As the saying goes, "The dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch holes"
Many people think that what kind of parents raise what kind of children.
But recently, a video of a 985 mother spitting on the Internet about her scum son went viral, and at the same time caused a hot discussion.
After all, the "985 parents cultivate scum sons" is very unexpected.
985 mother complained about her son's scum and bar fine, and his father had two heart attacks, and the reason behind it attracted heated discussion
In the video, a mother in Beijing calmly complains about her son who is in her third year of high school in front of the camera: "My husband and I are both 985 masters. After giving birth to his son, he paid great attention to his son's learning, from the first grade of primary school, his father accompanied him to do homework and write homework, and as a result, in the third year of high school, the child was tired of learning, and I became the mother of the scum. Not only is it a scum, but also a lever, saying three sentences back and forth, and making my husband angry twice. ”
Finally, when talking about her wishes, she said: "I have no other expectations for my children, as long as they are healthy and happy, and there is no way to learn well, they can only accept." ”
In this short video, the highly educated mother is full of helplessness whether she talks about her son's academic performance or her own personality, or her son's wishes, and can only obey the destiny.
What this mother said has also aroused the heated discussion of the majority of netizens.
Many people must have a common question in their hearts, that is, "Why can a pair of 985 school bullies raise so-called scum children?" "If you can accept the reality that your child's grades are not good, why should you complain online?"
Both parents have a 985 university master's degree, and their academic performance is certainly unquestionable.
However, parents have high education and good work, which does not mean that educating children is necessarily the best, nor does it mean that their children will be able to learn well.
From this video, it can be seen that the mother did not completely transmit the concept that the child's grades cannot be forced, and did not completely put down the fact that the child is a "scum", but saw a lot of helplessness.
From the tone of voice, I heard that it was a low voice of resentment, not a positive and considerable one.
Perhaps this parent still wonders why the highly educated self, the child's learning is so poor, not even the middle school." Even if you don't understand it, it can't change the status quo.
Perhaps many parents have looked at this problem from the perspective of this parent, and even sympathized with this mother, thinking that they all felt the same experience, and all had the idea of "hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix" for their children.
But at the same time, we need to think about it in a different way. Can the children of highly educated parents only be academic bullies?
In fact, this video of the mother spitting on her son reveals the real reason behind it:
If from the child's point of view, the child becomes a "scum", becoming a "bar spirit" is not entirely the child's fault.
So can you think about it from your child's point of view?
If we were the children of a pair of 985 parents ourselves, wouldn't we be stressed?
If you can't surpass your parents in one aspect, it is actually a burden. There will be a deep sense of frustration.
What parent does not want their child to achieve achievements, or even surpass themselves, and even some parents often lack praise for their children, and put criticism, comparison and other ways on their lips, so how can children develop mental health?
The front of the video is that he used words such as "985", "talent introduction" and "settled in Beijing" to praise himself and his husband to show how good they were, and then used words such as "scum" and "leverage" to demean the children.
Such a strong contrast shows that this is the child's own reason, and the parents should do everything.
Later in the video, the highly educated mother wishes her son to be healthy and happy. If this is a good wish, it is rather a kind of helplessness of "retreating to the second place".
So, how to cultivate children into school bullies?
Parents should let go of their hands, rather than pulling their children forward tightly and not letting their children breathe.
Let children learn actively and like to learn from the bottom of their hearts, rather than passive learning. In that case, children will lack the ability to think independently and innovate.
At the same time, do not put too much pressure on the child. You should not think that if your child learns poorly, you will be ashamed of yourself.
For children, there is a pair of highly educated parents, the child is not less stressed than the parents, often criticized, and even cause children to rebel, "broken jar broken" situation.
Write at the end:
"All roads lead to Rome", not all children must go to prestigious universities and take master's degrees. It is not to be a bully, but to be a good child. If parents only care about their children's grades, this is a selfish obsession, not a heartfelt love.