Culture is changing, times are changing
Naturally, some new rules will be born
We are passing on the old rules at the same time
Teach your children to embrace the new rules
Rules of speech
Many people feel that "fairy tales are unscrupulous", children are the most innocent and lovely, no matter what they say, they don't have to mind too much.
In fact, this is not all right, some words, parents need to teach their children to say properly, some words, parents should remind their children not to say.
● Greet people and be generous when you talk back
Many people think that it is normal to see elderly relatives and friends in the New Year, and children open their mouths to call people and say "Happy New Year".
But if there is an introverted and sensitive baby at home, parents need to take more pains to guide.
It is normal for children to be wary of unfamiliar environments and strangers, and parents can tell their children in advance who is coming or who we are going to go to, and what to call each other when they enter the door. Let the child have a preparation in his heart, and he will not be so vigilant.
Also, let your child practice speaking and looking into each other's eyes as they answer questions. This is not only a kind of respect for others, but also reflects a person's self-confidence and sincerity. You can practice with your child through games, and after the child is familiar with it, he will slowly know how to deal with it.
● Praise can be said to the face, and negative judgment should be suppressed
Whether it is an adult or a child, it is inevitable to comment and express feelings. Especially during the New Year, when children go to the homes of relatives and friends, it is often easy to say things like: "Your family is really small", "your grades are so poor", "you are not as good as my family".
Maybe the child itself has no malice, but parents need to emphasize with the child at ordinary times that it is very impolite to laugh at the shortcomings of others and say that others are not good, which will make others feel embarrassed and sad, and can not be kept shut.
● Ask for help to say "please", and be favored and say "thank you"
I have seen many children, who are thirsty, shake the cup and signal the adults to help him pour water. After receiving the gift, I directly opened it and did not express my gratitude, which made people feel very uncomfortable.
This is not necessarily the child really ignorant, it is likely that the parents did not remind the child in time to pay attention to, should go to say polite language. Everything is a habit of nature, as parents, we still have to start from small things and supervise in time.
● It is okay to say auspicious words, but do not ask for red envelopes
In the New Year, it is normal for children to want a little red envelope, but parents should still tell their children that it is impolite to take the initiative to ask for red envelopes. The red envelopes sent by others must be accepted after the consent of the parents, and the red envelopes should be thanked.
Don't interject, don't interrupt other people's conversations
Children also have knowledge and desire to express, sometimes adults chat, maybe he just knows a little bit about a topic, he will eagerly want to participate. Sometimes he has any needs and ideas, and he will interrupt and say directly when the adults are chatting.
We need to tell our children that we need to learn to wait for others to finish speaking. Don't interrupt others, and don't interject when the elders are chatting, otherwise they will appear very disrespectful. If you have a need, you can whisper to your parents that mom and dad will help you.
You can set a secret code with your child. For example, if a child sticks out two fingers to touch his hair, it means that he needs a mother. New Year's crowds are also a good way.
The rules of being a guest
● Without permission, do not move other people's things
One of the most troublesome children is to go to other people's homes as guests, rummaging through other people's drawers and moving other people's belongings.
Curiosity every child has, unfamiliar environment, can most stimulate the child's desire to explore, and the child itself is prone to excess energy. Parents can understand this, but don't indulge it.
Be sure to repeatedly emphasize with the child that other people's things should not be touched without the consent of the owner, otherwise the child will lose his sense of boundaries and will cause the child to be more difficult to restrain in the future.
● Don't run around and talk loudly in other people's homes
Children will play regardless of it, especially when the other party has a child of his age in the family, playing hide-and-seek or catch-and-seek games, it is simply not too happy.
Parents should tell their children that we are guests. Respect the privacy of others, and you can't just go into other people's bedrooms or run around in other people's homes.
Doing so will not only affect the neighbors downstairs, but also disturb the elders to chat. If you really want to play, you can make a little noise, or play other interesting games.
●When you see something you like, don't ask for it
When you take your children out during the New Year, you will always see decorations or toys that are not available at home. Children's hearts are relatively straight, and it is often easy to love what they like, so they directly ask people if they can take it home.
At this time, the owner may be very embarrassed, if he agrees, perhaps his own children will be sad and sad. Disagree, and appear very angry, will hurt the feelings of the two families.
So before taking your child out, you can tell your child that there are any things you like, or what extra needs you have, you can tell your parents privately, we don't want to cause trouble for others.
The rules of the meal
● Wait for everyone to eat together, and you can't eat alone
Children are more likely to be hungry than we adults, see good food, and have a harder time controlling their appetite.
Many families will give their children some food separately and let the child eat it first. If the child is really small, this is acceptable.
However, if there are many people or formal dinners, and the child can already control the diet, try not to let the child be special.
The old rule is that the elderly come first, and the child, as the junior, is correct to wait for the elders to move the chopsticks first and then start eating.
● Do not knock on the rice bowl, do not leave leftovers
When you go to someone else's house to eat, the meaning of knocking on the rice bowl is to urge the host to serve the food, and you can't wait. Children may be bored or curious to do this, but parents must stop it. Otherwise, it will seem very rude, especially during the New Year, many people are still more concerned and think that it is unlucky.
The amount of food for children is also different from that of adults, it is best to give children less food, not enough to add. Don't let the child have leftovers, not only is the food wasted, but also appears to be disrespectful to the person who cooks.
Compared with the past, the rules of the New Year are now much less, and there are fewer and fewer people who understand the old rules. However, it is still important for children to follow basic rules.
