Speaking of middle age, Liang Wendao once said:
"The advantage of young people is that every young person believes that he can fly.
When middle-aged people incite their wings, there are still heavy scales on both sides of the wings that cannot be shaken off. ”
Yes, people reach middle age, life is half a slope, and every step is particularly difficult.
However, even if you climb the mountain with weight, you can only keep rising.
Half a life has passed, and if you want to live as much as possible, you must work harder to make yourself continue to "add value".
The more you live, the more valuable you are, often these kinds of people.
People who cultivate themselves
Life is a hundred years, such as morning dew.
No one can change the length of life, but excellent people are always deeply cultivating themselves and constantly broadening the breadth of life.
At the age of 57, Mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature, and for a time, the scenery was unlimited and the limelight was booming.
After winning the award, Mo Yan was silent for 8 years.
At that time, many readers were eagerly awaiting, urging Mo yan to publish a new book.
But Mo Yan was not in a hurry, until 8 years later, he returned to the reader's field of vision with his new work "Late Ripening Man".
On the day of the return, it attracted 1.5 million onlookers on the Internet, which can be called a phenomenon-level literary event.
He said:
"For eight years, I've been working hard, I've been working hard, I've been creating, or I'm preparing for it."
It turned out that in the process of preparing the new book, Mo Yan had written operas, poems, novels, and traveled to many places.
For a writer, anything he does has the potential to be the material or inspiration of the novel.
And Mo Yan spends far more on desk preparation than writing a new book.
Zhu Xi once said:
"If you want to do great things, you must be steadfast."
If people want to live a valuable life, they must first learn to sink their hearts in their own fields and cultivate deeply with an ingenuity.
When you have walked enough roads alone and your ability has accumulated to a certain height, you will slowly open up the gap with ordinary people.
Gradually, you will understand:
The efforts you have made, the sweat you have shed, are helping you achieve a unique life.
People who reflect on themselves often
Zeng Ziyi:
"My Three Provinces and My Body: Seeking For Others and Not Being Faithful? Friends and not convinced? Can't get used to it? ”
A person who wants to improve his own value needs to always reflect on himself and improve his shortcomings.
There is such a story.
In 1978, a 31-year-old stumbled upon a vacuum cleaner called the Hoover.
He found that the vacuum cleaner often blocked the air holes because dirt was stuffed with dust bags.
Therefore, in the process of machine operation, it is often necessary to manually replace the dust bag, which is very inconvenient to use.
This vacuum cleaner, which requires constant replacement of dust bags, has a history of up to 70 years.
At that time, people had long been accustomed to buying vacuum cleaners while constantly buying dust bags.
Therefore, the design of the vacuum cleaner has not been updated. In response to this pain point, young people are determined to change.
Keep trying, keep reflecting, keep correcting.
Finally, 5 years later, after 5127 failures, the young man developed a bagless double helix vacuum cleaner.
As soon as this invention was listed, it immediately led the global trend, and the lives of young people changed dramatically.
Later, the young man became the world-renowned "King of British Design", and he was James Dyson, the founder of the "Dyson" company.
Entrepreneur Shi Yuzhu once had a famous saying:
"Man, this animal, for every success, the IQ drops by one cut; every time he fails, the IQ rises by a cut."
The real strong are not not to fail, but to be good at learning from failure.
They will transform each experience into the most precious nourishment on the road of life and nourish their future path.
Until one day, they found that the past experience has been integrated into the experience of life, and they have achieved a better self.
They can improve themselves and make themselves more and more valuable, not by accidental luck, but by day-to-day reflection and accumulation.
People who treat feelings single-mindedly and do not go beyond the distance
In this materialistic society, most people think that success is nothing more than having money and power.
But many people have overlooked that without a happy family, these external things are just a passing cloud.
When people reach middle age and have a stable and harmonious home, they will have more energy to pursue a better life.
Blogger @Zhang Gong once told such a story.
