Marriage Transcript: How does a woman's sixth sense ruin a marriage?

01 Woman's Mysterious "Sixth Sense"

Going out to dinner with friends over the weekend and overhearing a conversation between a couple (and possibly a couple) at the next table:

F: Aren't you going to explain this to me?

M: What do you want me to explain?

F: We usually only say a few words a day in total, how can you and her (presumably a female colleague) talk so much in a day?

M: Aren't we talking about jobs? You hear it all too.

F: Work? Can't talk about work in the office, do you have to go to the café to talk?

man:...... Not only me and her, but other colleagues, went to the café to avoid the boss.

F: Oh, yes. What confession did you make on that 520 day, you are such a low-key person.

M: What confession?

F: Hmm, don't you know yourself, what "willing to replace you".

M: (Silent, speechless... That's a song title.

F: Song name? Where did you hear the song title? I've heard this song, and it's definitely not your style.

M: Speechless...

F: Are you sure you're not going to give me an explanation?

M: I don't have anything to explain.

F: Well, you say, where did you hear this?

M: Since you know it, why are you still asking me?

The woman collapsed and shed tears.

M: I did hear this from the sharing of her circle of friends, and I sent a screenshot of the sharing, but what does this mean?

F: Then I sent a song to share, why have I never seen you send a screenshot to share? I trust my instincts.

M: (sigh, silence) I really don't know, where do you get so much intuition? Why can't we have a good meal? It's really tiring that way.

I knew that what followed was an emotional outburst and conflict, and I couldn't bear to listen to it any longer. Before the waiter could order, he quickly dragged his friend away from the emotionally affected area.

Later, I mentally reconstructed the cause of the whole incident:

Men who have rarely sent a circle of friends and a silent and introverted personality posted a screenshot of the song "Willing to Replace You" in the circle of friends on the day of 520. This tiny detail was keenly captured by the woman, and she quickly thought of a female colleague who had been in frequent contact with men recently.

Then, I "watched" their chat records on my own, and found that in the past month, the place of their communication has exceeded the office, and from time to time, they have moved to the café, and the chat time is also from morning to night, intermittently almost non-stop throughout the day...

Thus, a big war caused by women's "intuition" was staged. I believe that will be a long unfinished process.

In psychology, "intuition", also known as the sixth sense, belongs to a form of expression of the subconscious. In life, I believe that every woman is no stranger to it.

For example, in reality, when wives are faced with a battle of infidelity, or even sometimes just a matter of turmoil, the person (usually the woman) often begins to describe the whole affair with this: "At that time, my intuition told me..."

Intuition, the "sixth sense", often becomes the primary clue and keyword for wives to "investigate" the entire infidelity.

02 The Sixth Sense – God's Gift to Women

When we watch TV, we often see similar footage: a kind mother or a virtuous wife, who is doing needlework, suddenly her fingertips are pricked by a needle, her brow suddenly tightens, and a bad "omen" appears in her mind, which is usually an accident in her son/husband who is out of town.

At this time, the TV camera often switches, and sure enough.

Conversely, if we imagine a man in the camera who is hunting and suddenly falls into a trap, his mind immediately comes to mind: Oh, is it my wife and children who have been invaded by wild beasts in the cave... We will think that this picture is not very real, even very funny.

Why is there such a difference? Because a woman's wonderful "sixth sense" is at work, and this "sixth sense" is something that men do not have.

Where does this sixth sense of a woman come from?

In ancient times, the main social division and survival duties of women were not to go out hunting, but to pick near the cave, and to take care of the young children in the cave, waiting for the man to return. Women's running speed is not as fast as men's, and the activity space and distance are far smaller than men's.

A woman's "sixth sense" seems to be a natural gift from God to a woman, giving a woman a pair of "clairvoyant eyes" that transcend time and space to "see" events that are happening in another space in the distance, or giving women the ability to directly "prejudge" across facts.

This ability is difficult for even women themselves to say where it comes from, but often it is so mysterious and precise.

A woman's sixth sense seems to be an innate gift that God gave to women when he created man.

In fact, in real life, the sixth sense is not so mysterious. It is in the process of evolution, due to the social division of labor attributes, that women have cultivated the ability to refine operations and the characteristics of rich associative thinking.

In life, when the husband tells a lie, the wife can often immediately and keenly capture this information, which can be said to be the role of intuition, and it can also be said that the wife's long-term meticulous observation and perception of the husband is caused.

For example, the husband usually does not like to blink when he speaks, but he suddenly blinked his eyes twice when answering the question just now; for example, the husband's eloquence has always been fluent, but how did he suddenly stutter a little...

Men tend to sneer at this intuition of women, but privately they marvel at this ability of women.

There is a saying that men are afraid of women's intuition because their intuition is too accurate; men hate women's suspicions, because these suspicions are like the scandals of celebrities, often not out of thin air, and men are too tired to deal with.

03 Beware of the "sixth sense" becoming the "ghost" in your relationship

Sweetie and her husband fell in love for four years and married for three years, adding up, they were just "seven years of itching" together.

Maybe it is sweetly subconsciously accepting the hint of the "seven-year itch", perhaps it is influenced by the peach news from the husbands of the sisters around them from time to time, or perhaps in this era, cheating and ambiguity are too common. Recently, sweet hearts have always been up and down, always worried about what kind of misconduct my husband has.