These seemingly unimportant details reflect the child's tutoring, character and cultivation all the time. Parents' education of their children now silently affects whether their children can become a generous, decent, respected and liked person in the future.
During the Spring Festival, I hope that we can all keep these rules in mind and be courteous and courteous.
China has always been known as the "State of Etiquette"
Culture is constantly changing
Left behind a lot of rules handed down by the ancestors
Chinese New Year
Family reunions, visits to relatives and friends
It is the children who learn civility and etiquette
And the old rules are a great time
Today Xiaobian will share with you some rules during the New Year
Let's learn together
First
According to folk sayings, you can't use a broom on the first day of the first lunar month, otherwise it will sweep away your luck and ruin your money. If you have to sweep the floor, you must sweep from the outside to the inside.
If you break furniture in the New Year, you must quickly say "the years are safe" or "Blossom on the ground, rich and glorious".
Second
On the second day of the Chinese New Year, the married daughter returns to her mother's house and asks her husband to accompany her, so it is commonly known as "Greeting the Son-in-Law Day". On this day, the daughter who returns to her mother's house must carry some gifts and red envelopes to distribute to her mother's children, and have lunch at her mother's house, but she must rush back to her in-laws' house before dinner. In the past, families would also choose this day to take a family portrait.
Third
The third day of the Chinese New Year, also known as the Red Dog Day, is homophonous with "Red Mouth", usually does not go out to worship the New Year, and it is said that this day is easy to quarrel with people. However, this custom has long been outdated, because people now rarely reunite during the Spring Festival, which has been much downplayed.
Fourth grade
The fourth day of the Lunar New Year is a day to worship the god of wealth. In the past, the boss wanted to "fire someone", so he did not invite him to worship God on this day, and the other party knew it and cleaned up the people by himself. There is also a legend that the king of the stove will come to check the household registration on this day, so it is not appropriate to go far.
Fifth grade
The fifth day of the first lunar month is commonly known as breaking the fifth, and it is necessary to "catch up with the five poverty", including "intellectual poverty, poor learning, poor literature, poor life, and poor friends". People rose at dawn, set off firecrackers, and cleaned up. Firecrackers are placed from the inside out, and as they are released, they go outside the door. It is said that everything that is unlucky will be bombed out.
Sixth grade
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, the shops and restaurants officially opened for business, and firecrackers were to be released, no less than the grand situation of Chinese New Year's Eve. Legend has it that the most popular of the day is for boys who turn 12 that year, because 12 is twice as high as 6, which is called six six big shun. On this day, every household has to throw out the garbage accumulated during the festival, which is called "sending the poor ghost".
Seventh grade
The seventh day of the first year is the day of the person, that is, the birthday of the person. According to the Book of Zhan, from the beginning of the first month, the order in which heaven created all things was "one chicken and two dogs, three pigs and four sheep, five cattle and six horses, seven people and eight grains", so the seventh day of the first month is the day of man. On this day, people will eat the first porridge, the so-called and the first, is the hope of the scientific examination of the high school. Even the government cannot execute criminals on this day, and parents cannot teach their children a lesson on this day.
The eighth year of the first year
The eighth day of the first month is the day of the valley, the legend is the birthday of the millet, also called the Shunxing Festival, the legend is the day of the nether realm of the stars, the sky is the most complete, if the weather is sunny on this day, it indicates that the rice harvest of this year is good, and the day is cloudy and the year is apologetic.
Ninth grade
On the ninth day of the Lunar New Year, folk customs are the birthday of the Jade Emperor, and a grand celestial sacrifice is held. The faithful wanted the Lord to worship the Jade Emperor, wish the Heavenly Father a happy birthday, and pray for a smooth wind and rain, peace and health in the new year.
The first ten
On this day, all stone tools such as grinding and milling cannot be moved, and even the stones must be sacrificed. On the night of the ninth day of the first month, a crock pot was frozen on a large smooth stone, and on the morning of the tenth day, the nose of the crock pot was tied with a rope, and ten young men took turns carrying it, and if the stone did not fall to the ground, it heralded the harvest of that year.
Eleven
The eleventh day of the first lunar month is "Son-in-law's Day", which is the day when the father-in-law feasts on his son-in-law. In addition to eating one day on the tenth day of the first month, there is still a lot left, so the mother's family does not have to spend any more money, so she uses these remaining delicacies to entertain the son-in-law and daughter, and the folk song is called "eleven please son-in-law".
Twelve to fifteen
After the eleventh day of the first month, people began to prepare to celebrate the Lantern Festival, starting from the twelfth day of the first month to buy lanterns and build a lamp shed. The nursery rhyme goes like this: "Eleven chirping, twelve lighting sheds, thirteen people turning on the lights, fourteen lights are bright, fifteen and a half moons, sixteen people finishing the lights." The fifteenth day of the first lunar month is the "Lantern Festival", which is the first full moon night of the year and the night of the rejuvenation of the earth, also known as the "Shangyuan Festival". The custom of lantern burning has been since the Han Dynasty, and it is indispensable to eat Lantern and Tangyuan on this day. The sixteenth night of the first month is a children's festival, all children take out their own lanterns and bump into others, and then laugh and watch other people's lanterns catch fire, this is called "touching the lamp". The emphasis is that this year's lanterns cannot be left until next year, and must be destroyed in a "touching lamp" manner.
Source: Guizhou Education Release Comprehensive Finishing from Qingdao West Coast New Area Education and Sports Bureau, etc