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01. Preface
Love, it is like a fog that people can't see clearly, in it, it is always easy to get lost.
Zhang Ailing said: "Love is not complicated, come and go but three words, not I love you, I hate you, or forget it, how are you, sorry." ”
After a woman falls in love with a person, she hopes that the man can keep his original intention and love each other for the rest of his life.
However, love is fragile, and even if it is carefully held in the palm of the hand, it may lose its luster, lose its temperature, and lose its original appearance with the passage of time.
Love makes women intoxicated, but also makes women heartbroken.
How many women, in love, lost their way, are unwilling to face soberly. I know that men no longer love, but they are still like moths to the fire, and love is unimpeded.
From a man's words and deeds, you can see whether he loves you or not.
Men, when you really want to leave, don't say anything, but the behavior will become very "generous".
02, excessive generosity in interpersonal relationships
Love can make a person nervous and cautious. Lest she appear around her who are better than him and rob her of her sincerity.
"Jealousy" is a manifestation of love.
Xu Wenchang in "An Jia", after finding his wife Zhang Chengcheng with other men, he was very sad at first, but after he understood that she did not love him anymore, he also withdrew his sincerity.
After that, Xu Wenchang quickly moved out of his home and went to rent a house. Zhang Chengcheng has been running after Xu Wenchang, hoping that he will forgive her.
However, Xu Wenchang made up his mind to break up, because he understood that they would never be able to return to the way they used to be with her.
Since then, he didn't care who Zhang Chengcheng was with or whether he would interact with that man. I don't love it anymore, so I don't get jealous anymore.
Men who really love a woman will put her in a very important position in their hearts.
If she has friends of the opposite sex around her, there will be a sense of crisis. He will try to tell the woman about his dissatisfaction, hoping that she can respond, so that his heart will be solid.
If you don't love a woman anymore, you will avoid the woman and don't want to have too much contact with her. There is less and less contact with each other, and it doesn't matter who is around her, she has become very "generous" to her social interaction.
03, in life, no longer restrain women
Men who love a woman will show great enthusiasm. Wanting to be with a woman, the two snuggled up tightly and never wanted to be separated again.
He would put the woman's chat dialog box to the top, and when he saw that the other party had a message coming, he would reply at the first time.
They will also get angry because women get too close to their friends of the opposite sex, and they will also get angry because women don't know how to take good care of themselves.
When a man doesn't love a woman, the most he might say is "casual."
He no longer cared whether women would come home after work or whether they had a common topic with each other. Even if they live under the same roof, they don't pay too much attention to her.
Even if a man knows that some of the things women do are wrong and not conducive to the development of the marriage, they will not say much. In life, everywhere is very "generous".
Generous to the point of no longer caring about women's lives. Whether she was happy or sad, whether her life was difficult or difficult, he didn't care anymore.
When a man no longer has such demands on women, it is actually a manifestation of not loving. Because I don't love anymore, I don't care anymore, I will no longer care and care.
04, the mouth is generous, no longer quarrel
When two people live together, there will always be many troubles, there will be many frictions.
In a relationship, men and women talk to each other, often because he cares about her and hurts her. At the same time, men also hope to be cared for by women and cherished by her.
When men stop arguing with women, it's not that the two people are running into a very tacit understanding, but that they are tired and don't want to run the relationship anymore.
When two people are in love, there are any contradictions and conflicts, no longer quarrel, seemingly generous, but in fact, indifferent, lazy to pay attention.
Some men feel tired, the breakup is not good from their mouths, will use the "cold" woman way, hinting at women, in fact, the relationship between the two people has no way to continue.
Don't want to have a fierce conflict with women anymore. When women offer opinions, the man's mind is left with only "good gathering and good dispersion".
The "generosity" of men when they quarrel is actually not love.
Men's non-contact, non-communication, in fact, want to "break the connection", is to end the feelings between each other.
05. Summary
Woman, live a little more sober. When a man really wants to leave, you are actually acting "generous".
Yishu said: "People's hearts become cold day by day, leaves turn yellow day by day, stories are written slowly to the end, and love becomes unloved because of too much disappointment." ”
When men start to become generous, no longer care what kind of friends you have around, what time of the night to come home, no longer argue with you over a small matter. In fact, this is a signal that he is beginning to be disappointed in the relationship.
He refuses to talk to you, and even what he says to you will be harsh or cold.
He no longer has that caring temperature in his body, but is very "generous" to everything about you, in fact, because he is useless in everything about you.
A man is "generous" to a woman, generous enough to ignore her, cold and alienated from her, because he does not love and wants to leave.
Women, when a man is not in love, please learn to stop the loss in time. On the road of life, don't love someone who doesn't love you, because time is precious and youth is precious.
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Author: Xia Mo MO, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.