Text | Rice grain mom
On New Year's Day, all kinds of red envelopes and New Year's greetings were sent in the group, and the circle of friends was flagged and dried for food.
I brushed the circle of friends, saw my colleague Chen Chen, actually made a movie + Japanese material + shopping + spa for myself
I immediately propped up the gossipy little motor, and the small window asked her: So happy, give yourself a magnification fake?!
Chen Chen replied with four words: Running away from home.
That's right, on the first day of the new year, this middle-aged woman ran away from home
While she was doing the spa, I talked to her for a while, and sure enough, the one who could annoy the middle-aged mother was either the bear child's father or the bear child's child
Half an hour of voice chat, spitting out the groove, Chen Chen said, in fact, think about it, it is all a big thing of sesame green beans, but the accumulation together makes people want to escape from this place.
Chen Chen Jiawa, 5-year-old male treasure, the first two and a half years, is Chen Chen himself full-time belt, the next two and a half years, sent to the kindergarten, the elderly pick up, daily Chen Chen accompanied more, at night together to read, paint, do handicrafts;
Every weekend is not idle, interest class day, go out for a day - climbing, picnic, exhibition, visit various museums, planetariums, science and technology museums, oceanariums, libraries, art galleries...
However, who does more, who is "wrong" more, every family is like this (our family is also, rice grain father with baby, as long as there is no tutoring homework, absolute fatherly kindness "laughs")
On New Year's Day, starting from the morning, the child got up to watch cartoons, Chen Chen said that first eat, the child is a little angry, eat is not good, medicine is not drunk (cough those days, the doctor prescribed medicine), cartoons have been watched for 20 minutes, but also to watch another episode and then watch another episode.
Chen Chen said that she had actually endured all morning, but thinking about the new year, she couldn't start with "yelling at the child"
However, I can't stand this stubborn baby and frequently challenge my mother's bottom line.
Finally, when the child wanted to draw, Chen Chen turned on the lamp for him, prepared the brush, and the baby exploded in place: saying that he wanted to take the pen himself and turn on the light himself, how did his mother do it?! Then the landslide cracked, and wept bitterly
In fact, this is just like the child sleepy at night, did not wake up in the morning and got up, the grain of rice was often like this when he was a child, that is, the gas is not smooth, it is to send! spleen! gas!
Chen Chen said that in order to avoid the expansion of the situation and unable to control her emotions, she fled the scene directly and went to take a shower.
After taking a bath, I was going to ease the awkward atmosphere with the child, and offered to do handicrafts together, but I was scared back by a word from the baby: Mom, I don't want you to be here, I want to do handicrafts with my father
Chen Chen said that she almost didn't have a mouthful of old blood spurting out.
"Well, you don't want me here, I don't want to be here myself!"
Then change into clothes, grab your bag and leave.
There is also an interlude in between. It is the father who lets the baby quickly keep the mother: hold the mother quickly, don't let the mother go!
The straight little guy still looked innocent and asked his father: Why don't you let your mother go?
When going out, Chen Chen still did not think about where to go, the big cold day, first mobile phone bought a time of the nearest movie ticket, the movie ended, out is just the Japanese food store, not in a hurry to eat a meal, while eating while brushing before intermittently did not watch much of the "Annual Comedy Competition", after eating should go shopping, consume food, and finally did a spa ~ perfect
Chen Chen said that when eating Japanese food, she had no temper anymore, and her body was full of comfort!
When watching the movie, I went out to get a vaccine in the morning, and my grandmother who was not at the scene of the crime came home and sent a WeChat message to my daughter (the rice grain mother wanted to say that the poor parents in the world were hearted, and also wanted to say that the grandfather still understood)
Chen Chen said that when eating, he wanted to send a WeChat to ask if the child had taken medicine at noon. Finally the left hand pressed the right hand, and reason triumphed over impulse
As it turns out, people are doing well.
At noon, I happily ordered pizza takeaway, ate chicken wings, chips, squid rings, and cakes, and drank drinks (these are usually more restrictive, especially when children cough, they will never eat fried, but also drink!). drink! material! ）
In the afternoon, the cartoon was added, watched for more than half an hour, and obediently drank the medicine.
The human flesh story machine is not at home, Dad puts on the audio story, listens to himself to sleep, and the baby gets up and plays with the car and the dinosaur for a while.
