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One of the characteristics of Chinese education is that it overemphasizes the success or failure of a person.
If you do well on your exams, your parents and elders will be proud of you. You take the exams in general, believing that your parents and elders will be disappointed in you.
No one cares what you encountered and realized in the process of struggle. The vast majority of people will only judge your life based on your achievements and final results.
This kind of "success or failure of heroes" behavior makes the focus of education biased towards emotional intelligence and IQ.
People think that as long as the emotional intelligence is good, it can eat well in the jianghu, play with ease, or at least become the best in interpersonal relationships, better than others.
People think that as long as the IQ is high enough, then it doesn't matter if he doesn't have anything. I can take exams, I can do questions, I can read, and I don't have to do anything else.
Ideas like this will only affect the development of future generations. You know, emotional intelligence and IQ can't support the whole of life. If only emotional intelligence and IQ are relied upon, then there are already countless people in this world who have succeeded, so how can there be the emergence of the law of two and eight?
It can be said that more important than emotional intelligence and IQ are the following two words.
02
Huang Yanpei, a famous educator and thinker, told his son:
Reason must seek truth, and everything must seek truth;
Words must be kept, and deeds must be steadfast.
Don't be idle, don't panic;
What is said must be believed, and what is desireless is just.
And if the spring wind, the solemn autumn frost;
Take the image from the money, the outer circle and the inner square.
These 64 words boil down to one thing, that is, to learn to be human. And if it boils down to two words, it's "inverse quotient."
In particular, the last two sentences are taken from money, and the outer circle is squared inside. Its essence is to make us a "high contrarian quotient" person.
A copper coin, its surface is particularly smooth, giving people a feeling of no way to start. And the essence? Then we must adhere to the principle of "fang" and not change our own nature.
It is difficult to do without changing one's nature, and it needs to withstand the tests of life. If your contrarian quotient is not high enough and you collapse all at once, then why do you talk about cultivating to the realm of "outer circle and inner square"?
Life is like an ocean in which a large number of people with particularly high IQs and emotional intelligence have drowned. Most of these people are elite talents. However, it is precisely because their contrarian quotient is not high enough that they are buried in the sea of life.
Emotional intelligence, it will only teach you how to deal with people and gain the favor of others. IQ, it will only teach you how to solve problems quickly, thereby improving the efficiency of doing things and receiving information. Contrarian quotient teaches you how to persevere until the day when the willows are dark and the flowers are bright.
It can be said that inverse quotient is the basis of everything. Emotional intelligence and IQ are just icing on the cake.
03
Some time ago, a young man next to the village jumped off a building and died. The reason why he jumped off the building was just because he couldn't think of it because of his lost love.
He told his parents that he was reluctant to be in love with his girlfriend for three years, and if she didn't accept himself, then his life would be meaningless.
After his parents' advice was ineffective, he chose to leave.
His parents were ten years old overnight. They said bitterly that the two sons had worked hard to raise their children, let him finish college, and had a promising future, so why was he so stupid and chose to live lightly?
The root cause lies in the fact that people's "contrarian quotient" is too low. Blindly paying attention to the cultivation of emotional intelligence and IQ will eventually ignore the existence of reverse quotient, so that there are many high-scoring people with psychological vulnerability.
Just imagine, he has good ability, very good talent, and can even rank in a certain field, but his contrarian quotient is particularly low, and he can't think of it at every turn, so can his future be bright?
I remember that more than a decade ago, there were many students who died lightly because of poor academics and examinations, and there was no concept of life and life at all. So, even if their emotional intelligence and IQ are first-class, what is the use?
It is not that emotional intelligence and IQ are not important, but that without the blessing of "reverse quotient", even if you are talented, you will not achieve anything.
A person with a high contrarian quotient, even if his IQ and emotional intelligence are average, he can win at some point in the future. You know, adversity sharpens talents, and where they die, they can be reborn from the fire.
04
During the Three Kingdoms period, Sima Yi, who was over 50 years old, was relegated to his home by the emperor and was stripped of his official position and power.
If you follow the average middle-aged person, they are already discouraged and dejected. However, Sima Yi insisted on dancing his sword every day, exercising, reading military books in his free time, and thinking about the future direction.
When his son saw that he was so diligent, he said, "Father, the emperor doesn't want you anymore, you have nothing now, no matter how strong your strategy is, no matter how good your health is, what is the use?" ”
After listening to his son's words, Sima Yi was particularly angry, and then taught him that if he tripped up the difficulties in front of him, what big thing could he achieve?
The so-called "for people, there is generosity into a big instrument also." ”
What is "generosity"? What is a "big instrument"?
Generosity, that is your broad mind. Large utensils, that is, exquisite utensils that have been "tried and trimmed". If a person's mind is not open enough, and the contrarian quotient is not high enough, then how can he talk about achieving a career?
And Sima Yi, who had a super high anti-quotient, not only survived zhuge liang at the same time, but even survived his master. In the end, he worked hard and won everything that belonged to him.
Therefore, what determines the height of your life is your contrarian quotient. And the icing on the cake is your IQ and emotional intelligence. Please tell your child that with high inverse quotient, you can better use your EQ and IQ.
Wen/Shushan has deer