Do you know how miserable the life of the door-to-door son-in-law is?
This man's name is Liu Helin, who has been in the family for 32 years, and suddenly one day his temperament has changed dramatically, not only occupying the woman's family's real estate, but also driving the seventy-year-old mother-in-law out of the house, and also saying that his wife wears a green hat for herself.
A door-to-door son-in-law suffered so much humiliation that he finally couldn't bear it anymore and began to take revenge like crazy, and everyone around him said he was crazy. This is the real story that happened in Hunan, will you be on his side after reading it?
Willing to be a door-to-door son-in-law for love, he was bitterly rejected after marriage
Liu Helin, a native of Hubei Province, worked in the same factory as Lan Qiuju in 1990, and the two began to fall in love freely after they met.
Liu Helin is seven years older than Lan Qiuju and has always taken good care of her, and the two have a good relationship.
Until the discussion of marriage, Lan Qiuju suddenly said: "My family is all sisters, there is no male, my mother hopes that I will find a door-to-door son-in-law, are you willing?" ”
When it comes to the door-to-door son-in-law, most men are definitely unwilling, and Liu Helin's first reaction is also unwilling, but Lan Qiuju said that if you don't do the door-to-door son-in-law, you can only break up.
Seeing her resolute attitude, Liu Helin still relaxed. He said to himself: As long as two people love each other, what face does he care about?
Therefore, Liu Helin was willing to compromise and enter the woman's family. Since then, the relationship between the two has been tied to a time bomb, which may explode at any time.
Liu Helin said that life after marriage is simple and happy, Qiu Ju gave birth to a son and a daughter, according to family rules, they all followed the woman's surname "Lan", although he had some mustard in his heart, but he did not regret his choice to enter the money.
But as the days passed, Liu Helin found that his wife was getting more and more excessive.
He said: "I earned my salary of more than 4,000 yuan a month, basically handed over to her, once the most excessive, three months gave me 20 yuan of pocket money." ”
With such a little money on his body, Liu Helin could not raise his head at all in front of outsiders, and what was even more tragic was that his children also looked down on him.
Once, her daughter called to say that her stomach hurt, and Liu Helin was going to pick her up, but his wife would not let him take care of it, but let her sister send her daughter to the hospital.
In this regard, Liu Helin was very angry: "Is the child born to us or was born to you and your sister?" ”
And the next thing that happened made him even more indignant.
When his son, who works as a casual worker in Shenzhen, drove home, Liu Helin learned that his wife had bought a car for his son.
After his wife grasped the economic power, she decided anything without consulting with him, but he was completely unaware of such an important matter as buying a car!
Liu Helin felt like an invisible person, with no status to speak of in this family. He was completely angry and expressed his dissatisfaction to his wife, and the two began to quarrel frequently.
But where is his wife's rival? The wife has 7 sisters, and each person can drown him with a mouthful of spit. In the past, his father-in-law and cousin would help him talk, but they had all died a few years ago, and now he had to fight alone.
Every time there was a quarrel, Liu Helin ended in failure. The most serious one, he was scolded by his wife for no use, and he could only be a door-to-door son-in-law for the rest of his life.
This sentence trampled on the dignity of men, and since then, the feelings of the husband and wife have been completely broken, and they will fight each other when they do not agree, often going to the village committee.
What I never expected was that the village cadres not only failed to alleviate the contradictions, but also intensified the contradictions.
Liu Helin heard his son say that once, the village cadres stayed in his wife's room, the doors and curtains were closed tightly, and they knew what they were doing without thinking about it. Upon learning of this, Liu Helin was furious: I will make a cow and a horse for your family, and you will return me a green hat?
After this, Liu Helin's temperament changed drastically, and he beat people when he did not agree, and also drove his wife and elderly mother-in-law out of the house.
Last year, the wife filed a divorce appeal to the court, Liu Helin resolutely refused, he said: "Divorce is OK, but the house must be half of one person, we have paid for the repair together, 360,000 price, I want 180,000." ”
His wife complained bitterly, and he had broken his front teeth
However, in Lan Qiuju's view, things were not at all what Liu Helin said.
She said that she liked Liu Helin because he had a good personality and would take care of people; but after getting married, Liu Helin exposed his previous bad habits, not only liked to smoke and drink, but also often went out to play cards and gamble, and his monthly salary was so little, he spent most of the money alone.
The reason why Liu Helin was allowed to pay his salary was to avoid him spending money indiscriminately. Lan Qiuju believes that Liu Helin has almost no contribution to the family, so he does not let the children be close to him.
Not only that, Liu Helin's temper is also very grumpy, and he likes to beat people with his hands.
The doors of the house were all smashed by him, leaving a large hole, looking particularly mad; Lan Qiuju could not avoid it, he was beaten all over the body, and even the front teeth were knocked away, and later spent money to make up a denture.
