In recent years, the sky-high price of the bride price has been rumored to be very popular, and there have also been rankings of the bride price in various places. In fact, there is nothing wrong with the bride price,
It's just that the problem appears on the word sky-high price, probably for most ordinary people, parents struggle for half a lifetime, sons get married, and return to the pre-liberation period.
Some people say that in this lifetime, people have two destinations, and they struggle for a lifetime, one for marriage and one for their destiny after death.
It can be seen that their cost is huge.
Whether it is a blind date or a free love, many people will fall apart because of the bride price.
So, today we will talk about the event that the bride gets off the bus to add the car ceremony, the groom shakes his head and leaves, leaving the bride behind.
01, the origin of the matter
The two are free to fall in love, and the bride's family is in a foreign country, which can be said to be far away from Suzhou. After falling in love with the groom, the two sides met their parents, because the bride rented a house alone, and had to pay the monthly rent, and now the boyfriend's parents also met, and the bride agreed to the groom's request to live together.
It wasn't long before the bride became pregnant, and the two families began to discuss and let them get married quickly.
But at this time, there was a controversy, although the groom's family conditions were good, there was a house and a car, and the future bride would not suffer too much in the past, but the problem appeared in the dispute over the bride price.
What about the groom's parents, who think they are already living together, that everyone is ours, where else can they go? What bride price do you want?
After marriage, it is not to be married.
They were very reluctant about the bride price.
The bride's parents, believing that their daughter was pregnant, had to get married quickly, and even though they were angry about the bride price, they reluctantly accepted their daughter's marriage to him.
Who keeps the daughter from arguing? Can't get a high-priced bride price, can't get the attention of the in-laws?
It's all over here? Not yet
It is precisely because the bridegroom's dress is too low, the bride's relatives and friends know, the bride's parents feel that the face is not light, so they will discuss the bride to discuss a thing to get off the car, the groom did not know about this matter in advance.
Before the wedding, the two are about to hold a ceremony, and the bride can't get off the car, saying that she wants 80,000 to get off the car.
The point is that this car is a bit expensive, the groom will persuade the bride to almost get, hurry down, the groom's attitude is not good.
The two have been arguing, helplessly gladly called their mother, the mother also did not agree to the 80,000 8 off the bus ceremony, so the groom will shake his head and get married, love knots, where do you call to go back?
At this point, the bride cried bitterly, and on the day of the great joy, she was treated like this by her in-laws because of this money, or in front of so many guests, the bride was also very embarrassed.
Then do you think that the in-laws do not even give such a sky-high price to get off the car, the attitude is not negotiable, shake their heads and leave, what do you think of them? Is it trustworthy for the bride?
I guess it's not worth trusting!
And what kind of behavior is it for the bride to get off the bus at this sky-high price without consulting with the groom's family in advance?
But in the end, the bride called the groom to explain that she did not want it, but because the dowry of 30,000 yuan was too low, she was forced by her parents to come back, and the groom returned to the two before the wedding.
02. Correct attitude towards the bride price
Due to the emergence of sky-high dowries, there have been many rumors in various places calling for the abolition of the custom of the dowry.
But zheng also got the support of some people, after all, people's parents have spent a lot of money on raising their daughters for more than 20 years, without a little sincerity, a sentence of marriage will give their daughters to leave, how can this work?
In fact, the bride price is a custom, and it may have been given too many meanings with the development of this society.
In the end, the bride price can still exist as a custom, but it cannot be excessively collected. Lost its original face.
In fact, if the two parties want to get married, the things that collapse because of the bride price can be analyzed as follows:
If the bride price is in line with the local level, if the man is directly unwilling to pay money, one indicates that he does not attach importance to the bride, and the other also shows that the man is not worthy of trust, and even if he does not have an effort, he directly rejects the dowry, indicating that the attitude is not good.
How do you know what the bride's family wants the bride price for?
If this is a test of the groom, the parents are also particularly concerned about the two families, and in the future the two of them will take it out if they have difficulties, and some money is convenient for them to be in a hurry.
The bridegroom must come up with the matter of the bride price, show his attitude, and have a good enough attitude.
3, marriage is a matter of two families, the bride price should be in line with the actual situation
Marriage is a very solemn thing, it is two people working together with each other, facing all kinds of difficulties together, sharing weal and woe.
How can you believe that a person who is unwilling because of this bride price before marriage will be good to the bride after marriage?
If you want to ask for a high dowry, the woman you have to look at the man's family, if you really live with him sincerely, you will not cause poverty in another family because of this face.
If it is only for the sake of face and ignores the fact that the groom's family is poor, or if it is only to get a lot of money to satisfy their own selfish desires, then the attitude of the woman's family is not very good.
Some people say that marriage is the joint help of two families to promote the establishment of a new family, not to suck the blood of one family and start another family.
So as long as the man is really sincere and trying his best! The woman's parents are really good for the woman, optimistic about them, should not be too difficult for the man.
In addition, the matter about the bride price and the sky-high fare of the car ceremony that appears above are all based on the consultation between the two sides, which should be given, and do not have to be hidden, and there will be no imminent arrival, and there will be a sky-high price of the car ceremony.
Falling in love is simple, it only takes two people to love each other, but getting married is complicated, it is a matter of two families.
So before getting married, you should think clearly, you choose someone who is not a very good family condition, but what you look at is his self-motivated, naturally he can't give a high dowry, and the dowry is an attitude of the man.
If the woman's bride price is also within the appropriate range, but the man is not willing to give, the man's attitude is not good.
Finally, in the treatment of the dowry, our rational point of view, each side stands in the other's point of view, according to the family conditions of both sides, choose a suitable range to propose the dowry.