Children are naughty by nature, so they occasionally behave in a way that makes their parents angry. At this time, how to deal with children's behavior? Most parents are particularly angry and discipline their children indiscriminately, or scold or punish them, in short, with the aim of making them aware of their mistakes and correcting them.
It is understandable that parents are angry, but the behavior of randomly punishing and scolding is really incomprehensible. It may be that in the minds of parents, children are never placed in a reciprocal position, so the so-called "face" and "self-esteem" issues have not been considered.
You should know that although children are small, they also have strong self-esteem, and they also want to be respected by their parents, and they also want to protect their tiny faces. Therefore, no matter how angry parents are, when educating their children, they must pay attention to the occasion, otherwise the harm to them is too great.
In these three cases, parents are asked to learn to restrain their anger
The first: don't scold in public
As long as it is in public, especially in front of the child's classmates and teachers, parents must not punish them. Heart to heart, who wants to be punished in front of someone they know? Although children are small, their self-esteem is very strong, and they even have the desire to compare.
If parents accuse in front of their classmates, or even scold their children, they will feel that they can't lift their heads, and they will even be ridiculed by their classmates. For a long time, it will become a psychological shadow of the child, causing him to have an inferior personality.
The second: don't scold when you play
In fact, many children's mistakes are unintentional, and they may not know that they have done something wrong, so they will play especially happily. At this time, parents try not to disturb their children, let alone transfer angry emotions to them, especially affecting their mood.
When having fun, parents can bear the anger in their hearts, and when the child's game is over, it is also okay to criticize in no-one corner.
The third type: do not punish after admitting mistakes
Since the child has taken the initiative to recognize the mistake and show remorse, the parents should not punish it again. Because the attitude of parents at this time is likely to be counterproductive, so that the child's original remorse becomes rebellion, and feels that parents do not understand themselves at all.
Many things, in fact, admitting mistakes is the goal, indicating that children are willing to correct. If you blindly punish, it will make the child become more negative and affect the parent-child relationship.
Summary: Accept your child's mistakes and develop a reasonable educational program based on the size of your mistakes. Small mistakes that are repeatedly taught can be given appropriate punishment; the first mistake, no matter how big or small, must first point out the harm behind the mistake and give the child a chance to correct it.