Now people's living standards are getting better and better, and parents are becoming more and more fond of their children. Therefore, more and more children have gradually become a complete "nibbling old man". However, their parents do not feel that there is anything wrong with their children's actions, but always feel that their children are very filial.
Aunt Li has a pair of children, since the birth of the two children, Aunt Li has done her best, always give all the best, to this pair of children she loves very much. Later, the two children also gradually grew up and had their own lives. Since the two children lived alone, Aunt Li has not lived with the children anymore. Because she believes that the old man should be more independent, and she and her wife and children have a certain amount of savings for so many years, they can live on their own.
However, since the birth of Aunt Li's grandson, this way of life has changed completely. The son used to rarely see Aunt Li, but now he is getting more and more frequent, and he always takes the child with him. And Aunt Li in order to make her son's family eat well, every time she has to prepare a very rich dish for her son's family, not to mention, she will also give her son a lot of money before her son leaves, which means that it is not easy for her son to have a child, and she is willing to make up for it and let her son live better.
It is precisely because of Aunt Li's move that Aunt Li's son is more and more willing to visit the old man. From the beginning of the month to go, it became a week, and then it became a two-day go. But Aunt Li did not think that her son was trying to do anything for himself, but felt that the child was very filial and often praised her child.
Most of the current parents are very fond of their children, even if the children have their own children, they are not willing to let go, and even feel that taking care of their grandchildren is also their responsibility and obligation, there will be like Aunt Li in the incident, willing to pay. But in fact, this kind of behavior is a "new type of nibbling on the old" way that appears in today's society. Most of the elderly do not think so, but also feel that the child is very filial piety and often comes to see themselves. This makes people feel cold for the elderly, but also feel helpless for the elderly.
How many kinds of "new nibbling old" are there?
1. Children appear to be filial, but in fact they treat their parents as ATMs
For example, what Aunt Li's son did in the above incident is actually a kind of "new type of nibbling on the old". Indeed, raising a child now costs a lot of money. However, parents have no responsibility or obligation to give us money to raise children. Like Aunt Li's son, I usually can't think of my parents, and when I see the money, I think that my parents' behavior is "nibbling on the old", but the poor old man is not aware of himself, thinking that the child is very filial piety.
2. The old man helps with the baby, and the effort is not flattering
Today's young people, most of them are usually very busy at work, even if they have children, they rarely have time to spend with their children. Therefore, at this time, they will ask the old man to come and help. This is actually understandable, but some people simply throw their children to the elderly, they do not bear any responsibility, and often reprimand the elderly, saying that the elderly are not. This kind of behavior is a typical "white-eyed wolf" behavior, not only in the "nibbling on the old", but also do not understand gratitude at all, bite back, very hateful, is a "new type of nibbling on the old" way.
3. Drag the family to the mouth to nibble on the old
Some people will drag the family to eat the old, and the family will eat the old, live in the old man, and use the old man in the name of accompanying the old man. This is also a "new type of nibbling on the old" way, the old people must recognize.
What should children do?
First of all, we must be clear that children are our own, and the elderly have no obligation to help us bring and raise us, and there is no reason to give us financial assistance. If the elderly help us with the children, we must first do not care about the children, it is best to bring them when they are fine. The second thing we have to remember is that no matter what the old man is, we should not lose our temper with the old man and make the old man feel cold. And giving companionship to the elderly is what we should do, not to accompany the elderly in order to get benefits from it. Like the practice of Aunt Li's son in the incident, it is not advisable.
Do you have these kinds of behaviors in your family? How do you usually filial piety to the elderly?
We can understand that young people today are very busy at work and have no time to take care of children. However, we cannot put all the responsibilities that belong to us on the elderly. You know, it is not easy for the elderly to raise us to grow up. The reason why they will help us with children is nothing more than because they are selfless, because they love us and children, and we should not take advantage of the old people to deceive the old people and become "old people".