The reality is that the more you worry about something, the easier it is to happen because you've "preset" the event. Sure enough, Sweet's sixth sense "manifested", and she really found the "evidence" that her husband was "not quite right".

That day, when Sweet helped her husband wash clothes, she found a café dining ticket in her husband's clothes pocket, and Sweet seriously unfolded the small ticket that had been crumpled, took a closer look, and found that one of them was actually "love cappuccino", and this time Sweet only heard a hum in her head.

Because she knows that her husband never comes to touch coffee, if she invites customers to dinner, she knows that the industry customers she faces are basically all men, who would order such a "feminine" cup of coffee?

That day, Sweet's thoughts were stirred up by this small ticket, and the clothes were not in the mood to wash, so I sat on the couch and waited for my husband to come back and examine and question him.

The husband finally returned, and he seemed to be in a good mood that day, and he also brought back the duck neck that Sweet loved to nibble, without the slightest awareness that Sweet's face was already cloudy. Little did he know that a storm had been waiting for him for a long time.

Tiantian threw the small ticket in front of her husband, forced to hold back her anger, and asked in a strange way: "Oh, usually I always say that I am busy at work, who is so emotional to drink coffee?" ”

The husband was blinded by Sweetie's sudden move, and then he reacted and bowed his head and was silent.

Tiantian saw that her husband did not speak, "Obviously there is a ghost in my heart!" At this point, she became more angry and emotionally agitated, and asked, "You are talking!" ”

Sweet husband suppressed the anger and said calmly: "You look at the date above, I took Kiki that day, she didn't drink coffee, I ordered it for her." ”

Sweet saw the date on the receipt, which was the day when her husband's cousin Kiki came to the house as a guest. Originally, it was planned that Tiantian would be responsible for receiving her to play for two days, but on those two days, Tiantian's unit just had an urgent matter and could not leave, so she let her husband take her cousin to play.

My husband's cousin is 17 years old this year, is from the countryside, just finished taking the college entrance examination, take advantage of this holiday, to the city cousin to play for two days. My husband felt that her cousin was about to go to college in a big city, so he took her to experience "city life" in advance. It's that simple.

At this moment, it was Sweetie's turn to be silent, she knew that she was wrong, had nothing to say, and lowered her head sadly. And her husband's good mood was also made so much by Tiantian, which made her face unrecognizable. The husband only said one sentence, "I went downstairs to breathe", and then closed the door hard, leaving Sweet alone in a daze.

This kind of oolong event like sweet is staged in a variety of forms every day in the marriage of many people. There are also many women with this trait of sweetness. There are even women who are very proud of their "sixth sense" and feel that they are simply a natural detective.

As everyone knows, your "sixth sense" may not be a spiritual "premonition", but only a suspicion that lacks security and confidence.

A woman's "sixth sense nervous system" seems to be exceptionally developed, spreading throughout the brain and all corners of the body, with few external event stimuli, and these nerve buttons are easily activated. And the fact is that when the "sixth sense" evolves into jealousy, and even rises to the point of doubt, grass and trees, then its negative energy is very destructive to marriage.

So, women, really need to be wary of this magical sixth sense becoming the "ghost" in your relationship.

04 A woman's sixth sense should help us "turn a stone into gold" in marriage

If the above sweet incident can only be regarded as a complete oolong incident, then there are many marriages in life that are tormented by the "sixth sense". I think the more question for women to think about is how women should respond when the "sixth sense" flashes.

In married life, when a woman catches some small distractions, distractions and even deviant signs of men, can she delay anger and find out the ins and outs of the whole thing first. Sometimes it's because of your suspension that the results can be very different.

As a natural advantage of women, the role of the "sixth sense" should be limited to helping women perceive problems in time, as a tool and compass for "detectives" and judging directions, rather than using it as a "basis" for playing and questioning men, let alone letting the sixth sense evolve into a wind-catching and hysterical suspicion.

Because the latter will only make men afraid and tired, and will only accelerate the speed at which men can escape.

A woman's sixth sense, if used well, can turn your marriage into gold; if it is not used well, it may make your relationship with your partner drift away. In the final analysis, the "sixth sense" itself only has the function of investigating intelligence, providing clues, and prompting dangerous tasks, but does not have the function of catching suspects and completely solving cases.

Therefore, how to use the sixth sense well is also a very test of wisdom.

In love, we crave intimacy, but we need both to be able to breathe freely. As a hunting animal, a man has never lost the desire to run in his bones, and home is a base and "cave" for men to rest and recuperate when they are tired of running; and women, as nesting animals, often regard home as her whole world.

Times have changed, and perhaps women should also keep their world expanding, maintaining a running posture and a broader vision, so that men and women will be partners who run side by side and chase each other, rather than a relationship of waiting and being waiting, suspicion and suspicion.

Most women spend their entire lives constantly battling their own insecurity and fear of loss. But sometimes, allowing the "sixth sense" to become a transcendent force beyond nature reminds us to draw more attention back to ourselves and at the same time pay more attention to inner spiritual growth.

In this way, it is not worth living up to this talent that God has given us!