When her girlfriend was very young, her parents divorced, and since then she has been living with her mother, although she has always been well-behaved and sensible, but after getting along for a long time, she will find that her personality is a little weak.
With the passage of time, the girlfriend was married a few years ago, and now lives happily, has a husband who loves herself, and a lovely daughter, and now the child is three years old, looks very cute and very cute, however, her daughter's personality is very similar to her.
For example, playing in the amusement park, although there are many toys in it, but her daughter does not dare to come forward, even if she gets her beloved toy, she will be robbed by other children.
Every time a girlfriend goes to kindergarten to pick up her daughter and brings her home, the teacher will always say to her girlfriend:
"I'm very sorry, Tong Tong's mother, today when other children were playing, they accidentally touched Tong Tong and let the child get hurt"
"When I was playing outdoors, I was hit by a toy"
With these are trivial things, but too often, I believe that any parent's heart is not comfortable, why is it always their own children who are hurt, is it deliberately targeted by other people's children?
The girlfriend's mother-in-law is a retired teacher, and after the child's situation in kindergarten, she took the initiative to come to the girlfriend's house to help take care of the child.
For the care of the mother-in-law, the girlfriend is also very happy in her heart, after all, she is usually too busy at work, can not accompany the child all the time, with the careful care of the mother-in-law, she can also work hard, and the mother-in-law is an excellent retired teacher, I believe that under her care, the child's personality will change.
After half a year of careful care by the mother-in-law, the child did have obvious changes before, once, when the girlfriend took her daughter to play on the slide, at first there was only one daughter, and it did not take long, other children also joined recently, and the age was still older than the daughter, so they seized the slide and let the daughter go to play elsewhere.
Tong Tong's performance next made the girlfriend stunned, and Tong Tong said to the children: "This is a public slide, or I came first, why let me go, and my mother is next to me." These children looked at their daughter's "bad" momentum, plus the girlfriend was watching from a short distance away, so they walked away.
After this, the girlfriend found that her daughter's change was really big, and she would not be afraid and avoid things, but bravely said her thoughts, and the whole person looked very sunny.
Tong Tong can have such a big change, it can be said that it is all the credit of the mother-in-law, in order to make the child grow better, so the girlfriend asked the mother-in-law for advice, how to correctly guide the child, in this regard, the mother-in-law said: "Cultivate the granddaughter's "bad" characteristics, rely on 2 things, the method is simple You can also learn"
First, let children dare to express their inner feelings.
When children play with other children, if there are bumps and bumps, showing dislike or resistance, be sure to let the children speak out, but children at this age are still young and cannot clearly express their thoughts.
If the child is more introverted, not good at words, but only has bad emotions, then parents and teachers are not clear about her inner thoughts, which can have a bad impact on the child's growth over time.
Once, when I took my son to play with other people's children in the community, I was very happy at first, but it wasn't long before I found my son standing on the side and showing resistance.
After inquiry, I learned that my son did not want to play this game, but he did not express it in front of other children.
So I encouraged the child to tell the other children what he thought, and after a simple communication, the child blended into the crowd and played other games.
For such a problem, I believe that many parents have experienced that children can not be well integrated into the group, like being isolated, but there is no good way to solve it.
To improve the situation, parents need to communicate with their children more, let them have the courage to express their ideas, and learn to communicate with others.
Second: Correctly guide children to prevent bullying and self-protection awareness
Children in this age group of kindergartens are not yet mentally mature, which requires parents to constantly guide and communicate, however, the traditional "word-to-word" education method is not obvious to children, so it is difficult to combine these knowledge and life.
So, how should mothers guide their children correctly? In this regard, we can change the way, such as reading this "Anti-Bullying Education Picture Book" to let children prevent primary school bullying and self-protection.
In the process of growing up, children will encounter various problems, such as in kindergarten, their own things are snatched away by other children, or bullied by other classmates, etc. This book is clearly explained and correctly solved.
In my spare time, I will carefully read every chapter of the book with my children, and I will also try to teach myself, play the bad guys myself, imitate the situation of substitution and bullying children, so that children can flexibly apply the knowledge learned in the book to reality, the effect is still very obvious.
"Anti-Bullying Education Picture Book" This series of books has a total of eight volumes, each of which has a different theme, teaching children how to deal with anti-bullying incidents, how to protect themselves, and how to get along with others, etc., which can be said to be a very good set of books.
The child's growth process is long, need the correct guidance of parents, if your child is going to kindergarten, or ready to go to kindergarten, in order for the child to grow up happily, may wish to read this set of books with the child, let the child apply the knowledge learned in the book to life, so that the child has a good childhood.