Author: Insight Autumn
I've been there, I've loved, I've lived, and I've always had a deep affection for life.
There is such a person, he travels the world in a Tang costume, tastes all kinds of food, and writes about fireworks in the world.
Write articles, open restaurants, make movies; calligraphy and painting seal carving, food and wine, everything is familiar.
He is Cai Lan, who is known as the four talents of Hong Kong.
Ni Kuang said that he had the demeanor of Wei jin, and even Jin Yong sighed:
"I'm not as good as Cai Lan, he's a really dashing person."
Cai Lan's dashing is not a superficial game world, but an open-minded detachment after the world is insightful.
In this life, how to live happily and how to live, he never cared about the outside world.
Now 81 years old, he is still playing Weibo and live broadcasting.
Every year, 1 month before the Spring Festival, he will answer the various confusions of netizens on Weibo.
Many people say that when encountering life problems, you may wish to go through Cai Lan's Weibo.
Here are the answers to daily troubles, the guidance of the confused present, and the profound understanding of the various states of life.
Those poisonous tongue humorous replies are soaked with Cai Lan's more than 80 years of life wisdom, needle to the point, and the words are transparent.
Work, feelings, the future, all kinds of confusion in life, you can get inspiration from it.
01
"Can you get rich in 2022?"
It feels like I'm trying hard, but the income is always not ideal. ”
"I don't believe you've tried."
Occasionally working overtime until eight o'clock feels hard, and making up a shift on the weekend feels that it is not easy to earn money.
The efforts of most people are actually self-touching.
You're not struggling, you're struggling.
The next time you are not satisfied with the status quo, you may wish to ask yourself: Are you really trying your best in your current life?
The Internet factory is still brightly lit at two o'clock in the morning, and the shopkeepers who earn 30,000 yuan a month are almost all year round.
Life is like this, if you want to wear a crown before people, you must bear its weight behind you.
Behind all the high salaries, there is desperation.
02
"What's the big deal?"
"The sky is falling."
When you were studying, you cried all night because you didn't take the exam well;
After graduation, he was dumped and washed his face with tears for a whole week;
People reach middle age, you are suddenly laid off unemployed, feel that you can no longer see the sun of tomorrow ... ...
But then what? You'll still get into college, find your next partner, and start a new job.
Those things that you think are big, after surviving, will become the story of drinking.
Put away your mannerisms and grievances.
In this life, in addition to life and death, people are all bruises.
03
"Is a person who wronged himself to fulfill others stupid?"
"Yes."
The friend you're trying so hard to please, but never considers your gains and losses;
The colleague who asks you for help every day sees that you have something to hide farther away than anyone else.
You've got everyone else, and who cares how you feel?
Don't be too sensible, easy to be wronged.
The clown on the stage will leave happiness to others and sadness to himself.
This kind of thing can't be considered by everyone, so be careful about yourself.
04
"When will you get rich?"
"Think about it."
If there's any trick to getting rich, everyone is a billionaire.
There is no pie falling from the sky, and even if there is a pie falling in front of your eyes, be careful.
Because you don't know, there is a trap waiting for you on the ground.
Where in the world are there so many beautiful things to sit and enjoy?
Down-to-earth efforts are the only truth.
05
"How do you see other people's opinions?"
"It's okay to leave it alone."
When someone else taunts, you start to sleep all night;
When others question, you immediately doubt your own choice;
Obviously, it is a rumor that comes out of nowhere, but you spend a lot of time with people to line up and explain.
They just move their mouths slightly, but you waste your happiness and energy.
Getting entangled in rotten people and bad things is the biggest harm to you.
06
"Can you not have children?"
"Sure, but no one will die."
You find that no, there are many standards in life:
College to read famous brands, work to go to famous enterprises, 30 years old to get married and have children, 40 years old must have a successful career.
We are all kidnapped by these standards, afraid of living differently from others.
But if you are different from others, what can you do?
Some people get married very late, some people don't have children, some people quit their jobs at the age of 40 to start a business, some people start graduate school at 50...
There are as many kinds of people as there are in the world.
