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In Kotaro Isaka's Golden Dreams, in Aoyagi's memoirs, Haruko says to Aoyagi:
"I had a fish in the game, and after it finished eating the feed, he said to me, don't live in the small frame anymore."
After Aoyagi listened, she began to wonder if she should laugh.
"As soon as I listened, I was hit hard. I feel like it's referring to us. ”
"What's so bad about living in a small frame?"
"When I was a kid. Won't the teacher seal us? For example, in the flowers it is written 'excellent', or 'good'. ”
"Hmm."
"I always feel that if we continue to be together, we can only get 'good' at best."
In the end, Aoyagi and Haruko's love ends in a different way and then goes their separate ways.
There are always a few moments in our lives when we need to become determined and determined, have the courage to accept the changes that must be changed, and constantly expand our boundaries, whether it is the heart or the field.
To see the wider sky, to go to more beautiful and higher places, to break the connection with the past, and to say goodbye to all the dissatisfaction.
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There is no shame in having ambition, and neither is there no ambition
People often say that there is no limit to life, but no one can say where the limit of life is, in our cognition, the limit of life is in the place where we can't reach it.
I just feel that I can get better by rushing, and I can get it by trying hard.
In the end, we are still trapped by ourselves who are satisfied with the status quo, in another larger box, ambitious but do not want to make efforts, think of themselves as the best in the small box, and comfort themselves to be a down-to-earth salted fish.
A leaf is blind, not to see Tarzan, people will really be dragged down by the environment, and it is willing.
Everyone craves to get better, and that's okay in itself.
Leaving the deep well is bound to see a more complete sky and lie prone to a wider lawn, but the danger index also rises, which is the price of bravely breaking through the frame.
People can abandon their weaknesses, as long as you are willing to bear the consequences, then you can make any choice.
You can be a person who does his best, overcomes all difficulties, and tries to climb up, whether the result is good or bad, it is better to fail than to be afraid not to try.
When you find that your efforts are still powerless, please accept your mediocrity and admit that your "no" is also another disguised affirmation of yourself.
You can also make a salted fish that rushes when you want to rush and lie down when you are tired, and it is much more meaningful to have a selective effort than to cast a net everywhere, and it takes two hundred percent of the effort to do the best.
No matter what choice you make, please put "I'm happy" first, follow your heart, and ask no questions.
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Affirm yourself more and love yourself more than others
After a long period of struggle of thought, we gradually found that a lot of the pain in life stemmed from the fact that we subjectively reversed the primary and secondary relationships between people.
Accustomed to putting others first, when they are concerned about the feelings of others everywhere, they unconsciously ignore themselves.
Lu Sihao wrote in "May Someone Accompany You to the Turmoil and Displacement":
"The best person to look like is to be calm, accept your weaknesses, stop worrying about other people's good lives, and still maintain a rhythm when no one sees you." This may be very slow, but it will walk more solidly than anyone, and there is no fear of stepping on the air, nor is it afraid to go to the track of others. ”
Constantly affirm yourself, give yourself self-confidence, even if it is said by others to be thick-skinned, it does not matter. When we're ready to embrace the worst, we deserve the best too.
Extremely sensitive planetary people are a group of people who are naturally more inclined to process and perceive deeper information than others, and are a group of people who are keen empathetic, intuitive and self-aware.
This means that such a group of people will often feel emotionally tired; they will be good at detecting non-verbal cues and analyzing the tone of others;
Knowing that everyone will make mistakes, it is still difficult to face their own failures, feel remorse for every mistake, and set themselves goals that are unimaginably high.
However, one of the more effective ways to get out of this complex emotion is to try to attach the realization of self-worth to the individual itself, to detach from the voice of others, to put yourself at the center of the self-world, to know that the world is better because of our existence.
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Everything can be seen, and happiness is doubled
There is a line in the Japanese drama "Toilet Goddess":
"The same thing, from this point of view is painful, another angle can make people happy." Then, a life that can always look at the problem from a positive point of view will be earned. ”
I also often envy those who can ignore everything, they often treat life with a try-and-see mentality, it is better to have it, and it is not very bad to have it. If it is done, it is the icing on the cake, and there is no need to be afraid of failure.
If the goal is to reach the top, try dividing the journey into two sections, setting the goal of the first leg to reach the halfway point and choosing whether to start the second leg of the journey.
If the goal is set at the beginning to reach the top of the mountain, climbers may feel anxious on the way to exhaustion.
Looking at the towering top, if there is no strong sense of purpose and willpower, it is likely to lose at a quarter.
Even if the scenery on the high ground is only Err, there will still be deep regrets.
The beauty of the half is that it invisibly gives the climber a sense of realistic that is desirable and reachable, and reaching the half will produce a sense of accomplishment in completing the goal, and be inspired to reach the top.
Even if you don't choose to move on, you will because of Nietzsche's words" Do not climb to the top of the mountain, do not stand at the foot of the mountain, from half a height to see, the world is really beautiful." And comfort.
Give yourself an excuse to escape the dark emotions and tell yourself in a time of confusion that I have gained more than I have lost.
Life is full of lows, which also proves the existence of climaxes.
Whether you live in a small box or a big box, don't give them the opportunity to frame life.
There is nothing that must be done in life, but no one will refuse to get better, understand the truth of boiling frogs in warm water early, and in reality or in the state of mind, at least one must leave the small box and go to the big box.
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