Text: Xuan Xiaolei
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Watching more than a dozen episodes of "Xiao MinJia" intermittently, I found that so far, if you want to say that the mixture is very poor, It is Jin Bo alone.
Even if others have troubles and pains, but at least they have no worries about food and clothing, but Jin Bo seems to be embarrassed and annoying.
With a debt of 400,000 yuan, he chased his son to Beijing, rubbed his ex-wife, and used his son.
Even the ex-father-in-law still had to help him, and he could only say that he was really incompetent and speechless.
Say that you are looking for a job, looking for many days have not seen him find a serious job, even if you are going to do hard work, can you find one to do first?
In this way, you still have to borrow wine to pour sorrow. Sometimes you have to avoid creditors, which seems a little pitiful, but who caused it?
From his own point of view, he never thought of it as his own problem.
Divorced, he thinks it's because his ex-wife Xiaomin cheated on him, and even lied to his son that his mother gave him a green hat. Thus rational and decadent and negative, drinking and mixing days.
In debt, he felt that he had made a mistake in investment in order to make money for his son, and even blamed himself for not marrying Li Ping, who was "more prosperous".
Anyway, in his place, if he mixes well, it is the fault of others, and it is his own fate.
So pretending to be pitiful everywhere, in fact, playing a rogue, in fact, eating and lazy, complaining about the world, never working hard.
Maybe he will also blame his parents, because his parents were local heroes, and he is also a rich second generation.
As a result, once they were all lost, they thought they were helpless and sad. Wash your face with tears and anesthetize with wine.
As he said to his son, "Drink to be happy", but isn't it his own reason to be happy or not?
Why he never felt that he had been born like this is his own problems and responsibilities.
In fact, Jin Bo's problem, he himself can already solve, and should go back to the time when he began to fall.
His parents went, the factory fell, there was no money, there was no more to rely on, and he, the once mighty chief of the security section, also stepped down.
He did not grasp this turning point because he was very resistant to this change, and he refused to accept this change.
So that after looking for a job, I couldn't put it down, and I always thought about how decent and beautiful I used to be.
Because I didn't accept it, I had no serious things to do, no income, and I didn't have a good mood, and I began to drink heavily, which became a vicious circle.
If he accepted the setback and went back to find a job, Xiao Min might not leave him, and he could still have a happy family of three.
Someone said, "God doesn't give anyone a burden that can't move, all the problems you encounter are gifts, there is no need to answer questions at all, you realize that this trouble is an exam paper, and you have passed." Conversely, no matter how many questions you do, it is zero points. ”
This is very appropriate to apply to Jin Bo, and he can solve the changes at that time.
Accept it, you will start over, start from a low place, start with a normal career, and realize that this transformation is to make yourself grow up quickly and become a person who is no longer dependent on his parents.
Unfortunately, he did not realize it, but instead cried bitterly, hated the unfair fate, and hated himself for falling.
Therefore, he can only go farther and farther on the wrong reasoning, the days become more and more messy, the situation is getting worse and worse, and the character is getting worse and worse.
In reality, such people are everywhere, and you can make a comparison, those who accept troubles and problems, will quickly solve the problem and live a good life again.
And those who do not accept changes and problems, complain, do not accept, resist, will stop where they are, unable to move forward, and then begin to regress, and begin to get worse and worse.
Therefore, sometimes "admitting life" is also OK, for example, you find an object, at first you think he has great potential, but soon after marriage, he failed in business and owed a bunch of debts, so you are unhappy, all kinds of complaints, all kinds of thinking about how to "return", thinking about whether to break up and divorce it, change one, if you can't get rid of it, you will constantly regret that you have married the wrong person.
With such a thought, your husband and wife relationship will become worse and worse, two people together will become a kind of torture, and the other party will also be affected by your negative energy and negative aura, making it less likely to get up from the problem.
On the contrary, you accept this change of him, accept that he is in debt, comfort him to work hard to start again, have debts to repay slowly, tell yourself who you choose to be responsible for the end, you must not give up, you have to share happiness and suffering, so that your aura is positive and positive, you will also sprinkle on your lover's body like sunshine and rain, he will rekindle his fighting spirit, will have more strength and courage, will be more down-to-earth and at ease, and will be more hopeful and motivated to do things, so that the difficulties he faces will be solved faster. Your feelings will also be strengthened by facing difficulties together and solving difficulties.
In short, believe that the problems you encounter can be solved by yourself, and at the same time, you must accept everything and everyone that is happening in the moment.
Don't resist, don't complain, don't look for other people's reasons, don't blame fate.
As soon as you start to accept it, many problems will naturally be solved.
You have to believe that we who are "self-sufficient" may really be "omnipotent."