Nowadays, there are more and more stay-at-home mothers around us, and their identity makes many people envious, because they do not have to work hard in the workplace and have free time.
But in fact, behind them, there is a lot of heartache and helplessness, sometimes it is not that they are unwilling to go to work, but the situation does not allow it.
Lingling is a master's student at a 985 university and has an enviable job after graduation.
With high education and hard work, Lingling soon made her own world in the workplace and became an executive of a listed company.
But after the pregnancy, Lingling was told by the doctor that she had symptoms of threatened miscarriage, and for the safety of the fetus, she could only choose to resign and go home to wait for delivery.
Fortunately, there was no danger, and after a few months, the child was born smoothly, and everything was healthy.
Because both parents have their own difficulties, Lingling can only take care of her children by herself, but the young she is actually very eager to return to the workplace, just think of a lot of ways are not appropriate.
For the sake of her children, she had to stay at home and become a stay-at-home mother.
It was hard for the child to go to kindergarten, but Lingling still did not go out to find a job.
After a long time, her husband also complained about this, and from time to time said in front of Lingling that he was stressed to work.
Even more questioned Lingling: the child has gone to kindergarten, why is he still squatting at home?
I hope that Lingling can quickly go out to find a job and alleviate the financial pressure at home.
Ling Ling was naturally not happy after saying more, and she replied: It's not that she doesn't want to go to work, but she can't.
Children leave school at 4 o'clock in the afternoon, where to find such a job can be just right to pick up children?
Many people have expressed empathy, and the conditions do not allow us to work freely.
For stay-at-home moms, they actually lose a lot
1. Career
Although the current society is very inclusive, people have always advocated economic independence, and how to achieve economic independence, there is no doubt that there must be a job of their own.
But for stay-at-home moms, they obviously can't do it, and in order to take care of their families and children, they can only sacrifice their careers.
2. Time
Some people say that the freedom of time for stay-at-home mothers is enviable, but in fact, there are already documentaries that show everyone the life of a stay-at-home mother for a day.
They have to get up early every day to make breakfast for their children, and after sending them to school, they have to buy vegetables to cook and clean, and they really don't have a little time to breathe.
3. Socialize
Many women will shrink their social circles a lot after becoming mothers, because their energy is focused on their children, and there is almost no circle of their own.
This is especially true for stay-at-home mothers, who don't even have co-workers, who put all their sustenance on their children and husbands, and whose social circle is almost zero.
What does stay-at-home mom need most?
1. Understanding
Many people don't understand stay-at-home moms, thinking that they are just trying to escape the hard work of the workplace, so they choose to stay at home easily.
But this is a complete misunderstanding, because everyone who has come here knows that taking care of children is actually harder and more stressful than working hard in the workplace.
2. Respect
For stay-at-home mothers, they are eager to be respected by their families and society, and they hope that their labor and dedication can be recognized.
Because for this identity, too many people have doubts, and even think that stay-at-home mothers are worthless, which is undoubtedly a violation of their self-esteem.
I believe that every woman wants to have a family and a career, but sometimes it's really hard.
If you have to choose between the two, perhaps for the vast majority of mothers, it is the most important thing for them to give up their careers and return to the family.