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Yi Shu said: As long as you are willing to let go, you can return to freedom.
What kind of life you will live depends on how you run your life. People who dare to love and dare to hate usually live more thoroughly, and the perspective of looking at things will not be too narrow.
At the same time, they also know how to use the right way to manage feelings, whether it is affection or love, if the other party is no longer worth paying for themselves, they will stop the loss in time.
We all hope that we have many friends and that life can be smooth and smooth. When I was young, I always liked to calculate and compare, and in order to look good, I forced myself to socialize more.
But no matter how you toss and turn, if you want to live a full life, you still have to learn to give up.
In middle age, there are three things that are no longer valuable, but unfortunately some people are just reluctant to put it down, and the result will only be to put themselves in prison, the more tired they live, the more tired they are, why bother.
01: Family affection that is painstakingly managed but is always unequal
I have seen a question on the Internet: "Why do brothers and sisters who loved each other when they were young began to drift apart when they grew up?" ”
One of the most praised answers is: "Because each has its own life, each has its own family, and most people are running and toiling for their livelihood." ”
Yes, when they were young, they were very close to each other, but when they became adults, they realized that family affection may not be long-lasting.
Especially in middle age, everyone has their own family and burden, and there is no longer so much time to maintain sincere feelings. Sometimes, even for a little profit, the two sides never interact with each other again, like enemies.
For people who value feelings, even if they know that family affection has changed, they still can't let go.
But after forty years of age, the family affection that you need to bother with is no longer worth it. Only by seeing through it early can we have true freedom.
Just like Fan Shengmei in the TV series "Ode to Joy", she has paid for her family for many years, and the result is only hurt, and the parents' patriarchal thinking cannot be changed, and no matter how much she pays, she cannot be seen.
Since it will only consume itself, why not choose to give it up? Only by living for themselves can people really have happiness.
02: Meaninglessness only consumes one's own social
The writer Wang Kailing once said: Crowds of people are often people's graves.
A group of people interact together, all with smiles, and the way they talk and laugh looks so beautiful. However, blindly gregarious, when the feast is dispersed, the heart remains only sad.
Especially in middle age, if you don't have the ability yourself, no matter how social it is, it is meaningless. Because really powerful people will not find you as friends at all, and you will not be able to build good connections.
In the adult world, meaningless social networking has long been worthless, but unfortunately many people are reluctant to let go. I always think that if I miss the opportunity to get to know more people, I will not see hope in life.
I like the saying: "Only by selectively integrating into a certain group can one truly make oneself comfortable." ”
The smarter the person, the more he will not go with the flow after forty years old, and he will no longer participate in useless social interactions. They are only willing to spend time with like-minded people, and they can be honest with each other and encourage each other.
A truly good friendship does not care about more or less, but both parties can surrender their hearts and give enough trust.
03: The obsession of not being able to have but always torturing the self
There is a line in the movie "The Old Man of Three Rivers": "Everyone can only accompany you for a while, and sooner or later they will be separated." ”
Love is always longing, the beauty of the past is so real, but in the moment of separation, we can only accept the reality.
The love-not-of-love story happens every day, and it's just the norm.
The past experience should be completely past, so that you have the time and energy to enjoy the happiness of the present. Especially in middle age, the obsession that cannot be possessed is no longer worth it, but unfortunately, some people still can't put it down.
There are many people in life, because they loved someone when they were young, and they still can't let go after many years. Even if you are married, you still don't focus on your existing feelings and family.
But what's the point of doing that? No one will stand where you are, the scattered people will never come back, you can't let go of your inner obsession, it will only bring more torture and harm.
People, only know how to cherish the people in front of them, can learn to embrace happiness, the more nostalgic for the past, the more imprisoned.
In middle age, only by using your family affection, meaningless socializing, and deep inner obsessions, etc., will become a stumbling block that plagues you forward, and you can put it down as soon as possible in order to live easily and live freely.
Life is hurried, and those who should give up will give up, only in this way can we have more time to be with the right person. When you know how to let go of all attachments, you can live a satisfied life.
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