In the movie "Witch House Rush", there is such a line:
"Don't rely too much on anyone in this world, because when you struggle in the darkness, even your shadow will leave you."
Oh, yes! In our lives, the most unreliable thing is to rely on others, that is to say, not to be too sensitive, to feel that your position in the other person's heart is the highest, and not to feel that you have no status in the other person's heart.
After all, the sense of security you want needs to be earned yourself, not fulfilled by someone else. Instead of relying on others to give you a sense of security and shield you from the wind and rain, it is better to strengthen yourself so that no matter what problems you encounter in life, you can solve it.
It is as if there is a change of four hours, the seasons have reincarnation, and after the harsh winter is a warm spring, which is in line with the law of natural development, in our lives, we also need to know that if we want to make our lives happy and happy, we need to master our own laws. Instead of following in the footsteps of others.
It's as if there's a happiness formula in economics: "Happiness = utility/expectation." ”
That is to say, the smaller my mother's expectations in a relationship, the easier it is to be happy. Simply put, the greater the utility and the smaller the expectations, the more we will feel happy.
I have watched a TV series "I am good in other places" before, which has a line in it, which is Ji Nanjia's monologue: "What is the sense of security?" Security should be a kind of belief, believing that you have the ability to withstand any wind and waves, believing in the so-called sense of security, only you can give yourself. ”
Indeed, in this world, except for yourself, what others give is unstable, because when the other party does not want to give you, he can always take back his contribution to you.
But if you get it yourself, then these things are something that no one else can ever take away. After all, what others can help you with can only be temporary. As the saying goes, "The mountain will fall, and everyone will run." ”
I remember reading such a fable story "The Donkey Who Fell into the Trap":
Once upon a time, a donkey accidentally fell into an abandoned trap and could not climb up. The owner weighed it up, the donkey was too old, thought it was not worth it to save it, so he chose to give it up and leave. Only the donkey is left alone in this.
The donkey has been stuck in the trap ever since. Every day with garbage. At first, it also gave up hope of survival and lay in a trap waiting to die. Let the garbage be dumped on your side.
But one day it suddenly regained its strength, and it didn't want to die. It decided to change its current situation. So the old donkey began to stomp on the garbage at his feet every day. And look for something in the garbage to eat to keep you alive.
Finally, the garbage got higher and higher, and finally one day it was back on the ground.
Therefore, most of the time in our lives, we need to face it ourselves, and only in this way can we have the ability to resist the storm.
It's like when we're at a low point, even if others want to help you, you can't get out. Always thinking about waiting for someone to help you, and you don't do anything. Then the result can only be a failure.
Because you never realize what we need to do in times of low, in times of difficulty in life. Know that the people who can get through the difficulties rely on ourselves.
No matter how much others say, we ourselves can't understand it clearly, and there is nothing we can do about it. As someone said, "It is better to ask others than to ask for yourself." In this world, there are only two things that others can't take away, one is the knowledge they have acquired, and the other is the ability they have acquired. ”
In short, in our lives, we must remember that the only thing that people have to rely on in the end can be themselves. Believe that everything goes back in time.
Remember, the sense of security of adults depends not on others, but on themselves. At the same time, remember never expect too much from others. Because once the expectations are disappointed, then the sense of gap is great. And to hand over one's destiny to others is, in essence, a denial of oneself.
Instead of expecting others, it is better to rely on yourself, which is the real confidence of life.
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