At present, once after the 8 or even after the 9 has become a father and mother, most of the family has the old and the young, young couples bear the dual pressure of supporting the elderly, educating children, daily also need to face the pressure of work, the elderly will choose to help pick up and drop off children this way, to reduce the pressure of young couples, due to our traditional family concept, even if the child has established a family, the elderly still hope to be able to do their best in the family, play the residual heat.
Now go to the kindergarten and primary school door to see, you will find a significant phenomenon, that is, the door waiting for the child to finish school most of the people are the elderly, if you ask them the reason, most people will answer "retirement, idle is also idle, it is better to help pick up children to reduce the burden of young people", in addition to transfer, some elderly people even take on the responsibility of daily children, this kind of generation education is not rare but is a common phenomenon, almost in most families have shadows, of course, subject to new and old concepts and other elements, Intergenerational education has caused many family conflicts.
For children, parents are of course the first responsible person, need to assume the responsibility of raising, education, but in the real environment, many parents are difficult to assume the responsibility of direct care, usually need the elderly assistance, for the problem of intergenerational education, many people hold a dismissive attitude, thinking that the elderly have backward thinking, lack of energy and other issues, in the education of children is certainly not as good as young people. But in fact, is this really the case, not necessarily, the reason why the problem of intergenerational education is so serious, it is necessarily that young parents have greater responsibility, because parenting is really an important issue, so it is necessary to analyze in detail why the contradiction of intergenerational education appears.
In the current society, intergenerational differences have become a common phenomenon, and intergenerational changes are becoming more and more frequent, and many elderly people cannot keep up with the speed of changes in the times and are gradually eliminated by society and the times. If you want to classify the parenting concepts of the elderly and young parents, then it is obvious that the elderly should tend to be emotional, most of the elderly are in the retirement stage, the thinking is more gentle, and the children are usually not strictly required, only hope that they can be healthy and safe.
This kind of thinking makes the elderly more tolerant of children, and they do not have any demands for children, and naturally they will not take into account the impact of the above behaviors and attitudes on children.
Compared with the elderly, young parents have received modern education, ideological concepts are more rational, in order to allow children to be competitive, usually strict requirements for children, to promote children can be able to develop in personality, intelligence and other aspects, very concerned about whether educational concepts and methods are scientific. The difference in starting points has led to differences between the two generations in parenting, and many contradictions have emerged in the process of intergenerational education.
Cultivating a child with a sound personality has a long way to go, but if there is a problem at the beginning, it will inevitably affect the child's life, and the emergence of intergenerational education and its gradual popularization show that it is in line with social trends, of course, it cannot be denied that there are some disadvantages in this kind of education method, of which the doting and lagging educational concept of the elderly for children is the main reason for the frequent occurrence of educational contradictions. The legitimacy and inevitability of intergenerational education need to be understood and affirmed, and we also need to understand that the elderly in the family are eager to share the pressure and the mood of teasing the grandchildren, and at the same time, we need to let the elderly know that the society of the times is changing, and the education of children cannot follow the old concepts and methods.
In the family, you can often hear such old people say, "You were not brought up by me like this, how can my grandson not do the same way?" The experience gained from educating parents reinforces the old man's understanding of old ways and ideas, but for the education of modern children, some are still experiences, but others become obstacles. The outbreak of family conflicts also has a lot to do with the way young parents deal with them, and many young parents will choose to blame and complain that there is no discussion, reason and reason to explain clearly to the elderly, so that the elderly and young parents are constantly divergent in parenting.
It can be seen that in order to solve the problem of intergenerational education, learning to communicate effectively is the key. As elders and the elderly, it is necessary to change their thinking in a timely manner, keep up with the pace of the times, and at the same time need to respect and understand the choices and wishes of the children's parents, understand that the main body of education for children is still the child's parents, can not overstep the line, but should play a role of assistance, so as to ensure family harmony and improve the educational effect. Young parents should understand the elderly and respect the elderly, and when there is a problem, they cannot blindly blame each other, but need to clarify the stakes and benefits, and jointly complete the education and support of their children after obtaining the recognition and understanding of the elderly.
It is real life that makes many families choose the way of intergenerational education, I believe that no matter what the way is to hope that children can be good, so even if there is a problem in intergenerational education, the elderly and parents should face it rationally, can not blame each other, find the direction and method to solve the problem, and actively explore new strategies for parenting while reducing the adverse impact of intergenerational education.