Introduction: Whether the mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law sincerely or falsely, time will naturally verify. If it is true, those small frictions are nothing at all.
In "Breaking into the Guandong", Wen Ta's mother, that is, Mother Zhu, has three daughters-in-law.
The eldest daughter-in-law, Nawen, was once a pampered gege, the second daughter-in-law Xiu'er was a conservative peasant girl, and the third daughter-in-law, Yushu, was a progressive woman in the new era.
It is said that there are not many places where there are many women, especially the difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
However, the illiterate Mother Zhu can live under the same roof with three daughters-in-law with very different personalities.
In fact, judging from the origins of these three daughters-in-law, Xiu'er is more in line with the standards of the daughter-in-law in the hearts of the elders in that era, such as hard work, simplicity, and tradition.
Although Na Wen Yushu said that they were all "higher" educated, they would be inferior in family affairs, and many ideas and concepts, Zhu Mu did not approve of them, and occasionally picked them up.
Even so, the daughters-in-law still have heartfelt respect for their mother-in-law, which is the strength of Mother Zhu.
So for the troublesome mother-in-law relationship, how did Mother Zhu "clean up" the three daughters-in-law to obey?
Recently combined with the original work, it was found that there were three shining points on Zhu Mu's body.
First, Mother Zhu spoke directly but knew that it was appropriate to stop.
Zhu Chuanwu, the second son of Zhu Mother, escaped on the wedding night, Xiu'er became mentally confused, and Xiu'er's father tossed the Zhu family to the point of tossing the Zhu family to death in order to vent his daughter's anger.
Although Mother Zhu knew that her family was at a loss, she was also angry with Han Laohai, so she complained that her husband was not as bloody as before, like a sick cow.
Na Wen defended the father-in-law, saying that the father-in-law was just lying down and tasting the guts. However, before he could finish speaking, he was resented by his mother-in-law.
In the novel, it is written that Mother Zhu said with hatred, "Shut your mouth, close the door and live your life well, and you will not mix things in the family!" ”
When the mother-in-law said such a thing, it was still very embarrassing for the daughter-in-law. Na Wen also replied, saying that the affairs of the family were also his own affairs, saying that he was full of piano, chess, calligraphy, painting, and full of warp, but he could not use it.
The eldest Zhu Chuanwen saw that things were not good, and immediately rushed his wife to burn the fire. As soon as Na Wen went out, Mother Zhu said, "This eldest daughter-in-law, don't look at everyone's beauty and knowledge, but it is a little bit two, but it is also joyful." ”
Then Na wen leaned in from outside the door and asked, "Mother, what is two?" The sentence made the family laugh.
Looking closely at this description, Zhu Mu damaged the text in anger, and when the text first went out, she seemed to be demeaning and exaggerated.
In fact, Mother Zhu expected that the daughter-in-law who had just gone out would hear it, and she not only found a step for her impulse just now, but also avoided the deposition of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Assuming that Mother Zhu did not control the situation in time, Na Wen was angry in her heart, and she might not be happy after returning to the house, and she would also have a conflict with her husband.
Looking back at Mother Zhu, although she has no malice in her heart, many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions are also because of some verbal disputes. The cleverness of Zhu Mu is that she knows how to stop at the right time.
Second, Mother Zhu will care about the inner feelings of her daughters-in-law.
The second daughter-in-law Xiu'er's marriage is not happy, and she thinks of ways to help Xiu'er get the love of her son.
She was also afraid that Xiu'er often stayed alone in the empty room, and was looked down upon by the other two daughters-in-law, and even let Xiu'er pretend to be pregnant, so that she could do less housework and be taken care of more.
She has a superficial preference for Xiu'er, but in fact, because Xiu'er is sensible and hard-working, she is distressed that Xiu'er does not have the love of her husband.
It can be seen that she is an empathetic mother-in-law.
In addition, there is a plot in the novel, that is, after the whole family worked together to "resist frost" for the farmland, everyone was very happy, Zhu Kaishan wanted to take several sons out to eat and listen to the play, according to the custom, Zhu Mother and several daughters-in-law stayed at home.
She and her three daughters-in-law said that she was also a lively person, and she also talked about her past with her husband and her husband with her heart and lungs, saying that since she got married, she had never been afraid of her husband Zhu Kaishan and the like, and the reason why she did not rush to catch up with the liveliness now was not to be afraid of him, but to be afraid that he would throw cold faces to his daughters-in-law and make the daughters-in-law unhappy.
Wen Ta's mother-in-law, with her majesty, also takes care of the inner feelings of her daughters-in-law.
When the men in the family were happy to go out to eat, drink and have fun, she also complained that the mothers had been tired for a year but the men could not see. Then he took his daughters-in-law to a feast at home, chatting and eating and drinking, and Na Wen was moved to tears.
In this way, although Mother Zhu is a traditional woman, she is not a woman who has no self to focus on her husband and son in everything, and she will not impose such ideas on her daughters-in-law.
She has her own psychological needs, understands the feelings of her daughters-in-law, and pays heartfelt attention to the psychology and emotions of her daughters-in-law, and her daughters-in-law love and respect her so much.
Third, Mother Zhu did not treat her daughter-in-law harshly in her life.
Once Zhu Chuanwen washed his face, Nawen handed over a piece of soap, Zhu Chuanwen did not recognize it, so he asked where it came from, and Nawen told him that he bought it.
Zhu Chuanwen curiously asked his wife where the money came from, and Nawen replied, "The little body given by the mother-in-law."
In fact, not only Na Wen, but also Xian Er, who had already recognized his daughter.
Mother Zhu is the mistress of the family, and her husband is in charge of the "financial power" of the family.
In this kind of big family, the degree of eating and drinking is all together, and the family will not let the daughters-in-law lack food and clothing, but Zhu Mu can still allocate some pocket money to the daughter-in-law to dispose of alone, which shows the intimate degree of Zhu Mu.
As a mother-in-law, Mother Zhu really knows her daughters-in-law as much as she does about her own daughters.
There is such a mother-in-law in the family, what can the daughter-in-law be picky about, even if there is some small friction, it is harmless.
Because when the mother-in-law does not do it right, she will take the initiative to mediate; when the daughter-in-law does not do well, the mother-in-law also has a tolerant heart.
Therefore, many times, it is not that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with, but that they cannot treat each other sincerely.
In the position of mother-in-law, Mother Zhu still exudes the brilliance of her mother, which is the root of the daughter-in-law's respect for her.
Whether it is the old era in the past, or the current modern society, compared to the young daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law has more life experience and experience, when the daughter-in-law enters the door, with the attitude of the elder, correctly guide the juniors, slowly learn to get along with each other, care for the feelings of the two, rather than misunderstanding and picking each other.
Because no matter what relationship you want to get along with, you need to run into.
The most feared thing about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not to give in to each other, the mother-in-law does not have the great love of the elders, and the daughter-in-law does not have the etiquette of the younger generation, resulting in more and more misunderstandings or dissatisfaction between the two sides.
In fact, the mother-in-law is sincerely dedicated to the daughter-in-law, and with the growth of time, the daughter-in-law will definitely understand.
Therefore, as a mother-in-law, do not envy others to meet a daughter-in-law with a kind heart and a gentle personality, because this must be the mother-in-law with time and sincerity.
When the mother-in-law truly loves her daughter-in-law, even if there is a little contradiction with her daughter-in-law, it is nothing.
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