Text | Rice grain mom
There are often messages from the mother in the background, saying that she is too busy at work, and it is very late to come home every day, except that she can read a few books with her baby before going to bed, and she can't do anything else.
I especially understand the powerlessness of working mothers. It feels like it's not enough to break the time into 8 petals
It is said that high-quality accompaniment, high-quality accompaniment, but no matter how high the quality, there must be "time" to lay the foundation!
When the child is very young, it is fine, the basic need is to eat, drink, sleep + play, the elderly at home or the nanny aunt is hard, it is possible to share more for us.
But as children grow up, all kinds of enlightenment, learning to keep up, these are handed over to the elderly? It can really make the old man run away from home every minute, and the mother can't do it
Colleague Chen Chen had often intermittent anxiety + staged self-blame because he did not have time to accompany the baby.
She is mainly too far from home, every night to get home is almost 8 o'clock, non-stop seamlessly with the baby, at most it is more than 1 hour.
Seeing that my son Xiaodou Ding is 5 years old, he always has to make some preparations for the young connection. Read the English picture book, do less than 10 additions and subtractions, 1 hour has passed. Not to mention that there is not enough time, but also often because of the arithmetic, mother and son turn their faces.
The next day at work, as soon as I looked at Chen Chen, my face was full of "anxiety protein", and I knew that the night before must have been a mother who was not kind and did not smile
As a "nosy star person" + "problem solving star person", this difficult bone, I will not let go
Set a good goal
Before you make a plan, you need to set goals.
First of all, I asked Chen Chen's appeal, that is, in the case of sufficient time, she hoped that the young girl would do at least what she wanted to do.
The conclusion is as follows -
【Language】
Ancient poems: memorize 60-80 poems;
It would be better to understand the meaning of some poems, but not to force it;
Literacy: know about 800 words;
Xiaodouding has always been less sensitive to Chinese characters, reading books mainly to see pictures, and has not shown any interest in words, so it is not appropriate to be too demanding in literacy;
(First semester of the first grade, literacy 300 ▲)
History, geography, traditional culture: this knowledge, as much as possible to understand, more familiar, the purpose is to cultivate interest;
Verbal expression: You can retell a short story.
【Mathematics】
Number: addition and subtraction within 20
Shape: Various shapes are combined and split
【English】
Stay interested, increase your listening vocabulary, and learn phonics naturally.
【Others】
Jump rope, shoot ball and other sports
In fact, the combing of the above goals, I and Chen Chen ran back and forth several times, Chen Chen's previous "tall" appeal, I "hit back to the original shape with a stick"
Because we have to consider the child's cognition, various aspects of the foundation and interests, but also consider the difficulty of implementation.
The goal is to be achieved, not to look up, and the rice grain mother has always believed that in the preschool and lower primary school grades, learning habits and learning interests are the most important.
The goal is too high to be climbed, it cannot be achieved, the adults are hit, the children are affected, why bother? Jogging in small steps, making learning a habit, can accumulate energy and run farther.
Split goals and refine tasks
The learning goals were set, and MiRima and Chen Chen analyzed what specific tasks needed to be done to achieve these goals.
Ancient poems, memorized 60-80 poems
I suggested that she directly give Xiao Dou Ding the ancient poems in the primary school, and I sent the sorted electronic version to Chen Chen, which could be printed.
But she was too lazy to print, so I let her directly enter a copy of ancient poems that primary school students must memorize, more than a dozen dollars, and there are pinyin and translations, which is also convenient to hold
The most important thing about memorizing ancient poems is to listen more, and the child's memory is super amazing. For a strange poem, children definitely memorize it much faster than we do, and they don't even need to know the meaning of the poem, they can remember it completely and follow it.
So the time to listen is guaranteed, and memorizing poems does not have any difficulty for children.
I previously gave Everyone Amway a "People Teach Reading" app in "The Ministry of Education has a blockbuster measure, 99% of people don't know", which has poems in primary and junior high school Language textbooks, the pronunciation is particularly clear and accurate, the speed of speech is just right, and it is completely enough to use this ear grinding.
If you want your child to understand the meaning behind the poem, parents go to tell their children, and the rice mother feels that it is quite difficult.
Therefore, I recommend watching poetry animation (such as "Falling in Love with Ancient Poetry") or poetry programs (such as "Chinese Poetry Conference", "Poetry Book China", etc.).
Don't look at it every day, look at the fragments of time, understand it, if the child is particularly interested in a poet, parents can check some more information and expand it.
Literacy 800
Chen Chen family xiaodou Ding, has been more than 5 years old, picture books read a lot, but the sensitive period of literacy has indeed not arrived, before using the literacy app, basically watched a lonely, a class down 15 minutes, the game had a very good time, learned 5 words, none of them remembered.
In the process of reading picture books, he was more reluctant to read them, so Chen Chen had been waiting for the flowers to blossom.
Recently, she has been a little anxious, afraid that the sensitive period of Xiao Douding's literacy has not been enough, and she only knows "one-two-three-four-five people with large hands", and will catch up after going to school.
Chen Chen has always been relatively passive in terms of children's literacy, she has not actually taken the initiative to teach Xiaodouding literacy, my suggestion is to brush "Four Five Fast Reading" two or three times before going to primary school for ten minutes a day.
Usually, when you encounter shops, signs, instruction manuals, bus stop signs, etc., you can identify them from time to time, in fact, the literacy of more than 600 words is certainly not a problem.