Around Zhang Gong, there was once a boss who was very rich and very rich.
In his 50s, he and his current wife met each other, and the two have always been in harmony.
When Zhang Gong was on a business trip, he personally saw that after leaving work at 9 p.m., he also ran to a convenience store to buy meat and vegetables.
The next day Zhang Bow asked curiously about this, and the boss replied:
"In my house, two days a week, I have to buy vegetables and cook, and this rule will not be changed no matter how busy I am."
As a big boss, Zhang Gong felt that his behavior was a bit strange, but he did not ask much.
It wasn't until the end of the cooperation and the boss came to practice with Zhang Bow that he asked:
"When you are on a business trip in China, you go back to the hotel early every night, you behave well when you go to KTV to talk about business, and you often go home to cook for your wife, which is completely different from the big boss I imagined."
After listening to Zhang Gong's speech, the boss first laughed and then replied seriously:
"The future of a person can actually be seen from the state of his family.
If a person can't even take care of his own family, then the family will be full of sorrows.
In the long run, people will be trapped in negative emotions for a long time, and it is difficult to have a happy and happy future. ”
Indeed, no matter what age you are, if you want to live out the value of life, you must first run your own small family and let there be no worries on the road of struggle.
Take good care of your family and love your partner, so that no matter how hard and tired you work outside, as long as you think about the people you are worried about, you can also feel at ease.
Running a good family is the most worthwhile investment in the second half of life.
People who live seriously
In the analects of Kazuo Inamori, it is written:
"Muddy people and serious people, their scripts are very different."
Muddy people often don't know what they want, don't realize what they're doing, and don't realize that time is passing, so even if the two sideburns are white, they still can't achieve anything.
And people who live seriously, no matter how hard they live, no matter how big the situation, can live every day of their lives full and full.
Cai Lan is such a person who takes life extremely seriously.
Someone said to Cai Lan that people are only young once in their lives, and they should cherish it well.
After Cai Lan heard this, he retorted:
"When people reach middle age, of course, they only do it once!" Can you become old again? ”
Therefore, in his view, since life is only once, every day should not be let down.
He has been a film producer for 40 years and has made a lot of efforts for the prosperity of Hong Kong films in the last century;
He also recorded travel programs and founded the "Cai Lan Tour Group" to see the beauty of the world with friends.
In the year of confusion, Cai Lan found that writing can bring a person's happiness to many people:
"I'm a person who naturally likes to make others happy.
I always feel like I have to do something and leave a record. ”
So he began to write columns in Hong Kong's "Oriental Daily" and "Next Weekly", not only food, travels, fish, insects, flowers and birds, and even emotional problems.
Reading Cai Lan's words, you can always feel his endless love for life.
As Cai Lan himself said:
"There are always several kinds of people in the world, some of whom are unwilling to make progress, who are unwilling to study, and who live their lives like that."
Some are willing to fight and get ahead.
Of course I'm the one who fights for my life.
Because I love life very much, and I work hard to learn and absorb. ”
Some people say that only those who live every day well can live this life well.
To manage every day conscientiously, not to be perfunctory and not to slacken off, is the greatest improvement to yourself.
After all, when people reach middle age, the most precious thing is time.
Therefore, don't underestimate the present, spend today seriously and fully, and a better tomorrow will naturally appear in front of you.
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Yu Hua said in "Alive":
"The criterion for a man is to see where his time is spent.
Don't fool yourself, when life comes to an end, only time will not lie. ”
Those who live out their self-worth know how to use their energy and time in the right place.
When you learn to cultivate yourself, you can have an unchangeable foundation in the ever-changing society;
When you learn to reflect on the past, you can pick up the lessons of failure and find the right way forward;
When you run a good family, you can have a strong backing on the road to chasing your dreams;
When you take care of your life, you can dig out unexpected surprises in your ordinary daily life.
For the rest of your life, may you continue to improve yourself and enhance your value.
As you get stronger, trust that everything you want will follow.