This is only once in a lifetime, you may as well be bold, listen to your heart, and ask no questions.
07
"Friends who eat together can't make an appointment, what should I do?"
"Cold mix."
The most distant distance in the world is not the difference in the world, but the circle is different.
There is no common topic, no similar cognition, and it is only self-deprecating to be forced into it.
The gradual drifting away of people is the inevitable fate of fate.
Don't always stand silly, no one will be there with you forever.
08
"What should I do if I gain weight?"
"Cut the meat and sell it."
Feel that you are too fat, put down snacks, put on running shoes and go out;
Feel that you have a low education, turn off your mobile phone, push off the party, and continue to study;
Feeling that the current job is not good, I immersed myself in polishing my skills and waited for the opportunity to jump to a bigger platform.
The world is actually fair.
You don't have the courage to "cut the flesh", how can you expect to get the surprise of metamorphosis?
09
"Is it necessary to entangle?"
"Is it useful?"
Many people are trapped by love, they are trapped by themselves.
In this world, there is only reconciliation, not the beginning.
People's hearts have changed, and no matter how humble and flattering they are, they have lost their meaning.
Obsessing over and fighting will only embarrass yourself.
The best view of feelings is always affectionate and not entangled.
When you come, I will pick you up in the wind and rain; I will never keep you when you go.
10
"Peace of mind, plain life, easy-going and beautiful,
And I feel that I have no pursuit, what can I do? ”
"Greed."
There is a saying that makes sense: man cannot want both, and he wants, and he wants.
Choosing a nine-to-five life, you have to endure its rigidity and tedium;
Choosing a glamorous job, you have to bear the busyness and pressure behind it.
Like a flower, how can you enjoy its delicacy while blaming it for withering?
This is not reasonable.
11
"If you want to practice brush writing, how do you start?"
"Buy pen and paper."
The most critical step in writing an article is not to find wonderful materials, but to open the computer immediately;
The best trick to learn to speak is to rush to the stage first.
Shout out your throat, it is better to shake off your arms.
What people are most afraid of is that they think of a thousand roads at night and get up in the morning to take the same road.
You may have everything ready in your head and forget the most important thing: the beginning.
12
"What do people live for?"
"Handle this life more happily."
What is the greatest stupidity of a man's life?
Don't miss important people, key opportunities, and broader platforms.
Instead, it was a rush along the way, with bigger houses and better cars.
But I forgot when I laughed last time.
13
"How can people become free?"
"Read more, travel more."
Read too little, and everything you see is trivial.
There are not enough places to go, and it is a big surprise to see a slightly different one.
People who are not rich enough in their hearts, how can they talk about freedom?
14
"Always lack of courage and laziness,
How to overcome? ”
"Courage can be cultivated, laziness has no cure."
What is laziness?
No bathing, no change of clothes, a mess at home, that's just outward laziness.
The most terrible thing is the laziness of the human heart:
Unwilling to step out of your comfort zone, unwilling to change your bad habits, unwilling to use your brain to learn new knowledge.
Once a person becomes a walking dead, there is naturally no cure.
15
"Will the future be good?"
"No, but believe it."
Last year was a mess, and this year doesn't seem to be making much progress; and the desire now, next year, will not necessarily be realized.
Life is like this, you can't get everything you want, and a day is not necessarily better than a day.
Complaining, disappointing, giving up, it's all too simple.
What is really missing in the world is the courage to recognize the truth of life and still love it.
As Camus said:
"I don't expect life to be smooth, but I hope that when it comes to difficulties, I can be its opponent."
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Finally, I would like to share a small thing about Cai Lan.
Once he was on a night plane, he suddenly encountered the air current, and the fuselage kept bumping.
The foreigner next to him was so frightened that he lost half his life, but he continued to drink red wine like no one else.
After the plane stabilized, the foreigner asked him curiously: "Hey, old man, have you ever died?" ”
Cai Lan smiled and said, "I have lived." ”
These three words, he has practiced all his life, and it is also worth us to use a lifetime to understand.
Give it a thumbs up, I hope you look back years later and say without regret:
"I've been here, I've loved, I've lived, I've always had a deep love for life."