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We always think that with sincerity, we can exchange true feelings. But the world of feelings is so complicated, you think you have won the game, but you don't know that if you are not careful, you will be in a mess.
Women will always involuntarily lose their minds in love, and sometimes in order to get each other, they will constantly lower their bottom line and principles.
Once arrogant, he will also become low and humble in the face of love, and cater to the other party in a flattering way, thinking that he will give the same return.
But if you think so, you are really wrong, in the world of love, there is no reward for paying, and sometimes it is necessary to use some small means to tie each other.
Capturing a man's heart is not based on true feelings, but on routines.
A smart woman will easily eat a man, because she is well versed in love skills, just let the man have these two feelings in love, he will be firmly eaten by you.
01 Make him feel like you're hard
There is a saying on the Internet: "What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear." To put it simply, people are always blind to the things that are easy to get, but they are always grumpy about the difficult things.
Women, if you want men to value you, you must let yourself have such a feeling in men's hearts: you are difficult to get by him.
Not long ago, a netizen complained about her and her husband.
She and her husband were introduced to each other, the two people felt good when they first met, after a period of time together, the two successfully married and had children, and their careers were still going well.
For two people working hard in a strange city, it is not easy to have a life now, so I, a netizen, is very satisfied with the status quo.
But an incident that happened not long ago made her a little uneasy, because her husband attended a class reunion, so he also contacted his long-lost first love, and the two also added WeChat.
Since that party, my husband is like a changed person, he loves to dress himself up more than before he got married, his face is always happy, and every day after work, he spends most of his time holding his mobile phone to send WeChat, and he is often silly.
Netizens said that she knew that her husband and his first love had not actually happened anything out of the ordinary, but he was obsessed with her.
Some people once said that why the first love is always unforgettable, that is, never got it, so it is cherished.
There is a lyric that sings well: "But whatever is not obtained, but what is past, is always the most right." "For what is lost, people will regret and cherish, and for what they have not gained, people will always put it on the tip of their hearts and remember it from time to time." However, for what has been obtained at the moment, people do not know how to cherish the present.
So, if you want a man to obsess over you, don't let yourself be easily caught by him. Properly learn to refuse, make yourself look very rare, which will arouse a man's appetite.
There is a line in the movie "The Godfather": "The softness of the heart without boundaries will only make the other party inch forward." Unprincipled kindness will only make the other person do whatever he wants. ”
For men, only when a woman is fierce, does not let herself easily enter his world, and does not let him easily succeed, he will pay attention to you. Because, effortlessly obtained, can not satisfy his desire to conquer, he will not cherish you at all. Only if he tries his best to get it, he will cherish it more.
02 Let him see your value
A man's appreciation for a woman is not only in her looks, figure, etc., he is more concerned about the woman's own value.
There is a sentence in "Divorce Lawyer": "Wall Street terminology says that every transaction has a position, and a relationship with a woman is called a trading position." When the value falls, if you don't choose to throw her out, then you will smash it! ”
Even if a woman is beautiful, if the man can't see where she is worth, then she is worthless in the eyes of the man.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun before the divorce is such a woman with a vain appearance and figure, she will only go shopping, spend money, gossip with her husband for a day, and then complain to her girlfriend Tang Jing about her parents. She thought her life was very abundant and was proud of it.
But all this is nothing in the eyes of the workplace elite He Han, and what he despises most is this kind of "chestless and brainless" woman. In fact, her husband Chen Junsheng has long been tired of Luo Zijun, although Xiaosan Lingling is already a middle-aged woman who is no longer young, but she is a self-supporting woman in chen Junsheng's eyes, although she only has a college degree, but her work ability does not lose any undergraduate.
In the eyes of successful men like He Han and Chen Junsheng, Ling Ling, who has low appearance, is more valuable than Luo Zijun, who has high appearance.
And a man is willing to associate with a woman, but also more concerned about what kind of value experience this woman can bring to himself. After all, the relationship between people is, in the final analysis, an equivalent exchange of benefits, and high-value men will not waste time and energy on low-value women.
Therefore, if you want a man to look up to you, it is not by your external advantages, but by constantly improving your self-worth, and when your value can make him sincerely admire, he will naturally be firmly eaten by you.
And a woman, in order to make herself both valuable and difficult to get, must be cruel to herself. Constantly optimize and upgrade yourself, and refuse external temptations with a fierce heart, so that you can deserve really beautiful people and things.
In the face of unsatisfactory feelings, women should also be fierce and decisive, telling themselves that the things of feelings cannot be forced, and everything is more free to live than to force.
Sanmao once said: "What heaven does not give me, no matter how I interlock ten fingers, it still leaks." What is given to me, no matter how I have lost my hand in the past, will have it. ”
In the face of any kind of feeling, in fact, there should be such an open-minded mentality, because good feelings must be double rushing, the other party is warm, you have to go to greet each other with enthusiasm, the other party is indifferent, you have to put away your enthusiasm, do not put up a low and humble posture for love, the more humble you are, the more the other party will not cherish.
Therefore, a smart woman will not suffer in love, she has deeply understood the truth of feelings before stepping into love, will not sink in love, and will not lose herself because of love, but know how to use the skills of love, and learn to grow and mature in love.
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