The netizen letter said:
Although my parents built me a yard house before I got married, the house could not sell for a few dollars, but it could become my biggest chip when I got married. In this case, I met and married my ex-wife, who was in a town with me, but her home was in the countryside. Because I didn't marry my ex-wife, I had been working in the provincial city, so after we got married, I took my ex-wife to the provincial city.
In our third year of marriage, she got into an affair with a neighbor who rented with us. I didn't choose to forgive my ex-wife for cheating. When we divorced, I chose to leave the house. It meant that the house in the old town was given to the ex-wife. In fact, more than half a year after our divorce, she found a door-to-door son-in-law in town. Because of the involvement of children, when I occasionally go back, I will visit our children at my ex-wife's house.
In the years since, in fact, there have been women who have shown favor to me, especially in the last few years of my successful career, but I will feel that married life is not very attractive to me, rather than arguing about chai rice oil and salt every day, it is better to work hard for my career, and when I am bored, find a few buddies to get drunk.
The funny thing is that when my ex-wife learned that I now had money, she actually came to me with her children to remarry and promised me that as long as I was willing to accept her again, she would immediately go back and divorce her current husband. My feedback to my ex-wife was: 1) I can't look at so many young and beautiful women around me, how can you make me look up to you? 2) The child is my own birth, if you are not willing to let the child live by your side now, you can always send the child back to me. The ex-wife slipped away.
Over the years, I have been in contact with my children, especially after they went to junior high school, and became a resident student in our county town. During this time, I would drive back to see my children, buy them clothes, shoes and pocket money. In the process of interacting with children, I adhere to a principle: never say a word of no to my ex-wife in front of my children.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
In life, there are indeed many people who add flowers, but these people may not be bothered to remember; more often we will remember the people who sent charcoal in the snow, but these people are relatively few, so it seems precious.
At the beginning, you and your ex-wife knew each other, you should not find a marriage partner in the provincial city, so you let your parents help you find a marriage partner in your hometown, which means that your ex-wife is actually your second choice. However, after getting married, you chose to be faithful to the marriage, but your ex-wife chose to spend the heart.
It is not excluded that your ex-wife will have money and become bad after your successful career when she guarantees marital fidelity.
Although you and your ex-wife divorced you, it is you who are hurt, so that in later life you are not willing to get involved in married life, you will feel that married life is a very tiring thing. From this, it can be seen that your ex-wife is a very bad presence in your heart, and eventually kills all your beautiful imagination of marriage.
After you divorced your ex-wife, the reason why you gave the town house to your ex-wife was not because you were kind, but under the circumstances at that time, you did not have the ability to fight for the custody of the child, and you would feel that even if you won the child, your child would grow up with your parents and simply leave the child to your ex-wife; since you left the child to your ex-wife, then you must at least find a place for your ex-wife to live, and at this time the house in your hometown will be the best choice for your ex-wife, because you have no intention of going back to live.
In fact, after your ex-wife divorced you, she did not continue to associate with the man she cheated on, but returned to your hometown town (here is a special reminder that many people have not formed a family reorganization with their lovers after they came out of the besieged city). At this time, she found an honest man to be a door-to-door son-in-law.
After that, except for the occasional visit to your children when you come home every year to visit your parents, there will be little contact between you and your ex-wife.
In recent years, your career has come to fruition, and our country's transportation and communications have changed dramatically, so it has become easier to meet someone. Especially after your child goes to middle school, when you are not busy at work, you will drive to your child's school and cultivate a relationship with your child. Perhaps, you will also have such a thought in your heart: you are not willing to walk into the siege again, then the child will be your last spiritual pillar. Therefore, you are willing to prove your ability to work, in order to pave a relatively bright future for your children, so that you will work harder at work, of course, so that you can live a more decent life now.
It may be that when people are in their twenties, the understanding of love will be a scene, but after the age of forty, people may begin to plan their lives after the age of sixty, at this time, the understanding of love will be another scene. So that after the age of forty, people will pay special attention to the importance of inheritance. During this period, there will be some people who insist on not getting married, and those who maintain Dink after marriage, the vast majority of whom regret it, but they can't say it.
Here, I would like to remind all young people that in your twenties, those who give you support for not getting married or buying a house may make you feel good for a while, but it is likely to have a killing effect; or they can only be open-minded in the world of other people's children, and they will still ask for traditional routes for their own children. Here's a digression: A certain lady, when asked about her views on homosexuality, she said that as long as it is true love, gender should not be an obstacle. Then ask the lady, how would you feel if you found out that your son was gay? The lady's answer was that my son was not gay and was married. Regarding the lady's answer, you savor it.
Editor's Note:
Couples are inherently cooperative, because the two people who end up holding hands in marriage may not be the one they love the most, or just the one who is best for them at the marriageable age. Therefore, in married life, everyone must do their best to maintain this contract. Especially after having children, you have to shoulder the responsibilities of being a father or mother. Once you have acted out in the marriage, you are messing around, eating lazily, and thinking differently, you may be able to exchange for the collapse of the marriage.
You can be shrewd, but the heart and eyes cannot be broken. Unfortunately, when many people are clever, they have already imagined everyone around them as fools. The point is, the other person is not stupid. Sometimes, the other person is reluctant to tear your face off, or feels unnecessary, or feels unworthy. However, once you touch the core interests or bottom line of the other party, then please do not blame the other party for turning the other cheek and not recognizing people.
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