How to describe the state of youth that has passed away?
One answered: "It's like a vegetable being picked by someone, and then you think that the leaves of this dish are old, and you are not fresh on this date." ”
People are too afraid of aging, but they can't do anything about aging.
The years cannot be changed, and only a very small number of people live younger and younger, with no signs of getting older.
Actually, you can do it too.
How old are people?
The concept is vague, but whenever someone mentions it, it is followed by a vibrant, enthusiastic, beating heart.
The Beijing Winter Olympics are still in preparation, and a woman named Li Li is on fire first.
She is the inheritor of the haipai velvet thread weaving, and has spent all her time combining roses, moon seasons, bell orchids, hydrangeas, laurels and olives to create a beautiful bouquet of awards for the Winter Olympics.
Not only is the shape careful, the meaning is beautiful, the weaving technique of each flower is exquisite, just a rose, it will be woven for 5 hours.
In order to ensure the quality of the bouquet, Li Mei has not been idle when she received the task, and has specially spent 5 months to train people to make flowers, each flower must be personally inspected, and there can be no flaws.
Seeing this, there will always be an image of a strong woman in my mind, and her career is booming, and she is in the year of fighting.
But in fact, she is already 70 years old, and what is even more surprising is that she has only been exposed to velvet flowers since she was 50 years old.
Someone who has spent her whole life chasing what she loves, trying new things, and being as energetic as ever, as long as you don't know her age, you won't even think of the word "old" .
Even if you know your age, you will sigh: "It's not like that." ”
Li Meimei is like this, she used to be a magazine editor, and then retired to start studying velvet flowers, she is not only a pastime, but to do, just run to the best.
The essence of youth is that the mind first has vitality, the body adds motivation, and then naturally attracts a healthy and elegant, good spirit.
As long as the mentality is not old, you will never get old.
Nowadays, too many people, who are just 20 years old and 30 years old, are already shouting everywhere: "Hey, I'm old!" ”
Just looking at age, it is the right time, looking at the mentality, but it is a pool of stagnant water.
A netizen who is a construction worker shared that he entered this industry after graduating from college, because he is not very good at handling interpersonal relationships, and every day is a mixed day.
Coupled with the large number of people at the construction site, he did not bring anyone for two years, and the leader did not even send him any work.
Usually, he plays at most, runs errands, and plays with his mobile phone most of the time.
The people next to him have been out of school one after another, and his girlfriend has been promoted to group leader in another company, but he can only lament the unfair fate.
Psychology has a concept called learned helplessness, that is, experiencing more setbacks, emotions and cognition, are becoming more and more negative.
In fact, everything originally had the opportunity to change.
Look at how others do, gradually raise emotional intelligence, take advantage of free time to steal teachers to learn art, and even feel that they are not suitable, quickly change careers, is a road.
But the partial mentality of negative mentality blocks all the roads.
On the street, you can always see people with their backs on their backs, sighing long and short, sometimes thinking that they have experienced many vicissitudes, and when they see the front face, they suddenly realize that it seems that this person is not much old.
The more you use your brain, the younger you get.
When you have a flexible mind, are curious about everything around you, and dream of a new world, then you are young.
Sighing day after day, in addition to complaining or being lazy, even aging accelerates.
As for the real age, it doesn't matter that much at all.
We make choices all the time, young or old, it is also our own choices.
Instead of reaching the age and feeling that the age is no more, it is better to integrate a positive attitude into life and let the young stick to it for a lifetime.
Actor Wang Luodan once saw a question: "Can a 21-year-old girl still learn to skateboard?" ”
At that time, she replied categorically: "I am 33 years old this year, still studying, as long as I like it, there is nothing suitable or inappropriate." ”
Now she is 38 years old, still trying, and the girlish feeling is not reduced.
She also crossed over to become a director on reality shows, from "shouting cards" to picking every detail, and finally impressed everyone with the audience's super high ratings.
Aging is the accumulation of fatigue, youth is the accumulation of enthusiasm, get rid of burnout, or maintain a bright appearance, the work is in daily life.
Keep a good attitude, and growing up against age is not a dream.
Liu Sheng, known as the "most fashionable uncle", began to work out 40 years ago, starting with swimming, holding bricks as equipment for fitness.
Later, his factory closed down and he naturally became a fitness instructor.
At that time, his professional knowledge and age were not dominant, but he did not want to lose, so he showed his real fitness skills to the trainees, and secretly supplemented the theoretical knowledge privately.
He is getting older, but he has more and more unique skills, and he has also practiced a good cooking skill.
Now in his 60s, he looks at random, which makes people call handsome.
I always feel that in front of the years, we have no power to fight back, and after watching him, he understands that old age is never a must, you can always be young, always toss, always tearful.
Age is a number, don't let this number shackle your life.
Warm in your heart, time will be gentle to you; open your heart to face, fate will surprise you; steaming life, aging will avoid you.
I used to think that the younger I lived, the more I was determined by talent, but later I understood that being young is an ability.
It's not even as hard to grasp as long as you do the following:
1) No matter what you experience, remember to smile
Life is not satisfactory often eight or nine, tired and hard, no one can escape, in every time you frown, the years have found a gap that can be eroded.
Studies have long shown that making a smiling expression will inherently produce a sense of pleasure.
Have a conflict with your partner, try not to argue, and laugh it off;
Criticized by the leader, don't be anxious and sad, smile at the mirror.
Accustomed to smiling, immunity is strengthening, mental state is improving, even looks, will be more beautiful.
2) Whatever you are afraid of, open your hands and embrace
From the youthful spirit of hesitation and ambition to the old spirit of cowering and shrinking, it is not a matter of an instant, it is disappointed for too long.
The road ahead, too much unknown, too much fear.
But you have to jump out of this step, if you win, you will defeat yourself, and if you lose, you will be brave once.
As Yang Dai said: "Take the road of good choice, don't choose the road of good walking." ”
The next few times you are fierce, you are no longer afraid, and you embrace the changes more, so that you can live up to Shaohua.
3) No matter how ordinary the life is, it must also be emotional
Life is sometimes very simple, but it is simple to repeat, to repeat to make people sleepy, helpless people, have to silently grow old.
Unless you have a boring life, you can live a beautiful life, and then have a little mood.
You don't have to expect to buy a lottery ticket and suddenly become a rich man, you just need to taste quietly and treat it with heart in ordinary days.
Lay out exquisite table mats before eating, buy a family-friendly coat when shopping, cut the first knife on your birthday, and you have a vision in your heart, and there is no day worth your aging.
Click "watching" and adjust your mindset.
If you are afraid of getting old at this moment, every day after that, you will live younger and younger.
The author | Yew, the iron lady of the post-90s cute system, can turn the knife with a pen, and the eyebrows are smiling.
The anchor | Han Dan, former radio program host, video number: Han Dan Afternoon Tea.
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