Recently saw a video that restored the daily life of a mother with a baby alone, and many mothers said: After watching it, it will really break down in tears...
Although the video is composed of Korean, it does not affect the viewing at all, I believe that every mother can understand the helplessness and hardship of this mother.
▲ Nuo big house, the mother goes to the toilet, the child is crying outside, helpless to let the child in, really there is no time to go to the toilet.
▲ I want to eat while the child is asleep, and the child is awake again, so he can only eat a little while coaxing the child
▲ Holding the child for a long time, the wrist is sore, and I have to apply plaster
▲ Mother's clothes, always do not know when to get stains, in the strange sun of passers-by, mother can only be embarrassed to cover the stains
▲ The child is sick, the father is out socializing, the mother is anxious and does not know what to do, and finally went to the hospital alone with the child
▲ It was hard to get home, the wife was waiting for her husband to come home, but the husband sent a text message to his wife: I am not coming back tonight. At this time, the wife finally broke down and cried...
Although the ZME Science Network has previously released a scientific research news that makes the majority of women feel frightened: having children makes women's accelerated aging more than smoking or obesity, and this value can reach 11 years.
But seeing this video, have you ever felt that what makes women old is not to have children, but to raise children!
In "I Am an Orator", the host Martin once told the story of him and his wife
Within a month of giving birth to his daughter, his wife, without knowing why, suddenly changed from a very virtuous wife to an unreasonable shrew.
One night, Martin hid in his study and used his computer to play warcraft, stopping and stopping. The wife suddenly came in, saw that he was playing a game, did not fight a place, directly brought a bowl of crucian carp soup, even the soup bowl down on the computer.
Martin was anxious and said: "You are sick, can you not make a fool of yourself, so many mothers have sat in confinement, why are you like this, do you not want to live." ”
The wife said angrily: "I just don't want to go through, divorce." Martin was also very angry, "Leave! ”
At this time, my wife sent a message again: "Can you accompany me to take the child for a day, what I do, you can do, just one day!" Martin thought about it, agreed, and began to "take the baby" with his wife.
At this time, Martin learned that the child had to be fed every two hours.
During the day it was fine, and at night his wife nursed, and he was awake. After feeding, we slept together, slept for less than an hour, the child cried, woke you up, and had to be fed again, and not only did they have to feed, but they also had to change diapers. When the child is crying, you still have to coax her, and after the coaxing is over, forty minutes have passed. Then you sleep again. You've slept for twenty minutes, and you're going to wake up again, and you're going to feed again.
Within a full day, Martin was on the verge of collapse. "What a day this is!"
His wife said to him calmly, "Do you know why I'm okay with throwing a tantrum at you?" If you live like me every day, you'll be fine throwing tantrums at me. ”
Martin understood in his heart that being a mother is really hard.
When mom is restless, she can't go out and be quiet like dad.
When mom was exhausted, she couldn't lie in bed like Dad and rest.
When the mother is sick and uncomfortable, she cannot raise it like the father, and the child immediately raises the twelve points of spirit when he cries.
Tired to the point of resentment, I want to lose my temper when I see everything.
When you become a mother, you will understand one word: dilemma.
The child is sick, thin, and black, and the family accuses you of not looking good. The child watches TV and the family says you are too indulgent. Don't let the child watch TV, the family said that the child is still so young to watch TV is fine.
There is a conflict with the mother-in-law, and everyone says that it is not an obligation for the old man to help you with the baby, and you must be grateful.
It seems that the child is born to the mother alone, tired and tired should be, the family to help with the child mother must be grateful to Dade.
When she had a conflict with her husband, her family accused her of not understanding her husband, and he went in the wind and rain outside, which was very hard. But when a woman chose her family and children and gave up her career, no one said it was a sacrifice.
A female friend of mine, because of a business trip, the child let the mother-in-law and husband take it for a few days. As a result, the child fell ill and was not sent to the hospital in time, almost causing a catastrophe. After returning, I was accused by everyone of being a mother, and when I became a mother, I had to focus on my baby, and my career was secondary.
Later, she gave up her good position and returned home, single-mindedly taking care of the children, but life was also strained, and her husband and mother-in-law even accused her of not going out to work.
Many mothers have survived the death of having a child but have not survived postpartum depression, and they have survived postpartum depression but have not survived worldly repression.
Writer Tang Xiao novel good:
It's so hard to be a mom, it's not right for you not to take your children for work, it's not right to just take your children and not work. It's not right for you to ask your family to help with your children, and it's not right for you to take care of your own work with your children. The mother that this society needs is not only able to earn millions of dollars a year, but also to be able to bring a baby alone, to have a second child, and to manage the marriage happily and satisfactorily. But Mom is a human being, not a god. Please give moms a little more tolerance.
Really don't let the child's mother, while the body is tired, and then exhausted, no one can withstand such pressure.
They do not understand prenatal depression, postpartum depression, only know that "all women do", and even, they will accuse their wives of poor temper, more and more do not like to dress themselves, become yellow-faced women.
But what woman under the heavens doesn't love beauty? It's just that I was born more family-oriented.
If you really love your wife, please first help her bear the tedious work of buying vegetables and cooking, the tossing of feeding and changing diapers, and the bits and pieces of sweeping and mopping! You tell me?
Raising children and supporting a family is never easy, the man wants to make money to support the family, the woman has to take on more life chores, one tired body, one tired heart. But in any case, please understand each other at any time, communicate with each other more, and don't forget your original intention of wanting to spend your life together. Only when you can find a better way to get along will you be more positive about your child's growth.
Life is not easy, and it is good and cherished, but the good thing is that we are all there.