The parents graduated from 985 schools, but the son was a scumbag, and he did not find the truth until he attended the parent-teacher conference
The difference between men and women, henggu has it
Many times, boys develop later than girls
As parents, we must understand the rules
Be more encouraged, more guided, and believe that progress may be late, but it will not be absent
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Near the winter vacation, after the final exam, the teacher in the parent group notified that there would be a parent-teacher conference tomorrow
Although I was mentally prepared, I knew that my son would not do too well in the test
But things still unexpectedly hit me hard
My son's grades can be said to be a mess, and several homework are "poor"
The ranking could not be lower
Although the whole parent-teacher meeting, the teacher did not mention a word
But I was struck by lightning, and my face hurt as if I had been beaten!
Looking around at the moms and dads, I found that almost all of them were boys' parents like me
Those who were obviously smiling and were congratulated by the teacher several times were almost all the parents of the girls
As a famous student who graduated from 985, I originally thought that my and my children's fathers had good learning genes
The son's study should also be ten to nine stable
No matter how bad it is, it will not be at the bottom, but now reality has slapped me hard
As far as my son's grades are concerned, I am really afraid that he will not even be able to attend high school in the future
Not to mention going to a prestigious university and graduating into a famous enterprise
Is my son destined to be a scum, no better than someone else's daughter?
Is the gap between men and women so obvious?
To this end, I deliberately went through the data and made a survey comparison
It was found that in 2020, a job search network reported on the ratio of male and female college students
It shows that male college students are 4.08% less than female college students.
It can be said that in recent years, the phenomenon of "yin, prosperity and yang decline" in China's education circles has become more and more obvious
Some experts even assert that boys will have fewer and fewer opportunities to get a university education
As parents of boys, it is also time for us to adjust our thinking and recognize the weaknesses of boys
Greater emphasis has been placed on boys' education
01
Boys do "open late" and learn to suffer losses
I don't know if you have noticed
In elementary and junior high school, the best grades in the class are often girls
Boys also have more outstanding learning, but most boys have poor comprehension
Many questions, the teacher said again, the girl may understand at once
But for boys, it is difficult to understand
Even, the teacher said it many times, but they were still dazed
Are boys inherently stupid?
Of course not, scientifically speaking, the reason why boys show weak comprehension and poor learning during this period
In fact, it is because their brain development is relatively sluggish, compared to girls, boys at this time
Whether it is the "callosum" that links the left and right brains, the "prefrontal lobe" of subjective decision-making, and the "occipital lobe" that receives sensory information to process
Both are slower than girls
As a result, they are slower and lag behind girls in their studies
A university professor has called on parents to enroll boys a year later
That's why
As a parent, you must not rush to force your child
Encourage and trust your children, and when the time comes, they will catch up
02
Boys do have "poor self-control" and suffer losses in learning
An uncle who worked in the pediatric psychology department of the hospital for decades once told such a story in my house
One day a couple of parents came to his office with their sons in a hurry
Indicate that your child must be "big problem"
As a result, when the uncle checked, the boys had no problems with intelligence and psychology
So he asked the boy's parents why they made such a judgment.
The boy's parents said anxiously
Their children are actually good at learning, but as long as they do their homework at home
They find that the child can't sit still at all, either grinding here or rubbing there, and from time to time they will find excuses to get up and walk around
They think the child must have ADHD
So the uncle had to tell them that in fact, the child was completely normal
Because boys have something called "testosterone" in their bodies, its secretion will cause boys to be active and have poor self-control
It takes a lot of consumption to calm down
Indeed, it is not difficult for us to find out in life
Boys are more likely to be seduced by the outside world than girls
Most of the people who like to play games and play mobile phones are boys
Therefore, compared to those girls who have strong self-control and can sit down and study seriously
Boys' grades are naturally much worse
In the program of "Super Youth League", Ma Qinwei from Tsinghua University talked about his experience
According to him, when he was in elementary school, he was also addicted to online games for a long time and could not control himself completely
As parents, you must supervise your boys and give them timely guidance and encouragement
In this way, children can avoid the decline in grades because of greed
03
After the fifth and fifth triage of the middle school entrance examination, parents can no longer be careless
My cousin has been annoyed lately
Because of her family's treasure, she did not do well in the middle school examination this year
I didn't even get a normal high school, so I had to choose a vocational and technical school to go to school
As a result, after a semester, the child not only did not make much progress, but developed a lot of stinky diseases
According to him, the surrounding students are also some of the poor learning, everyone arrived at the technical school, without the supervision of teachers and parents, it is easy to be infected by the surrounding environment
Indeed, after the "five-five diversion" of the middle school entrance examination, the fate of the child's life can be said to be set in advance
Although going to a prestigious school does not necessarily mean great wealth and fame and fortune
But those who graduate from technical schools will undoubtedly suffer more and sin more in the future
There will also be a lot of sinking in career choices
As parents of boys, we don't always think that when our children are older, they will be enlightened
It is good to go to high school, you know, the form is urgent, and we can't afford to be careless anymore
So how can we make our boys competitive and stand out in the competition of the future?
Here are 3 points that I hope all parents will do
Respect the growth rules of boys
I often hear some parents complain
"Sons are debt collectors"
"If you are angry with a son and die, look at the people who give birth to a daughter, that is the first class"
To be honest, such a comparison is not only meaningless, but also hurts the boy's self-esteem
Affects the growth and development of boys
As a parent, understand that boys have their own laws of growth
We can't and shouldn't always compare him to a girl, in the process of educating boys
Parents should take the initiative to discover their children's advantages
Encourage children, guide children, let children build self-confidence, so that children can play to the greatest advantage
There is a program in "Zero Zero" that includes a boy named Chi Yiyang
His grades were very bad, but his parents did not blame him, but joined the parenting experts
Patiently guiding Chi Yiyang, he has achieved great results in the rugby event he is good at
Nowadays, it is also focusing on developing him to become a professional player
Give your child a little more time
The famous education scholar Hei Youlong once told such a case
His son founded the country, and his grades were not very good since he was a child, and he even scored zero points for the test
However, neither Hei Youlong nor his wife Li Bailing criticized his son, but said with relief
"It doesn't matter, next time you may get a fritter and an egg"
In this way, the son, with their encouragement, became better and better, and finally became the director of the hospital
Many times, the more impatient you are, the more stress your child will be under
The more you can't learn, as a parent, you must be patient and give your children more time
Do some brain development
Since many times boys learn poorly because of late brain development
At this time, parents can consciously help their children develop their brains
Learn to play to the strengths and avoid the weaknesses, let the child's thinking be more active, and the learning will naturally become better
04
Raising an independent, excellent, outstanding son is not easy
Parents must understand more about the laws of boys' growth, pay more attention to children, understand children, and give children a little more time and encouragement
I believe that with your company and love, children will burst out of their own strength
Thus becoming a promising, promising young man
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