A post-95 female colleague, who has lived with her boyfriend for 3 years, recently mentioned marriage to her boyfriend, and her boyfriend replied: Oh, I'm sorry, I never thought I wanted to get married.
The female colleague looked confused: So in the past few years, it has been lonely to fall in love? The boyfriend added a knife: at the beginning, I didn't say that I took marriage as the premise, why do we have to get married when we live so well?
Nowadays, the cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, there are fewer high-quality boys, and the "willingness to marry" is even lower for many years, and it is becoming less and less active in talking about marriage.
As a girl, how can you arouse the "desire to marry" of boys? There is still some way to do it
At the beginning of the Japanese drama "Long Holiday", on the day of the heroine's wedding, the groom ran away, leaving a note saying:
"Dear Xiaonan, I am in love with someone else, she is a girl who will not live without me, and you alone can live forever." So I chose to be with her. And your marriage contract, as if it never happened. ”
The heroine said angrily, "Everlasting? Am I a turtle? ”
A boy will want to be intimate with a girl because of her appearance, but if he has the desire to marry her, it is often because he is "dependent on and needed by the other party".
Physical desires and emotional protective desires are not the same.
You may be thinking, so why are many boys criticizing girls for making too many achievements now? What is the reason for this?
Honey, feelings are not buying and selling business, your way is wrong.
You have to rely on a boy appropriately, let him feel that you need him very much, feel that all his efforts are very useful, but you never take the initiative to paste it, let alone take the initiative to ask for it, so as to harvest the other party's desire to protect.
You look at the girls around you who have a good relationship with the opposite sex, which one is not making a soft and weak look that needs protection, but the mouth says some very sensible lines all day long, "Will it bother you too much"?
At this time, the boy stepped forward: "No, please let me help you!" "Boys like this kind of girl, and they are itchy to the heart, and they are eager to marry and take care of it."
If you are righteous, while making demands on boys, you also morally kidnap, "Are you a man?" "The boy will only pinch his nose and throw it away: pastoral feminism is so terrible."
Here's another tip: to ask a person for a payoff, you have to reach just enough to reach the tipping point of all that person can afford, or just over a little.
A boy with 1 million savings, you hint that you need to buy a 100,000 bag, he immediately squints his eyes at you: Oh, the gold worshipper.
But if this bag costs only two thousand pieces, he will buy it upside down and give you a courtesy. If you express exaggerated joy and gratitude when you receive a gift, he will reap a full sense of accomplishment and will actively create a sense of ceremony next time.
Of course, you may feel that you are an independent woman, and even have to eat a meal with a boy AA, let alone accept gifts from boys.
This is not right, you act that you don't need this guy at all, he will stay away from you. You acted demanding and righteous, and he ran away with his nose pinched.
In short, if you want to hold a boy's heart, or even make him want to marry you, you must grasp the "degree" of dependence and demand.
Always remember: people are gradually in love with a person because they have paid. This is the basic logic of love.
The same is the beautiful girls, some obviously have no boyfriend, eager to fall in love, but from head to toe exude a high cold temperament that rejects people thousands of miles away, so that boys are discouraged; some make boys eager to try, willing to be a spare tire for thousands of years, and have no regrets.
On the one hand, it is because of the temperament, on the other hand, it is because of the personality.
Among female celebrities, such as Tong Liya, Gao Yuanyuan, Rimi Ishihara, and Yui Niigaki, these all belong to the type of "having a fiancée's face", and straight men want to call their wives at first glance.
If you look closely, you will find that their looks, completely unrelated to the so-called "senior model faces", belong to: harmless, gentle and sweet, do not look strong at all, not aggressive, and intuitively very easy to get along with.
There is also a type of girl, from looks, dress to temperament are particularly sexy, and boys look at girls are very preconceived, a look like you are like a nightclub café, will never list you as a potential marriage partner.
The so-called "I smoke and drink tattoos, but I know I'm a good girl" is something that boys don't understand.
They don't care how "inconsistent" you are, they are single-celled creatures in the relationship, they look at the opposite sex only at the surface. Green tea abused me a thousand times, and I treated green tea like my first love.
If you look like Tong Liya, even if you are actually a female sea king, he still thinks that you are pure and cute. If you knife mouth tofu heart, how much you pay he does not pay, will still feel that you are a woman.
What they want is pure appearance and temperament, which makes them instinctively feel very safe.
And, of course, character. Your personality must also be matched with this to make the boy feel safe.
What is a "sense of security"? It is you, the girl, your looks, your personality, let him think that you must be virtuous, easy to get along with, not demanding, easy to satisfy, and the most important thing must be dedicated to feelings.
Males are visual animals, and their observations of the opposite sex often stay only superficial. The so-called "I smoke and drink tattoos, but I know I'm a good girl." "I'm sorry, in the eyes of boys, your smoking and drinking tattoos are not good enough."
They can't see the essence of your good girl through the appearance of your bad girl, just as you can't see a guy's fresh teenage temperament through his greasy appearance.
Therefore, in the matter of finding a partner, we can never ignore the "superficial kung fu", including dressing, words and deeds. Give the boys more "security" than expected, and they will want to marry you.