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"I never imagined that after we had a fight, he would actually take a knife to me."
While Miao Miao was talking about the thrilling experience after the quarrel with her boyfriend last night, her eyes were unconsciously red.
She had never imagined that the big boy who loved himself and was willing to spoil her would turn the tip of his knife at her with a fierce spirit, and shout with red eyes that he wanted to kill her.
The cause of the matter is that two people have begun a normal quarrel between lovers because they have not said a word together.
And Miao Miao's angry words about breaking up if they couldn't do it stimulated him.
Miao Miao said that she will never forget, he held up the knife to himself, and shouted that if you don't stay with me, I will ruin your appearance.
How did a good person become like this?
She just wanted to be in a relationship and didn't want to pay the price of her life.
Coincidentally, Miao Miao's experience reminds me of a previous friend, she and Miao Miao, at the beginning of the relationship, the boyfriend was excellent to her, almost obedient, except for the occasional mood is a little grumpy, but flawed.
So she naturally accepted his proposal and married him.
But what I never expected was that after marriage, the double torture of spirit and body began.
This man, who was still in a good mood before marriage, began to erupt after marriage, and when he was slightly unhappy, he scolded her, even did not let her go out, restricted her social interaction, and treated her like a patient.
After she gave birth to the child, she became even more intense, and as long as the two people quarreled, they took a knife and shouted to kill her.
The large and small scars on her body have never been broken, sometimes they are cut by fruit knives, sometimes they are smashed by ashtrays, anyway, when the other party is angry, what is on hand will be used as a weapon to attack her.
But afterwards he would repent, he would apologize, and he would fall to his knees and cry.
And it was because of her softness and connivance again and again that she couldn't leave him, couldn't save herself from the quagmire, until she fell deeper and deeper.
02
Two days ago, there was such a news on Weibo hot search, at that time, the comment area was full of jokes.
However, thinking about what Miao Miao and my friend were going through, this news made me think about it with great fear.
The news said that a couple in Changsha said that they had cheated on each other and were violent, and they had called the police many times because of emotional disputes.
And the reason for each time calling the police is to claim that he has been threatened, beaten, pestered, and personally injured by the other party.
Due to the large number of alarms and the fact that the two men insisted on their own opinions at the police station, the police had to play fifty boards each, criticize education, and hope that the two people would no longer make trouble.
However, two people who are still in love, if they continue to entangle, what will happen, really dare not think deeply.
And the reason why this mutually tormenting feeling should continue may be that one of the parties is not willing to let go at all.
Imagine, who can withstand the threat of breaking up and killing you? Whoever hears such a threat will not be afraid and will not compromise.
What's even more frightening is that some people actually do things like this.
I remember reading a report in the past where a murderer killed a six-year-old child and confessed to his crime of deliberately harming the lives of others.
Even though he had stood in court for trial, he still insisted that he did not regret killing people.
According to his own confession, his girlfriend proposed to him to break up without his consent, and after the breakup, he was angry and rushed to the woman's house several times to try to take revenge, but he did not find a girlfriend.
The girlfriend's family, fearing his revenge, sent her to another city early.
They thought that it would be good to wait for him to calm down after a while, but they never expected that this behavior would arouse the hatred in this man's heart.
He felt that the woman's family was the accomplice who caused his breakup, and he had to give them some color to see.
So he stayed where his girlfriend and nephew had to go on their way out of school and brutally murdered their six-year-old child.
Even he said triumphantly in court, look, let her run, I will make her live for the rest of her life.
Where is the man, it is simply a demon.
03
Obviously, it is just a love affair, but there are always some people who regard each other as their own private goods, and do not allow the other party to have any of their own thoughts and emotions.
Obviously, it is a joyful walk into the temple of marriage, but who would have thought of walking in, or it could be a terrible hell.
Obviously, he is a lover who is as warm as jade, but in the blink of an eye, he has become a devil with green faces and fangs.
The initiators of all this seem to be out of control in extreme situations, and perhaps many people will say that both people must be at fault, after all, a slap can't make a sound.
But no matter how wrong you are, no matter how wrong you say, you should not be treated violently, and you should not bear the cost of losing your life.
The tearful apology afterwards does not offset the real harm done at the previous moment, not to mention that some people do not know how to repent until they die.
A warm love, talked about a thriller suspense drama, how powerful psychology, can withstand the other party every day at home to stage a realistic version of "Don't Talk to Strangers".
So, all we can do is stay away, away from these emotionally unstable, easy to go to extremes, and not put ourselves in a potentially dangerous situation.
The so-called emotional loss of control is just synonymous with selfishness.
If you don't conform to my heart and fail to meet my requirements, then I will lose control of my emotions, and I will clamor to kill you, but any adult with a normal brain cannot do such a thing.
A person who thinks about others will not easily lose control of his emotions, because he will be sad, he will blame himself, he will regret why he brought bad emotions to others, and he will wonder if it will affect others.
And a selfish person, unscrupulously venting his anger, he does not care, does not care what others think, as long as he is cool, other casual.
A person who is willing to think about others cannot do such a thing as hurting the person he loves.
So, whether in love or marriage, please be with someone who is emotionally stable.
If you find something wrong in the process of getting along, or if there is something on the other party that makes you feel uncomfortable, you must think carefully and know how to stop the loss in time if necessary.
Draw your own bottom line and don't feel that as long as he loves me, everything is a small thing.
Love will fade or even disappear over time, good times naturally hello I am good everyone, then what if there is a problem with the feelings of two people?
For a long time, the quality of the other party is very important.
Again, to get along with a person, it depends on the lowest point of his character.
Otherwise, it's true that he loves you and he wants to ruin you, and it's also true.
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