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Kafka once said in The Castle:
"Trying to get something, in fact, as long as you are calm and seek truth from facts, you can easily and unconsciously achieve the goal." And if you work too hard, make too fierce, too childish, too inexperienced, cry, scratch, pull, like a child pulling the tablecloth, the result is nothing, just pull the good things on the table to the ground, never get it. ”
Perhaps in our lives, we all want to get too much, and what we really get is too little, so that even the daily work is too hard, full of expectations like a child, always want to catch things that are higher than themselves.
Your expectations are too high, and you are doomed to meet the gap caused by failure, but you refuse to admit that this gap is the fault of your own choice, and blame all your dissatisfaction on others who hinder you.
Wang Xiaobo said: All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence.
This is true at all, we are eager to achieve success, but we are taking refuge and getting easier, eager to see the effect of hard work, but when we really work hard, we can't rest our minds.
The result will only be the more you try and become more anxious, and the more you want to have it, the more you will be overwhelmed.
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We must slowly learn to grow up, but also slowly reduce our psychological expectations, while understanding what is delayed gratification, to do just the right amount of like and input.
This is also a struggle, but there are a lot less real knives and real guns, you can watch the clown dance with cold eyes, and you can also sing to the bitch with a cold eyebrow.
You must know that there are many things in this world that are yours, time is yours, the road is yours, the scenery in your eyes is yours, and the people who pass by are also yours.
But yours does not necessarily have the meaning of holding in your arms, and what belongs to you does not necessarily deserve to fall into your hands.
The time from a definite starting point to a given end point can be short or long, but it doesn't depend on how fast you go or how far that end point is from you.
Rather, in the process of departing toward that end, your mind is on the road, or wandering on both sides of the road.
People who understand how to fight for themselves often have definite goals and directions, and will not easily envy the success of others, nor will they casually admit their failures.
They will only try to grab one or two things that are on the edge of the table when they are secretly trying, and as for the others, they may be better or worse, but none of them have anything to do with themselves.
Therefore, the athlete who can win the gold medal is not an all-round player, and a good salesman is not necessarily a good accountant.
Many times, the more people at the bottom believe that knowledge can change their destiny, and as a result, they learn too many things, like too many things, understand too many things, and want to achieve too many things.
But in the end, all the time is wasted in the process of tasting and stopping, it is too difficult to give up some favorites, and it is too tiring to refine some useful.
The result is that you have enough to learn new things, but you just know more than others, and none of them have the advantage of a championship.
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Know how to fight for yourself, not to see everything to fight, like what to grab, but to know the gap between knowledge and ability, with limited time to improve cognition, in unlimited work to increase ability.
Smart people never let themselves get bogged down in a cycle of repetitive boredom, nor do they eat in a bowl and look into a pot.
It is not that the wine and food are full of lust, but after eating enough, you must think about how to cook so that you can create greater value.
Just like when house prices were depressed, most people earn money and spend money, work the same hard, and also can't figure out where the direction is.
But there are also some people who either borrow money or save money, fight for a house, and then raise several.
They also had a lot of things they wanted but hadn't gotten yet, but at that time, they lived more soberly than most.
In today's era, it seems that everything is rushing forward, and most people are working hard as usual, making money and spending money, but they still can't figure out the direction, but they are desperate.
People who expect to be able to fly when they encounter the wind outlet seem to be always on the way to the next wind outlet, and they have already deflected the course before reaching the end.
Applying for classes, examining, doing part-time jobs, or financial management, investment, selling things, when mixing well in a place, the most important thing to think about is not to review the lack of their own ability, but to look left and right, and which track can be fought for again.
It looks really hard, you can move yourself, you can also burden the mediocrity in front of you with a series of words, but the time should go or go, you missed, is a useless old man.
Sometimes you really have to say "I'm sorry" to yourself, short-sighted but think that Inoue is the world, others are taking excellence as a standard, but you think that "knowing more" is having ability.
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Wilde once said, "Too many people don't live like themselves." ”
Because:
"Thought is someone else's opinion, life is someone else's imitation, and emotion is someone else's quote."
In the adult world, we are going to try to be our own, and as a result, we are not careful, we fight back and forth, but we inexplicably become someone else's wedding dress.
But everyone else has done it, where are you?
It's like a game of six people fighting for five stools, and we're all prepared to bleed and sweat and lose our skin and flesh early, and when a gunshot is fired, it's a protracted flow of flesh and blood.
Some people win with skill, some people win with physical strength, someone can win the sympathy of others, someone can win with deception and trickery.
Only you, seeing that the skill wins, use the skill, see the physical strength win and then go to practice the physical strength, sympathize with others and expect someone to sympathize with themselves, and finally be deceived, but also cry.
In hindsight, how can someone who didn't do a good job of himself before the gun sounded, and learned something after the gun sounded, how can he win?
So I still recommend that you learn to fight for yourself when you have free time, one is the ability to be "self", and the other is the ability to "fight".
You have to learn knowledge at the same time, learn to make knowledge the ability to defeat the opponent, if you can't beat, the more you learn, the more you will only be angry.
Also in the improvement of cognition at the same time, think clearly about what you want, do not only know to talk about money, because talking about money hurts feelings.
The so-called making more money is actually after understanding what you want specifically, and then defeating other competitors who also want this thing, and then the value attached to this thing.
If you get it, you can make more money, and if you don't get it, it's useless to think more.
If you have time, you should eat, sleep, and then write down the most important thing for you in front of you in the next six months, and then write down a few other people who are also fighting for this thing.
Look at your own strengths and weaknesses, but also look at the strengths and weaknesses of others.
All that's left is to throw away all the other things you want to achieve, but don't matter, and give yourself half a year to die.
When you really get it, you will understand what is delayed gratification and what is self-gratification.
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