Accept the bumps and downs of life
The days will be much smoother
Author: Insight Ciyu
Life is chaotic and cluttered, if a person is holding on to the details, you can only see a bunch of broken things.
But by the length of a lifetime, anything becomes insignificant.
As Liu Zhenyun said in "One Day and Three Autumns": "Living to this age, I remember many bad things in the past." At that time, pile by pile, I felt that things were quite big and could not stand up, and now that I think about it, it is all nonsense. ”
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The mentality is not good, and everything is concerned
Pepsi starts from the heart, if the mentality is not good, even the smallest thing can become a big thing.
If you don't bother yourself, others will never be able to bother you.
Cai Lan was called "a real dashing person" by Mr. Jin Yong, and the two of them used to travel a lot, and Cai Lan was in a happy mood along the way.
The driver drove too bumpy, he never complained, the tour guide had a big temper, and he never got angry.
Even if the food is not delicious, it will be chewed with relish, and even if you clash with people on the road, you will not delay the mood of playing at all.
He taught Jin Yong how to drink inferior and spicy Italian wine and how to suck the bone marrow of cattle in Singapore food stalls.
Jin Yong said: "I will frown, he always laughs." ”
Like the game people, Cai Lan never remembers those annoying little things and lives a leisurely life.
Goethe said, "The happiness of man lies in the happiness of the heart." ”
If you have too much stuff in your heart, you can't put it into happiness; if you think too much in your mind, you can't notice the beauty in front of you.
Unsatisfactory in life is often unable to live with yourself.
The practice of life is also the cultivation of the mind.
If you can see through and think openly, no matter what situation you are in, you can be not worried and afraid, and enjoy yourself.
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The realm is not high, and it is not pleasing to the eye to see anyone
I've seen one such story.
There was a rather pedantic old man who went out for a walk and came across a few dramas begging for a living on the street.
The old man was not accustomed to the dramatists selling and singing in public, so he went up and mocked a few words.
Not to be outdone, the dramatists said that they were playing and singing together, and scolded the old man fiercely, and the crowd laughed loudly.
The old man's beard trembled with anger and he folded it directly back home.
The old man told the old woman about this, but who expected the old woman to say, "They didn't provoke you. ”
In life, everyone encounters behaviors that are contrary to their own values.
If a person's realm is too low, he will try to point fingers at everything and end up making himself uncomfortable.
Kant said: "I respect any independent soul, and although there are some that I do not approve of, I can understand as much as possible." ”
If you know how to understand the different three views and respect different ways of doing things, you will have less harsh responsibility in your heart and more comfortable life.
During the Three Kingdoms period, after Zhuge Liang's death, Jiang Huan served as the prime minister of the Shu state and presided over the imperial government.
He has a subordinate named Yang Ju, who is a lonely personality and is not good at talking.
Whenever Jiang Huan told him about the affairs of the government, Yang Ju always responded but did not answer.
Some people are not accustomed to the high-cold style of Yang Opera, come to Jiang Huan to make a small report, Yang Opera this person is so sloppy to you, too bad!
Jiang Huan felt that everyone had their own temperament.
Let Yang Ju praise me in person, that is not his nature; let him point out my shortcomings as a crowd, he will feel that I can't hang on to my face and can't get off the stage.
People with a big pattern are more peaceful in their hearts, and everything is pleasing to the eye.
It is important to know that the variability of life is the source of happiness.
The world is diverse, and measuring the lives of others with your own ruler will only make you unhappy.
To be a person with a high realm, there is no right or wrong in the eyes, and everywhere you look is a landscape.
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The mind is not big, and it is easy to get entangled in case of trouble
In "A Place of Chicken Feathers", Liu Zhenyun talked about a series of broken things around "tofu".
Because of buying tofu, the protagonist Kobayashi is late for work, and the new college students work more realistically, and they make up their own minds to give him a "late".
Kobayashi angrily changed it to "punctuality", but one day he was very unhappy, worried about whether the college students would report him.
Because he forgot to put the refrigerator and the tofu was steamed, the wife blamed the nanny for not putting the refrigerator in time, and the nanny shirked the responsibility to Kobayashi.
The two quarreled, and Kobayashi began to accuse his wife of breaking a warm water bottle by mistake before, but the wife said that Kobayashi had broken a vase when he was plastering.
Kobayashi's life is full of these chicken and dog things, and he is upset and becomes sad.
If a person is more than enough to do everything, he will only be stuck in the mud of life.
Those sesame green bean things can be as big as a mountain, crushing themselves breathlessly, and they can be as small as a grain of dust, and they can be scattered with a light dust.
In the 1980s, Mo Yan began to show his sharp edge in the literary world.
The critic Wang Gan published an article criticizing Mo Yan in a magazine, sharp in his words and without mercy at all.
After that, Wang Gan met Mo Yan by chance at the Lu Xun Academy of Literature, and thinking about the articles he had written, he wanted to avoid it.
However, Mo Yan took the initiative to say, "I have read your article and it is very well written." Friends say I was criticized, but in my opinion, it is mainly praise. ”
Zhou Guoping said in a speech: "Life must have the wisdom of not competing, and do not compete with yourself, others and God. ”
Open your own mind, accept the bumps and bumps of life, and the days will go much smoother.
After middle age, I gradually understood that most people are unhappy, but they are too entangled in the small things of the moment.
Point in the look, a person's life is a thousand miles of rivers and mountains, relax the heart, open the pattern, then all you see is the scenery, and all the actions are smooth.
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