Chen Chen said that she was not at home, and Wa seemed to be happier: eating Fries, cakes, drinking drinks, watching cartoons one more time, not taking a nap, and taking advantage of his father's sleep, he brushed his father's mobile phone with vibrato, and no one stared at him who had to go downstairs to exercise, and he could rest assured that he could stay at home for a day.
To say to the rice grain mother, Baby and Mother have had a perfect day
In fact, every mother has to go through such a process, thinking that the child can not do without you, thinking that what you give to the child is the best, for the good of the child, all kinds of things that offend people are all mothers charging forward, and slowly, the mother becomes the "bad person".
It is the mother who takes them injections and coaxes them to take medicine; it is the mother who lets them study and enrolls them in class; it is the mother who makes them turn off the iPad and put down the mobile phone; it is the mother who lets them go out to play crazy before the end of the term, and it is the mother who obediently reviews at home...
In most families, dad can tutor homework for less than 2 minutes and run to the company to work overtime; he can secretly take the baby to play games, and also keep the little secrets of father and son;
Grandparents and grandparents can also tear down the mother's desk in front of their children when they are studying, saying that they will report so many classes to their children, arrange so much homework, have no time to play, and have no childhood. (Grandpa Rice also thinks that I let Rice Grain write homework, affecting family stability and unity" Husband is afraid of death, and my father is "fatal"!) 》）
In this year, middle-aged women, abdomen and back are attacked, left and right, not people inside and out.
But, so what?
After raising a baby for so many years, I have long figured out that we can be bad people, but we must be a bad person who makes us happy.
(Of course, if the family has a retribution, or if the other half is willing to take on the role of the bad guy, then... You can safely save the galaxy)
Mom, always see yourself first, see your emotions and needs.
Educating children, there is never a fixed pattern, an absolutely correct path.
You don't have to sacrifice yourself, you don't have to make your child appreciate you, let your family understand you, and do what you think is right.
The rest, leave it to time.
I advise colleagues that the child occasionally eats junk food for a day and will not get sick and hospitalized; learning one day less will not affect him from doing "Puwa" or "learning bully", and both the child and you need to breathe.
You must know how to decompress yourself and take a vacation.
Mothers who are full of complaints and resentment cannot educate good children. It's a "lose-lose".
Look, another colleague of mine also asked Chen Chen to sing and decompress next time
In other words, my colleague is also a female classmate with a story. Once Angry with the child, he took a taxi to a nearby star hotel to open a room, while taking a bubble bath, while placing an order to buy himself a necklace of 6,000 yuan
Rice grain mother is not to say, must spend money to decompress, you can in any way you like, find friends to chat, party, go cycling, fitness, yoga, find a studio to paint, or even fly alone to travel, as long as you like.
Like me, when baking is the most decompressing, only this time, I can completely forget a place in life, immerse myself in it, enjoy it.
The bread is baked, the mood is the best, and it is more pleasing to see the rice grains and the rice grain father.
Our tradition of Chinese is more humble and introverted, and we do not pay much attention to our own feelings, but care more about the people around us.
Especially for children, sacrificing their careers, jobs, and personal lives, and devoting almost all their time and energy to their children. This is a very common state in our Chinese families.
For example, when I was a child, my father would sometimes take the initiative to let me go out with my girlfriend to eat and go shopping, but even if I was outside, my heart was very entangled, on the one hand, I did not trust the child, on the other hand, I felt that my mother "abandoned her husband and abandoned her son" to go out on her own.
But after going out twice, I really feel that the child is not indispensable to me, I can't "self-righteously" think that others are not as good as I bring, do not trust the father, do not trust the old man.
I was constantly with my children, in fact, I deprived the rest of the family of the opportunity to get close to the children.
Moreover, life is not only children, husbands, families, temporarily put these aside, go to work, go to parties, to improve themselves or enjoy life, recharge and then go home, proper combat effectiveness burst
Rice mother wants to say, if you feel in your heart, this kind of self-abandonment and full devotion to your children can make you satisfied and happy, then boldly pay it, don't care what others say about "losing yourself", because for some people, children and families are part of the self.
But if any abandonment and sacrifice makes you feel uncomfortable, unhappy, or even bent on perfection, remember to pull out.
Isn't it nice to run away from home once in a while like my colleagues?
The next day, the sun rose as usual, and the mother who returned home was already full of blood!
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