While learning, wait for the child's outbreak period, and then slowly it will snowball and become faster and faster.
So at this stage, there is no need to be anxious, there is no need to see that other people's children can already read picture books by themselves, how much they can read, each child's situation is different, the important thing is to keep up with the rhythm of their own baby.
History, geography, traditional culture, etc
In fact, it is equivalent to the accumulation of knowledge of the big language we say, this part of the content is very large, it takes a lot of time to listen, see, absorb, and generate interest, so it is still input in the form of grinding ears, watching animations, and documentaries, which is more provincial.
【Big Language Animation】This B station big language cartoon has too much information, and learning Chinese studies can be so fun!
【Big Language Documentary】Vomiting blood until 3:00 a.m.! To understand the great language of history, it is enough to watch these 20 documentaries of the gods!
【Historical Documentary】Praise! These 6 historical documentaries are worth children brushing N times!
Language expression can be exercised by repeating the picture book stories told with the child, and you can practice it from time to time when reading daily parent-child.
mathematics
Math part, in fact, I recommend that children play in middle school, preschool is important to sense numbers, understand the concept of numbers, the relationship between shape and shape, I recommend playing poker, playing board games, daily games and other forms to practice.
English
Of course, English still needs to be read a lot, a lot of listening and speaking, and natural phonics is also carried out on this basis.
But there is really no need to wait for a large vocabulary to listen, such as three or five thousand, and then learn natural phonics, because natural phonics in addition to learning, mainly rely on practice, while learning while practicing in reading is the king.
English learning forms are also more diverse, watching English cartoons, listening to familiar picture book audio, point reading pen, and ABC Reading, which is a provincial mother reading mode, are all used!
Regarding natural phonics, Mirima also wrote "A Thorough Natural Phonics: Practical Methods, Cartoons, Picture Books, APP, and Learning Resources Summary!" 》
Family members perform their respective duties
After the learning task is refined, the baby father, the baby mother, the elderly in the family, and the children themselves can perform their duties.
Since Chen Chen only has 1 hour of time to accompany the baby every day, it is necessary to try to arrange parent-child interaction within this 1 hour, and you can play the middle school thing, after all, the parent-child relationship is the most important.
If the mother can only accompany the baby for 1 hour a day, and this 1 hour is spent in arithmetic, reading, memorizing poems... What did the mother become in the eyes of the child?
Therefore, when assigning tasks to family members, it is necessary to consider the ability and feelings of the elderly, the child's ability to learn independently, and the time of the baby's father and mother.
Like the Chen Chen family, the elderly are older and not in good health, and they certainly cannot add too much childcare burden to the elderly, so after kindergarten, there are three things:
17:00-18:20 - Play: outdoor activities, do not go home after school, play in the community for more than an hour, the elderly can take the ball when picking up the baby, with the jump rope, practice with the children in the community, the child is more motivated;
18:30-19:00 - Eat: Kindergarten dinner is eaten early, so you can eat some simple meals during this time home, such as small ravioli, fruit, milk, boil a few shrimp (kindergarten fish and shrimp are relatively small) and so on;
18:30 - Listen: After arriving home, the audio can appear, ancient poems, historical stories, popular science audio, English picture books or grading... Children love to hear what they hear.
Between 19:00-20:00, watch 15 minutes of English cartoons, the rest of the time, Xiaodouding can move freely, read English stories with a bit of reading pen, or use "reading cows" to read picture books, draw, play With Lego, play with toys, etc. When playing, the audio can be turned on all the time, and how much can be listened to does not have to be too entangled.
If the baby father comes home a little earlier, you can take the baby to exercise for a while, such as bungee jumping at home, laying the floor mat to play for a while "jump rope every day"
20:00-21:00, 1 hour after the mother returns home, the focus is on 10-15 minutes of "Four or Five Quick Reading", 30 minutes of parent-child reading, including Chinese and English, 15-20 minutes, playing poker, board games, etc. with the baby, which can also improve mathematical ability. (Of course, if these can be assured to be handed over to teammates to do, you don't have to read this article ha ~)
Finally, the time for the baby to wash should also be used well, the time for the baby to brush her teeth, tell him about the poetry, the time for the baby to wash her feet, you can let him tell us stories.
After going to bed, you can turn off the light and put on three or four English picture book stories and sleep.
There is no natural phonics written here, because natural phonics does take time, my advice to Chen Chen is to put it on the weekend to learn, usually practice in parent-child reading, and you can show a baby one or two episodes of self-spelling cartoons "Letter Building Blocks" every day.
In fact, Chen Chen also wants to take XiaoDouding to do "Mobi Love Mathematics", and I also recommend putting it on the weekend.
Only accompany the baby for 1 hour a day, can you really get the baby's language number in English? In fact, this is a false proposition, depending on how far you want to "get it done".
Mom is not omnipotent, we can only do is to maximize the use of limited time, the whole family to perform their duties: the logistics support to the elderly; let the teammates try not to drag their legs, play their own strengths; the mother to do efficient companionship; the most important thing is to cultivate the child's ability and habit of independent learning.
Today, My Mother rice wrote this article, not to directly list a schedule for you to copy your homework, but to share the ideas and methods of time management and planning that I find more useful, hoping to help everyone.
Finally, I would like to say that whether it is a working mother or a full-time mother, as long as you try your best to accompany it, your child does not need a mother who is full of regret and guilt, what the child needs is a mother who has herself and is positive and happy.
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