The author | The red palm clears the throat
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Hello everyone, I'm Ichiro Takayama.
01
"Me and him, you always have to choose one"
Tong Tong sent a word without hesitation.
In front of the screen, I was embarrassed and helplessly typed a few words,
"Do you have to be so intolerant?"
"I don't want to have anything to do with him." Tong Tong cut through the iron.
Tong Tong and her boyfriend are my high school classmates.
When the two people were together, the lights were lit up and the firecrackers were fired in unison, and there were almost no neighbors running to tell each other.
At that time, I also said that when you do a happy event, you will definitely wrap a big red envelope for you two.
More than a year has passed, and the good things of the two have not come close, but the relationship has come to an end.
It is not surprising that breakups are also commonplace, but the stubborn Tong Tong must choose one of the two.
In its name, this is the special treatment of good girlfriends.
She can't control the other students, but I definitely want to be with her.
But choosing one of them means that you can't contact the other one in the future, not even daily interaction, unless there is a real irreversible factor.
I feel inexplicable, everyone is in a group, classmates often gag, talk and laugh, is it that after others talk to me, I am familiar with it?
What's more, we will eat and party from time to time, is it that after her boyfriend goes, I will consciously quit? This rule is too strong for people to be difficult.
However, a mouthful of rejection is a bit out of place.
In the end, I had to agree first, but put forward a condition, and it was only implemented for three months.
After three months, depending on the situation.
In my opinion, Tong Tong is just a fan of some authorities.
After three months, she may not be so "disrespectful" to her boyfriend.
02
I believe that when everyone broke up, they all had such a psychological state:
After all, I paid by mistake!
Was he blind in the first place?
Boys just don't get reliable.
Girls are fickle.
I'm haggard about ta for the people of Ize, what does he do to me?
After the breakup, it is a strange road at the end of the world, and we will never see each other again in this life.
In short, the filter that was in my heart has now been shattered.
It's you who ruined this wonderful relationship!
From acquaintance to parting ways, only the parties concerned understand.
And the twists and turns, points and combinations, are even more complicated.
Unless there is really a party with inferior moral character, or cheating on leg splitting, ulterior motives, or domestic violence, gambling addiction, it is impossible to define who is right and who is wrong.
In the current situation where Lao Yan is flying separately, both people may have unshirkable responsibilities.
For example, Tong Tong always complains that her boyfriend is too straight, does not understand the minds of girls, and her emotional intelligence is worrying.
But why does the boyfriend have to give in? What about blindly taking care of your feelings?
He doesn't understand girls, and you don't really understand boys.
Tong Tong also thinks that her boyfriend spent too much time and energy on the game and ignored her feelings.
But when Tong Tong and her friends go shopping together or indulge in brushing dramas, they are also caught in the fire, staying up all night, and ignoring their boyfriends.
You are bored, and if you want me to accompany you, I must let go of my business to accommodate you?
And when you have something to do and don't need me around, just turn a deaf ear to me?
The call comes and goes, and I can't have a temper yet?
To put it bluntly, no one is perfect.
In an intimate relationship, everyone has deficiencies and shortcomings.
After calming down, you will find that the other party is not as bad as you think, and you are not so reasonable.
03
Since the breakdown of feelings is caused by both parties, don't do it so ugly when you break up.
Tong Tong can completely keep himself and the other party in the same old and dead, and forget about each other from then on.
But forcing others to take sides is a bit of a step over the line.
In real life, there are many more unreasonable jokes.
Tearing in public, revealing each other, and even revealing the little secrets that the other party once shared only with you, either you die or I die.
Weibo leads the war, the circle of friends scolds, or insinuates, yin and yang weirdness, or straightforward, named, two people open an endless mode of turning over old accounts, vowing to give up the other party's landless self-tolerance.
On the surface, some people are light and breezy, and the years are quiet, but secretly they say bad things about the other party, wantonly spread rumors, slander and frame, and then tearfully state their grievances, so that the other party unconsciously "dies in society."
There are also people who fight side by side with the current and join forces to blacken the predecessor. It seems that only in this extreme way can we prove that we have no distractions in our hearts and have cut off our past.
There are also people who have lost love and broken up, just like children who have not grown up have played with their families, and they can actually pull their parents to wade into muddy waters, support themselves, and reprimand each other is not enough to vent their anger, they must call a family of children, and the bloody head of the dog that the other family scolds is not enough to stop.
It all seems absurd, but in real life, these things do happen from time to time.
Divide your hands, and there is one more enemy who does not share the heavens
There is no need to be so extreme.
No matter what the reason led to the breakup of two people, in this relationship, you must have had a lot of happiness.
The odds of being able to travel with a person are slim to none.
Such a rare thing, why did it end up being changed beyond recognition?
It's not that lovers who have broken up their hands must be good buddies to be measured.
Although some time ago we also shared an article to make friends with my ex.
But not all people can be so dashing, writing off the past and writing off the past, and the clouds and breeze lightly call each other brothers and brothers.
In fact, if you don't disturb each other, your destiny will be very good.
There are many people in reality who break up and never see each other again.
As soon as you turn around, you will never say goodbye.
As long as you keep the memories in your heart, and treasure that period of youth in your memory, it is enough.
Maybe occasionally there will be a lot of emotions, there will be unwillingness, maybe it will be indignant, but don't complain and curse the other party anymore.
I will not bother you again, nor will I tell others that you are a heinous and evil person, nor will I cling to the past and beg for myself.
I just want to live well in the moment.
Many people think back to some of their own extreme behavior when they broke up after the transition, and they feel that they were too impulsive at that time.
There are so many things that cannot be seen clearly at that moment.
At that moment, only the gushing emotions, the huge waves were monstrous, and the sanity and calmness were drowned.
But the tide fades, and there is always a calm day.
Promise me, even if the old man with the white head is not our final ending, I hope that we can finally "laugh" and forget about the jianghu.
When I think of you, I can say a generous word and wish you well, which is already the best ending for you and me.
-Ends-
If the finger that crosses the screen pauses for a moment,
That's our resonance.
