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The author of the jane book is | Muzimo
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Marriage is not the whole of life, and women cannot lose themselves no matter who they marry.
Wang Sumin of "Xiao min family", as the mother of the two sisters of the Liu family, resolutely divorced her husband who had been drinking for a long time for the healthy growth of her children when she was young.
After that, she struggled to take her two daughters alone, and in that era, she resisted the gossip that weighed on her head and suppressed the physiological needs of a normal woman.
Therefore, as a mother, she is indeed worthy of admiration, and for the happy growth of her two children, she has paid several times more hardship than others, although the children do not have the love of their fathers.
But her great maternal love made the two children feel the strength of motherhood, and these two children were excellent under her education, which also laid a solid foundation for their later lives.
In addition, her daughter Xiaomin can live so comfortably, mainly because her professional skills and abilities have won her economic foundation and connections so that she can escape the unbearable environment of her hometown and gain a foothold in Beijing, have a house and a stable life, not because she married anyone.
And the daughter Xiaojie, who has a good look, a figure and a talent, graduated from a famous school, in order to stay in Beijing and have a hukou to have work development and progress. Even when she met a scumbag, she had the capital and courage to marry and divorce twice.
French writer Sophie Marceau said, "The saddest thing about a woman is not old age, but the loss of self in marriage and ordinary life." Women can age, but they must be graceful to death, and marriage cannot be allowed to wear women out of luster. ”
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Li Ping is also, she dares to love and hate, dares to be bold, she is indomitable and positive about her career, she does not abandon her benevolence and righteousness to her relatives, and she treats her friends with distinction and sincerity.
Kindness, tolerance, true disposition. Her atmosphere is truly impressive. When she encountered an inappropriate marriage, she dared to say break up and start her life over.
When she was young, she fell in love with Chen Zhuo at first sight for love, she dared to pursue, and when she loved, she went to confess, and as a result, she harvested love. After marriage, Li Ping wants to live a better life, and Chen Zhuo feels that this is enough, and the husband who meets with the encounter meets Li Ping, who is full of hard work, the three views of the two are naturally different.
There is no major contradiction between the two of them, and their separation is only due to the incompatibility between personality and three views, and after separation, they still get along like good friends.
Li Ping has ambitions, ambitions and ideas, only then can she leave people who are not suitable for her in the later rich life, and start looking for happiness again, and she can also go to Shenzhen to start a business again after returning to zero.
Their happy and dignified life has never been obtained by their families, but by their own efforts and struggles.
I remember watching a costume drama "Do You Know It or Not" before, it should be the heroine Sheng Minglan, played by Zhao Liying in the green fat and red skinny, who talked about the way to get along with marriage:
"There is no one in this world who is the backer, everything, it is best not to expect too much, really to count, not too much, too deep." The more you hope, the more you will inevitably be disappointed, the more disappointed you will be, the more you will be resentful, and the more you will be resentful, the more you will be hated. ”
Don't expect too much from each other, the more you count on, the more you will inevitably be disappointed. When we choose to walk the path of life together, it means love, companionship, and understanding, but let's not forget that husband and wife are independent and different living individuals, and we also need to be independent.
The heroines in "Little Min's House", how they are all dependent on themselves, do not pin their hopes in life on others, so what they encounter is not too bad.
Nothing could be repeated, nothing was impossible in her dictionary, she could afford to live in a mansion or squeeze into a basement. So women need to be independent, you need to have your own ideas, not dependent and not dependent on others, so that you can have a good intimate relationship in marriage and live your best appearance.
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In today's society, women's self-awareness is gradually awakened, and they are more concerned about whether their own value can be seen and whether they can be respected enough. Women want true freedom, and an independent spiritual world, not just for marriage.
Women's respect is mainly derived from their own value. Men also want women to care about themselves and share their worries in life.
If women rely too much on men, they will make men feel tired over time. It's also easy to get bored. Relying on others in itself is actually a disguised use, and no matter how deep the feelings are, they cannot withstand consumption. Therefore, if women want to keep their feelings fresh, they must not lose themselves, they must have their own sense of enterprise, and they must have their own shining points that others can appreciate.
We live in this world, every day, every minute, we are fantasizing about our future, but also fighting for a better future.
Our life is to be our own decision, in the future, no matter what it is, it is our own choice, and these also need our efforts.
Because if you want to live independently, you have to be an independent person. So women, no matter who you marry, don't lose yourself. May we continue to love and be loved in our respective lives.
Figure | From the network
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