On the road to growth, losing and winning stand on different opposite sides, and we must learn to bear it, so that life is complete enough. However, some children can accept the joy of success, but they cannot accept the pain of failure. Even when you hear the word "lose", there will be a particularly strong performance, which makes parents feel helpless.
The behavior of these children is typical of "can't afford to lose", which has a particularly great impact on the future. Because children who can't afford to lose, their mentality has collapsed when they face failure. How can such a state and performance lead to success if you can't get out of failure for a long time and deny and torture yourself for a long time?
It is no exaggeration to say that if the child has the psychology of not being able to lose, it is useless to be smart. In the future society, it is not enough to rely on ingenuity, because children who cannot afford to lose are glass hearts, and they are too fragile. Maybe the small wind and grass outside will make them collapse.
How to change your child's mentality and let them establish a correct view of winning and losing?
First, let go completely
From now on, let go of the protection of your children, even if you know that they can't afford to lose, don't be afraid. The more times you lose, the more your child's mentality will change, and you may be "negative and positive". It is better to let them go through setbacks and failures and accumulate more experience.
The word "more frustrated and courageous" is not just talk, in the face of difficulties and failures, everyone will hesitate, will have timidity, but as long as they overcome it, there will be infinite possibilities.
Second, accept failure
Smart parents should accept everything about their children, even if they fail. There are too many parents who are always desperate to have their children succeed and even give the wrong guidance. It is in this way that the child will not be able to afford to lose, fear that he will be disappointed, and worry that he will be punished.
Tell your child: It doesn't matter if you lose, because mom and dad have failed countless times, but in the end they all persevered. The relief of parents will release the pressure in the child's heart, and the mood will not be so bad.
Third, set goals
In fact, children can't afford to lose, and the side also shows that they are competitive and want to prove themselves through hard work. Parents can grasp this psychology of their children and guide them to subdivide the goals, so that they can be easily completed. To put it simply, since the big goal is not done well, then divide it into small goals, and maybe it can be completed well.
In this process, parents should encourage and praise more, and affirm their children's efforts. Slowly, children develop the habit of setting their own goals, reducing the chances of frustration and failure.
Many times, it's not that children aren't good enough, it's that they have too big goals and are too results-oriented. Once you encounter failure, you do not know how to release your inner negative emotions, which leads to the situation that you cannot afford to lose. As long as parents guide them correctly and let their children face up to failure and success, I believe that they will become potential stocks.