I don't know if you have found it? Many children are completely a bully at home, but as long as they go out of the house, they meet classmates or friends who behave very introverted. This phenomenon is what we usually say, children are "nesting horizontally".
The most typical behavior of children is to bully the soft and fear the hard. This "soft" refers to the elders in the family who treat the child as a treasure, and the "hard" refers to other outsiders. The main reason for the child's nest is the doting of the family, which eventually makes him not know how to consider the feelings of others.
In fact, it is not wrong to care for children, the most critical thing is to grasp this degree, these three points, parents must grasp well.
First, the environment in which children grow up is accustomed to it, and it is easy to produce cognitive errors
Because the current environment is much better than before, the family can generally provide a warm environment for children, eat and wear without worry, and live worry-free. And if the child's parents are a little busy, they may let the elderly in the family come to take the child. And most of the elderly are generational relatives, so they are always infinitely spoiled for their children, and children want what they want.
But for a long time in the central position of the home, held by the elderly in the palm of the hand, this sense of superiority if not corrected, it is easy for children to lose themselves, in the future with others to communicate with self-centered, it is difficult to let children and children friendly communication, and in order to ensure their own social environment, children will also change a face and interact with others, which causes the phenomenon of children in the nest.
Once the child has this concept, in the future work and life, if he encounters unpleasant things outside, he will go home and scold the family. This incorrect way of venting emotions will not only affect the relationship between the child and the family, but also be detrimental to the formation of the child's correct concept of marriage in the future.
Second, "there is a kind of learning", children are the best education for parents
If the child's living environment, there is a grumpy and unreasonable parent to the family, the parent itself is the character of the nest, then the child will naturally follow the parents, usually rude to the family, go outside but only promise.
Parents' education is the best guide for children, so in ordinary life, parents should pay attention to regulating their words and deeds, do not let such a family member tolerate themselves infinitely, and be too rude in front of their families. Family is always our harbor and umbrella, not a trash can where we can vent our emotions at will.
Only the parents' words and deeds can make the children know the etiquette and understand the etiquette, only the parents pay attention to the care of the family in their daily life, express their love, and let the children know how to care for others.
Third, the basic social etiquette is not guided
In the face of unfamiliar environments, most people will feel timid, which is normal, but parents should guide their children to communicate and communicate with others, establish self-confidence and healthy ideas, otherwise children will passively interact with others for a long time and will resist the external environment.
If the child's own personality is more introverted, he has his own inner world, parents should not pull up seedlings to promote growth, but must force children to participate in social and social communication. To respect the child's ideas and personality, in addition to establishing the right way of thinking for the child, parents should teach the child how to communicate with others politely.
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