18 years old for many children is the time of youth, full of spirit, but recently there is such a surprising news, 18-year-old boy about 47 years old lost the foot of the woman bao night rushed to the Internet hot search, which can't help but remind me of the beginning of September, Fudan University three graduate students were expelled from school for soliciting prostitutes, when we see these news feel ridiculous or regretful, it is inevitable that we want to think about the root cause of these events when they occur frequently, so when the hit drama "Xiao Minjia" was broadcast, Among them, the problem of sex education that broke the scale also quickly rushed to the hot search.
First, talk about sexual discoloration
I don't know if you remember the chapter on male and female reproduction in the junior high school biology book, but I believe that your teacher will most likely let you finish reading it yourself. Most of the time we are ashamed to express sex, just as Chinese talk about death, talk about sexual discoloration.
However, do you remember the curiosity of the first time you clicked into the small link in the lower right corner of the page, the panic and confusion when the boy first left his sperm, when he saw the intimate scene of the idol drama, when the fawn collided, everything stimulated your curiosity and drove you to explore the new world at a young age, but you could have been more scientific and more natural to understand, but because we were ashamed to talk about it, you began to become sneaky, until the situation worsened, the parents have not cared.
We grew up in an environment that doesn't talk about sex, is afraid to talk about sex, but is eager to understand sex, covering one eye, but the other eye is always curious.
Second, sex education cannot be delayed
On December 1, World AIDS Day, the Chinese Center for Disease Control and Prevention released the Weekly Report of the Chinese Center for Disease Control and Prevention. A total of 4 studies were published around AIDS, and in the article "Advances in HIV/AIDS Epidemiology Research in Mainland China", it is proposed that by the end of 2020, a total of 1.053 million people in China were infected with HIV, with a cumulative reported death rate of 351,000, and the proportion of heterosexual and homosexual transmission rose from 48.3% and 9.1% in 2009 to 74.2% and 23.3% in 2020, respectively.
The Prospective Study: A Spatial Analysis of AIDS among Adolescents Aged 15-24 Years Out of School (2010-2020) found that there are 4,000 new HIV infections worldwide every day, of which 31% are adolescents aged 15-24 years.
Lack of school-based HIV education and prevention services, out-of-school youth are more likely to be infected with HIV than pupils.
Third, give parents sex education advice
First, avoid premature sexual activity
Children into youth, sex hormone secretion is strong, coupled with the influence of various environmental factors on the child's sexual impulse is a normal phenomenon, parents first of all do not shy to talk about sex, because you do not discuss the child will also find it on their own, but it is better to tell him frankly and guide the child correctly. Tell the child that this is a normal phenomenon of our growth and development, do not feel ashamed, and then the underage should resolutely refuse the occurrence of sexual behavior, is responsible for themselves and responsible for the other party, through the child's conversation to make the child understand the need to master the correct scientific knowledge, but not in favor or encouragement, through the guidance to make the child understand that sexual behavior is not the only way to release the impulse, through exercise, cultivate interest, divert attention can be a good release of sexual impulses. Only when parents are calm, children can seek parental help in time when they encounter problems.
Second, how to contraception and termination of pregnancy
There is always a distance between the ideal and reality, and no matter how much truth is said, it cannot resist the child's impulsiveness. Then teach the child how to effectively contraception and some emergency contraception measures, in order to minimize the harm of the child; when there is no restraint in sexual relations and it is too late to do contraception and get pregnant, go to the hospital as soon as possible for examination, according to the existing medical technology, it is relatively safe to terminate the pregnancy within 3 months, while emphasizing that the child teaches them contraception is not encouragement, but a protective measure for themselves when they can't restrain themselves, it is best not to go to this step.
Third, help children understand the necessary physiological knowledge
Entering puberty, children will have more significant changes in physiology, tell boys why they will lose sperm, why girls will menstruate, why they will have sexual desire; do not be ashamed to talk about masturbation, this troublesome thing, desire is reasonable but can not be excessive, otherwise it will affect their physical and mental health.
Teach them to live with the opposite sex
Entering adolescence, most children will begin to germinate love, which is a normal psychological phenomenon, do not need too much blame, need to do the correct guidance for children, when to bloom what flowers are the most appropriate, so that they will not hurt each other's friendship and will not break through the shackles. Teach children responsibility, responsibility to themselves and responsibility to others; whether to settle down in a small land or to work hard into the ocean.
Fifth, the female avoids the father, and the male avoids the mother
It can be found that many families, when the child enters puberty, there are many parents who still get along with children of the opposite sex as when they were young, such as changing clothes in front of the child, going to the toilet without closing the door, and the mother treating the son as a mother to help him wash his underwear and so on. These behaviors will make the child mistakenly think that this is a normal behavior of contact with the opposite sex to a certain extent, so when the danger comes, the child will not be so keenly aware of the psychology.