Confinement, is the postpartum novice mother physical and mental recovery time, experience pregnancy to smooth delivery, the mother's body will undergo strong and sharp changes, hormones and hormones will also make the psychology become very sensitive, fragile, for women, is a transformation and sublimation process, this process is very important, so to spend well, otherwise it may affect the future life.
In this way, how to confinement becomes very important.
Nowadays, there are many ways to choose from confinement, but one thing that is recommended is to let the elderly take care of them at home.
There are many trifles in the month, the mood of the mother is fluctuating, and the responsibility of the person who takes care of the mother is also large, coupled with the feeding conflict between the two generations, so many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law feuds are formed in the month.
When I was 5 months pregnant, because my in-laws were out of town, my husband was a soldier, I had been living in my mother's house since I got married, and my mother and mother-in-law were still working and did not retire, so I decided to choose the confinement center.
Of course, before this I also met a few confinement sisters-in-law, does not mean that the confinement is not good, but my conditions may be more suitable for the confinement center, because the first month sister-in-law to live at home, I am more disgusted with the fact that there are outsiders in the family; the second month sister-in-law also has to have a family member at home to help purchase, my family does not have this condition of the candidate; the third month center does not allow too many people to visit, can let me rest quietly, I do not like to receive relatives at home, reducing my a lot of trouble.
However, I didn't know anything about the confinement center, so I had to do my homework in advance.
Homework can not be done in vain, below I share my own experience to the sisters who want to have a baby for reference, I hope that every expectant mother can find a suitable way to confinement.
Confinement Center
merit:
Can provide professional services for postpartum mothers, there are nutritionists responsible for the mother's three meals and three points, a wide variety, nutritional medicinal diet, to help the mother recover as soon as possible, the sister-in-law to teach feeding knowledge, auxiliary feeding, and another professional nurse to take care of the baby. For example, I was in the confinement center, and I learned about my tastes before moving in, and customized the recipes according to personal preferences. Help with milk opening, assisted feeding, provision of feeding tools. Daily baby SPA, swimming and early education, yoga classes for maternal restoration, mood-liberating handicraft classes, flower arrangement classes, and individual dialogues and psychological counseling by psychologists during confinement.
shortcoming:
The price of the confinement center is generally high, compared to the confinement, the price of the confinement center for 28 days can invite a gold medal confinement sister-in-law for at least 3 months.
Everyone is still mainly concerned about the benefits of the confinement center:
1, in the confinement center, pregnant women can enjoy more scientific and reasonable, healthier and more professional postpartum care
Daily doctor rounds can make the recovery of the mother understand, and the changes in the body during the puerperal period can be improved in time, so that the body and reproductive organs can be restored intact. More importantly, it can reduce family conflicts and dilute the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or mother-daughter. At the beginning of the care of children, there are inevitably differences, with professional guidance, not only the child gets professional care, the mother's postpartum recovery and other issues can also be taken into account, but also to avoid trouble, but also a lot of success.
2, new mothers can learn how to take care of their newborn
The confinement center's courses can help inexperienced new mothers to seize the time to learn to bathe and feed their babies reasonably, and to develop practical application techniques such as infant potential early.
Everything is perfect, the disadvantage of the confinement center is that the environment and comfort are different from the home, especially when the mood is unstable, the confinement center will be homesick after a long time. After coming out of the confinement center, everyone is still busy with work, taking care of the baby alone, the huge gap will really be on the verge of collapse, to be mentally prepared in advance, the confinement center is just to give the novice mother a learning process, rest enough, but also have to face it yourself. Mom is a chore, after enjoying the confinement, you have to be your own sister-in-law.
Sister-in-law
Specializing in the three meals of the mother, giving the mother guidance to take care of the newborn's artistic living, as a family helper. She is different from the live-in nanny and the childcare sister-in-law.
The sister-in-law's coming to the house does reduce the burden on the mother, and the mother can rest in peace, which is no different from the confinement center, but there are other people in the family to cooperate with the work of the sister-in-law, purchase ingredients to clean and so on, and also have a separate room for the sister-in-law. In comparison, the burden on the family has not decreased.
The most important point is that the quality of the moon sister-in-law is uneven now, we can not define what the standard of the gold medal sister-in-law is, nor can we judge whether the good moon sister-in-law in other people is suitable for our family situation, and it is difficult to find a satisfactory one.
Similarly, after the sister-in-law leaves, you must also go through a process of adaptation, take care of the children by yourself, and do not rely too much on the sister-in-law, otherwise her departure will also make you overwhelmed.
The confinement sister-in-law will guide the mother to do some healthy restorative behaviors; the confinement center will have some postpartum repair projects or equipment. However, because the confinement is on fire, health safety and personnel professionalism are not guaranteed, and many people complain that the confinement center has a high fee, the health is not up to standard, and the personnel are not fixed.
The country has no standardized management, the entry threshold of the confinement market is low, the professionalism of the confinement is not high, leaving a hidden danger of safety; on the other hand, the entry threshold of the confinement is low, the quality of personnel is generally not high, it is difficult to distinguish, we need to investigate from many parties to sit well in the confinement.
The amplification of the confinement problem falls on the individual mother, which turns the single question of confinement into a multiple-choice question, adding a lot of uncertainty.
It is very difficult for women to experience a birth, and confinement is even more of an ordeal, choosing a way that suits them, happily welcoming a new identity, and learning how to be a new mother in the process.
In fact, whether it is a woman or a mother, we don't want much, but we need a little more space, a little more understanding, a little more tolerance, giving birth to a child is like passing through the ghost door, that confinement is to climb a mountain with postpartum depression, the process of climbing over may be difficult, will be painful. But work hard to get past it, and you'll see a better version of yourself.
After experiencing the days of pregnancy in October and the painful struggle of childbirth, being able to have their own free time after the birth of the child, in comfort, under the guidance of professionals, quiet recuperation, will make people enter the identity of mother faster.
What's more, behind today's increase in postpartum depression is a reflection of the fact that moms themselves have undergone a dramatic change.
The confinement center and the confinement sister-in-law are short-lived so that mothers can get enough support, understanding and help.
Go or not to go to the confinement center, please do not invite the confinement sister-in-law, are their own choice of lifestyle, suitable for their own, is the best.
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