Wen | Uncle Bei
Qian Zhongshu said in "The Siege":
"Love, for the most part, is unsuccessful, either suffering from the boredom of eventually becoming a dependent, or suffering from the sadness of not being able to finally become a dependent."
Deeply.
It is said that ten loves nine hurts, and ten people nine sorrows.
For this reason, some people are depressed and unhappy, some people are resentful, and even more entangled with them for half a lifetime, and finally quit the scene.
Love is indeed difficult to keep, but if it is doomed to a good end, no matter how many emotions and actions are self-torture.
And torturing yourself is the last thing you should do in love.
Those who have no luck will eventually be separated
The love between Gu Manzhen and Shen Shijun in "Half Life" is regrettable.
From the beginning of the indistinguishable, to Gu Manzhen being burdened by the identity of his sister's dancer and the difference between the door, to being imprisoned by his brother-in-law and giving birth to a child, Shen Shijun was also forced to marry.
In the end, the two of them recovered their freedom, thinking that they could be together, but found that neither of them could go back.
The feelings of the two of them finally responded to this sentence:
"People who have a relationship will be separated sooner or later when they meet, and those who have no reason will be separated sooner or later."
Although the love is deep, the various yin and yang errors experienced between each other are enough to show that there is no cause in this life, and those who have no luck will be separated after all.
Because there is no blessing of fate, the truth will be diluted by time, and the familiar will become strange. At that time, the people who loved each other only had memories and no enthusiasm.
For those who have no chance, encounter is a kind of luck, but separation is an inescapable fate. The love that should be scattered will still disperse, and the person who should go will still go.
After you try your best, let it go. If they are forced together, the time will only be a lot of resentment, so it is not a failure to live up to this beautiful encounter.
Therefore, when the fate comes, it stays, and there is no reason to give up.
A person's heart is so big that it can't hold too many people and things; a person's hand is so big, you have to choose what you can hold.
The sea of people is vast, the edge is deep and shallow, and there is providence. Believe that there is no reason here, there must be a good fate elsewhere.
If you can't love, you learn to let go
In this world, there is a kind of deep love, called fate and no division; there is a kind of heartache, called love and not being able to do it.
The depth of its feelings is hidden in every memory that wants to be forgotten, but can't help but look forward to;
Hidden in every time I want to hug, but stop at the people between each other, mountains and rivers in the heartache.
But although love cannot continue, the feelings of the past have become memories, and the hugs have no identity, some people are still clinging to endless thoughts, and the emotions are difficult to break.
I think this is the most sad place to fall in love with someone.
In fact, the reason why people who love but can't love are so painful is because they are reluctant to let go.
I don't want to make your face throbbing, I don't want to make your heart ache, but you are willing to be as enthusiastic as you are. Therefore, I am grumpy, so my heart is difficult.
As everyone knows, the more you don't give up, the more painful it will be.
Read a sentence:
"There are some things that you don't want to happen, but you have to accept. Some people can't afford to lose, but they have to let go. ”
Not all lovers in this world can eventually become dependents, when you love but can't, you must learn to let go, learn to let go and forget.
Because what has been lost has already been lost, no matter how much you have, you cannot change the fact that the person you love has left.
Learn to let go, you will understand that some feelings are happening to teach you how to love, and some people appear to be just a passer-by in your life.
So, letting go of obsession is also letting go of yourself. Accept reality, put an end to the feelings you love but can't help, and let this love end decently.
Don't torture yourself, and don't force others
When loved ones can't be together, the best way to do the aftermath is: don't torture yourself, and don't force others.
To oneself, do not think, do not hate; to others, do not disturb, do not dwell.
Cut off all thoughts, say goodbye with dignity, turn around gracefully, and live seriously.
If you are obsessed, unwilling to struggle, or forcibly leave the other party around, forcing the other party to give up everything and be with yourself. Then the final outcome must be to hurt others and hurt themselves.
I agree with Sanmao's words:
"I can't hold the sand, just lift it."
No matter how deep the love, if you can't be together, then let go of it calmly and end it happily. Torturing yourself will only make you a mess and a joke.
We should understand that life is one encounter after another, which will usher in some people and send some people away.
And those who cannot end well with them are doomed to be just passers-by. Not only is it a passer-by, no matter how painful the heart is, but also know how to let go, turn around in a dashing manner, and do not miss it.
So, when the fate is over, don't embarrass yourself.
Life is difficult to cross, and you should love yourself well. Organize yourself, wave goodbye to the past, and then go to your true fate lightly.
Finally, I would like to share a sentence that Sanmao said:
"Those things that come because of fate will eventually end up and part."
The beauty of the past is a gift, and the end of the present will be a providence.
The gathering of fates and the dispersion of fate are all determined by heaven, there are causes and effects, and there must be a beginning and an end.
We just have to cherish it when the fate comes, and say goodbye when the fate is over. Don't leave too many regrets in the future, so that you can live up to the encounter.
Today's Book Uncle recommended:
Choose what you can afford,
Take on what you choose,
Step by step, take every step of the way!