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A friend of mine recently told me that she had a very troubled affair.
She is now more than 8 months pregnant, and some time ago her mother-in-law said that she would not take care of her, and gave her 50,000 yuan to go to the confinement center or ask for a month of sister-in-law.
When her mother knew, she said, why give this money to outsiders, give her the money, she comes to take care of the confinement. Friends think that this is not very good, but her mother has always said her, said that living in the confinement center where there is a convenient home, please confinement sister-in-law an outsider who has her dedication, this money to her, she will definitely do her best to take care of the confinement.
Friends think about this is also the truth, money to the mother, the mother has an income, take care of more dedicated, their own confinement period is more worry-free, it can be said that killing two birds with one stone.
After listening to my friend's words, I quickly persuaded her to dispel this idea. "Your mother can't figure it out, don't be confused." Once you really agree with your mother's approach, your mother-in-law knows, absolutely will be very angry, the attitude towards you and your mother is absolutely different, quarrels are inevitable, and family conflicts are buried. ”
Many women who are unhappy in marriage definitely have an ignorant mother behind them
Although whether a woman is happy after marriage is related to a variety of factors. The most important thing is to see what kind of person to marry and what kind of in-laws you meet. There is nothing wrong with this, meeting a good husband and in-laws can reduce the suffering of life by half.
However, whether a woman is happy or not is also related to her mother's family, especially her mother. A wise and reasonable mother will make her daughter's marriage icing on the cake, while those mothers who will only mix will make her daughter's marriage full of contradictions.
There is no doubt that the friend's mother is the latter, the friend's mother-in-law is not bad, knows that she is not well taken care of, is willing to pay for the friend to get the care of professionals, and avoids the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family conflict, and has her own face. But my friend's mother is a bit blind, the pattern is too small, and she wants to calculate when she sees the money.
Yes, this money is also earned by others, and it is safe for their own mother to take care of it and rest assured why they can't make this money. Because this money can be earned by anyone else, that is, the mother cannot earn it, and the mother who wants to earn is to push her daughter into the fire pit. The mother-in-law pays for the mother and the child, that is to say, part of the money is spent on the mother, and part of it is spent on the child.
The mother directly wants to take this money, which means that the child's money is also given to the mother-in-law's family, which mother-in-law can not be angry? Please a professional sister-in-law does not need fifty thousand, but also use to invite the mother-in-law?
Moreover, this makes the in-laws pay for it. The mother knows that it is the mother who takes the money given by the mother-in-law to take care of herself. But other people don't know, seeing that during the confinement period, it is the mother-in-law who takes care of it, and in his heart, he will feel that the in-laws really can't be a person, really cut, even the daughter-in-law does not care about the confinement, but will feel that the mother still hurts the daughter. The mother-in-law has out of fifty thousand pieces, which are not good inside and out, and the benefits are all for the mother to get. Didn't this mother succeed in provoking the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
In addition, during the care of the mother, it may not be busy alone. At that time, the daughter may dislike the mother's poor care, the mother feels that the daughter is pretentious, and she will also feel that the in-laws have nothing to do with the money, and the last few parties have complaints in their hearts, and the family war is about to break out.
【Topic Discussion: Do you think that friends and mothers are cheap in this way?】 】
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