-old woman, and today Xiaobian will take everyone to understand her story.

Ms. Qian:

When I first retired at the age of 56, I was not happy with my children at all, but then I learned to be cruel and I lived a very free and easy life.

When I retired, I went to help my daughter with the children. So I moved into my son-in-law's house and became a paid nanny, and I had only one only child, and they both had to work and no one had any grandchildren, so my daughter put the idea on me.

At first they would give me some living expenses, but after a long time I asked my daughter to ask, she said no, the son-in-law never gave me a good face every time, our family of 5 people live together, 2,000 yuan a month living expenses are not enough.

Every time I don't have enough, I have to take out my own pension, the son-in-law always dislikes me, every time I cook, when they come back to eat the son-in-law hates me, either salty or light, otherwise it is disgusted that it is not cooked. Sometimes I even hate that the dishes I bought are too unpalatable.

Once I didn't buy meat, my son-in-law said we are not giving living expenses, why don't you have meat? Every time my son-in-law picked me up, I felt very uncomfortable. Although they give me 1500 yuan of living expenses or 2000 yuan per month, but the family has to eat, where is the living expenses of 2000 yuan?

And if you have to eat meat at every meal, it is not enough, pork beef and mutton are particularly expensive, thirty or twenty yuan a pound, each time you buy dozens of dollars are not enough for a family to eat, I stayed at my daughter's house for a while, I really can't stay, I don't want to be a nanny anymore.

I took the initiative to give my daughter 20,000 yuan, let her hire a nanny to take care of the children, and I went back to my hometown alone. If I were to live in my daughter's house again, I would definitely become an old man with depression. When I returned to my own house, I went shopping and dancing with my sisters.

I have a lot of fun every day, and I usually plant vegetables on my balcony to water the flowers. Sometimes when I come back from grocery shopping, I will ask my sisters to come to my house to eat together, anyway, I have to cook meals to call them to have a companion, and it is good for us sisters to talk and laugh together.

Why is it that the old man will be happier if he is a little cruel?

People get along with each other is also skilled, even if the relationship is good, there will be contradictions in getting along every day, especially those retired middle-aged and elderly people who do not make friends will feel very lonely, but it is difficult to get along with friends, so whether it is relatives or friends, they should keep a certain distance, and sometimes they will be happier if they are cruel.

After I retired, I went to my daughter's son-in-law's house to help with the children, and I felt sorry for my daughter. I took the initiative to go to their home to take the children, but in exchange for the straight daughter's incomprehension of the son-in-law's dislike, so I advise those retired parents to be more cruel to their relatives sometimes, which will make themselves happier.

Sometimes the elderly also have to think more about themselves, can not think about everything about their children, they are happy to live unhappy, let themselves live a wronged life, and retired elderly people must not live with their children, must keep a distance and the relationship between their children is more intimate, and life in their later years is more unhappy.

Whether it is friends or family, in the end you will find that you can accompany you to the end only yourself, whether it is to your lover or friends, or to your relatives should maintain a certain distance, but will be happier, after retirement I will go to my daughter's house to live, and live with my sisters.

Eventually I learned to be alone and enjoy my time alone. A person who does what he wants to do, lives the life he wants to live, and keeps a certain distance from friends and relatives will have a good time in his old age.