Winter vacation, sow an action, harvest a habit; sow a habit, harvest a character; sow a character, harvest a destiny.
When you are young, you cultivate habits for your child, and when you grow up, it is habits that affect his life.
Good habits are the capital stored in the human nervous system, which will continue to grow and grow, and a person can enjoy its interest for the rest of his life.
Bad habits are morally unpaid debts that can toss people around with ever-increasing interest rates. Make his best initiative fail and lead him to the point of moral bankruptcy.
Develop good habits by addition, and correct bad habits with subtraction. It only takes 21 days to form a habit, and the key is in the first three days.
Habits are the result of a long-term persistence in behavior, and behavioral psychology research shows that repetition over 21 days will form habits.
Bad habits only take 21 days, but it takes 2 times, 3 times, or even more time to correct a bad habit, and we don't have to worry about this.
So, what good habits do our children need to develop?
(1) Being a human being
1. Filial piety and love for the family. This love should be expressed not only in politeness, but also in action. Only by learning to love the people around you will you love your hometown and the motherland.
2, honest, do not lie. The way to be a person, integrity-based. Children can lie to others now and lie to you in the future. Children who lie are difficult to save.
Children lie for two main reasons: first, to be punished for telling the truth; and second, to escape from difficult situations. Children's lying and cheating are often forced out by adults.
So, facing children, we need more patience and listening.
3. Work conscientiously and responsibly. Chairman Mao once said: "I am only afraid of the word 'seriousness' in everything!" It can be seen that everything is serious and will be able to do it well, which is the premise of success.
4. Self-confidence, optimism. Experiencing success is the best way to develop self-confidence. Failure is the mother of success, but success is the mother of success, repeated success can stimulate children's self-confidence, so that children believe that they can do it.
Parents should help their children succeed, motivate and encourage them in their failures, not denigrate them.
Education is not a blind praise, and education without punishment is incomplete education. Be sure to punish him with useful methods and make him responsible for his own consequences.
(2) Doing things
1. Abide by the rules. There are no rules and no squares.
2, pay attention to efficiency. The child may be young now, there is no concept of time, but we should instill this concept in him, such as reasonable arrangement of time, getting up in the morning, brushing teeth, washing face, homework at night and many other things for children, can be quantified with time, give the child a concept of time, and develop a good habit of cherishing time from an early age.
3. Friendly cooperation. Today's children are mostly stars and moons in the home, and there are 4 or 6 people in the family around him alone.
This is bound to lead to children easy to develop a lot of bad problems, they need to cooperate with peers, including learning, games, children may still listen to the teacher, listen to the parents, but after the age of 10, he gradually has his own ideas, he is no longer so listening to the words of teachers and parents, he listens more to classmates, peers.
Being friendly with peers is also an important ability in modern society.
4. Reasonable consumption. Our children are closely related to consumption every day, and we must let our children develop the habit of reasonable consumption from an early age.
For example, the use of pencils, erasers and other stationery needs to be cherished, and it is a serious waste to litter and discard, and parents should be affectionate with their children and understand it.
(3) Learning
1. Focus. A child who is attentive in class must be a child with good grades, which is what we call concentration. Now when the first grade is home learning, parents can accompany him, do not let him move around at will, do not disturb him at will, and give him a quiet and comfortable learning environment.
2. Think independently. What the child can't do, he asks you, you can tell him, but you can't have to ask, otherwise he doesn't know what thinking is.
3. Work seriously. Be sure to check your child's own homework. Check it yourself and write it once is equivalent to doing it twice. Do your homework like an exam. After grasping the class and homework, I think good grades are not far from the child.
4. Fall in love with reading. A person's spiritual history is a person's reading history, ideas come from reading, and people's improvement in various fields is inseparable from reading, including all kinds of learning. Because reading enhances comprehension, comprehension enhances intelligence.
There are three effective ways to make your child fall in love with reading:
1, hear the eye, the child is the shadow of the parents. Parents read more, and children read more. Because children grow up in imitation, children's learning is observational learning. He believes that what adults do is a good thing. If parents want to develop the habit of reading in their children, one of the easiest ways is to read books yourself.
In fact, not only reading, all aspects of life and learning, children are observing you, imitating you, he is your shadow, and even the tone of speech and walking posture are the same. The power of example is infinite.
2. Create a reading atmosphere at home. Put some small picture books, small magazines and the like at home, beautiful, in the child's bedside, on the table, on the sofa, there must be books.
It is very important to often discuss books with children, discuss the experience of reading, and use environmental influences to influence children.
The child does not read books as planned as in class, he often gets the book in a very accidental state, suddenly interested, picks up the book, as long as he picks it up, he can't put it down.
3. Often take children to the bookstore, which is also a practice to cultivate children's reading habits.
Parents, cultivating good habits for children is a compulsory course that will affect his life!
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