In the days when she lived with Liu Helin, Lan Qiuju often had a blue nose and swollen face, and her body was scaly, and the old mother Wu Qiongfang was angry and quarreled with her son-in-law, and as a result, the son-in-law broke her mouth and scolded, saying that she could not give birth to a son.
Liu Helin is like a changed person when he is in love, moody and very dangerous. Because of this, the mother and daughter fled their house and were forced to rent a house outside.
Regarding the matter of wearing a green hat, Lan Qiuju said angrily, "He is complete nonsense!" ”
At that time, the village cadres came to her home to find her, but only to help mediate, persuade the two to reconcile, and did not close the doors and windows at all, which liu Helin himself said blindly, and deliberately used his son as a shield.
Lan Qiuju and Liu Helin work in the same ceramic factory, and sometimes she and her colleagues help each other to make breakfast, Liu Helin is very jealous when he sees it, and spreads rumors everywhere that they have a leg.
In this regard, the leaders of the ceramic factory can't look down on it, and often ask Liu Helin not to be extreme, not to beat people, at least not to make a fight.
Lan Qiuju said that Liu Helin likes to add oil and vinegar the most, a group of people in life stand together and chat, someone told a joke, once she laughed Liu Helin said that she was interesting to others.
Moreover, Liu Helin also likes to spread rumors everywhere, which has caused her great trouble, and even her innocence is not guaranteed.
Behind this, it is completely Liu Helin's own inferiority psychology that is at work.
Because people have stereotypes of "door-to-door son-in-law", Liu Helin is very worried that others will say that he is incompetent, so his temperament has changed dramatically, trying to get rid of the title of door-to-door son-in-law and firmly grasp the control of the family.
Last year, Lan Qiuju couldn't bear it and filed for divorce, but Liu Helin took a fancy to her family's property and demanded that one person and half of it be.
Lan Qiuju resolutely refused: The house is the property of my parents, why divide you in half?
As a result, the divorce was not resolved, and the two lived separate lives and were deadlocked over the house.
Husband and wife have their own opinions, where should the son-in-law go?
In response to Lan Qiuju's complaints, Liu Helin vigorously defended himself.
He said that he was a diligent man, he had done all kinds of work, and after the previous factory closed, he worked night shifts in the ceramic factory every day, from 3 a.m. to 11 a.m., which was extremely hard.
The wife said that he did not care about the family, it was completely slanderous, and occasionally his daughter asked him for red envelopes, and he was also responsive.
Moreover, he is not deliberately abusive, but the two often clash, without restraint is to beat each other, sometimes the strength is not well controlled, it is inevitable to hurt the wife.
Liu Helin said: "My requirements for life are not high, as long as the family is harmonious and I am satisfied with making a little money." ”
However, in recent years, the wife has run away from home, the children have not obeyed, the family is fragmented, and happiness seems to be out of reach.
Is there only one way to divorce? Is there any possibility that they will be able to rebuild the old ones?
Under the mediation of the reporter, Liu Helin and Lan Qiuju made an appointment for the last time to meet, and the two sat down to calmly discuss the next matter.
But on the agreed day, Liu Helin escaped from the battle.
There were only a few of his clothes hanging at home, but there was no trace of anyone, Lan Qiuju called him, but he said that he had something to do back to Hubei, and he would talk about divorce next time.
Lan Qiuju was very helpless and could only go to the village committee to ask the village cadres to solve the problem.
The village cadre called Liu Helin and asked him if he wanted to get a divorce, and to everyone's surprise, Liu Helin on the phone changed his previous resolute attitude and became fragmented.
It can be seen that in Liu Helin's heart, it is not easy to give up 32 years of marital feelings, and he still does not want to divorce.
Lan Qiuju may also know what he means, and did not force him to come back immediately, but hoped that he could think clearly and decide on divorce after returning.
So Does Lan Qiuju want to divorce herself?
When the reporter asked her a question, Lan Qiuju did not answer positively, recalling decades of time, and two tears fell from the corners of her eyes.
Lan Qiuju said: "After all, we have thirty years of feelings, I still hope that he has a good life and everything is good in the future." ”
At the end of the program, Lan Qiuju and Liu Helin did not make up their minds, and whether to divorce or not needed to be carefully considered.
The reporter also asked the lawyer about the distribution of the house, because the husband and wife had jointly funded the reconstruction of the house, so in the division of this piece, it may be counted as the joint property of the husband and wife.
The love between Lan Qiuju and Liu Helin was originally a good relationship, Liu Helin put down his dignity and was willing to enter the rich, Lan Qiuju also ignored the opposition and fought hard, but unfortunately the final ending was not satisfactory.
Echoed the sentence: "I guessed the beginning, but I didn't expect this ending." ”
Perhaps, years of quarrels have blinded their eyes, making them invisible to each other's efforts and ignoring each other's sincerity. If you can think differently, compare your heart to your heart, blame less, and care more, this marriage should be even better.