Du Fu's "Jiangcun" wrote: "Since going to the hall to swallow, blind dates are close to the gulls in the water."
When we were young, brothers and sisters were the closest people to us besides our parents, laughing and playing together, spending the most carefree childhood together, taking care of the small, and the warmth was always unforgettable. When you grow up, the east, west, south, and north go to school separately, or although they do not look far apart, they also start their own families, and after they have their own families, they are no longer a family.
Why are some family brothers and sisters able to always get along harmoniously, while others are strangers? A person will gradually understand when he is older, the relationship between brothers and sisters or sword tension, or gradually indifferent, are for a reason, four things are not done well, often let the brothers and sisters of the love of a written off.
I hope that you who see this text have not done a single thing.
01 The heart of the competition is too heavy, and the brothers and sisters must also compete with each other
Short-sighted siblings who always like to compare themselves to others.
The first is the family situation, other people's families are well-off, the house has bought several sets, others are driving hundreds of thousands of cars, and others have more money for work and leisure.
The second is the child aspect, other people's children have been admitted to prestigious universities, other people's children have gone to graduate school, other people's children have found enviable jobs, and other people's children have married wives with better families.
The third is interpersonal communication, other people's homes are full of traffic, and their own cars in front of the door are sparse.
But Bi Laibi forgot that this other person was not an outsider, but a brother and sister of his own mother. The one who wins, with his eyes above the top, looks down on his brothers and sisters. The one who loses is resentful, and his heart is even more unsympathetic to the other party's life.
Over time, brothers and sisters have become more and more distant, and their feelings have become more and more strange.
02 Borrowed brothers and sisters' money do not know how to return, but also righteous
As the old saying goes: Brothers, settle accounts.
Borrowing money tests a person's character, even if it is one's own brothers and sisters. You think, your brothers and sisters are rich, people's money is not blown by the wind, but their own hard work to earn, when there is an emergency to borrow money from their brothers and sisters, there must be a measure, do not open the lion's mouth, do not borrow money to pretend to be dumb, when they promise to repay the money, they are even more delayed, trying not to pay back.
Brothers and sisters have their own families, and if we make it difficult for our brothers and sisters to be at home for money, it is our fault.
Everyone has a difficult time, at this time, most of the people who can help each other are their brothers and sisters, if they owe debts, but they do not know how to return, they still make a straight face, saying something like "You are so rich, lack these two melons and dates?" Really! ”
In this case, it should not be even more inappropriate, there is a reflection of the character of borrowing or character, do not take the help of brothers and sisters as a matter of course, now is not a child, a piece of candy two people eat separately, each has a family, must be responsible for their own family.
If the money is not clear, the relationship between brothers and sisters cannot last long.
03 Embezzle parents' property and keep silent
Parents have lived a lifetime, and there is always some property in their hands, or money, or real estate, and the foundation created by hard work in a lifetime, because there are many children, often in the end.
There are countless such examples in reality. Parents because of the preference for a certain child, they quietly take their own property to him, subsidize him, from the daily home grandson school expenses, to buy a house and buy a car to also subsidize, and is hidden from other children, the old man a bowl of water is uneven, it is easy to make brothers and sisters chill.
Brothers and sisters who are favored by their parents, if they are smart, will bother more in taking care of their parents and not let other siblings worry more, so that it is good.
The difficulty lies in the fact that there is a kind of person who knows that he has the good of his parents and hides everything, and when his parents have something to do, everything must be calculated with other brothers and sisters, which is not rude.
Man dies for money, and birds die for food. Those who steal their parents' property not only show that they have no moral character, but also make other brothers and sisters look down on them, they are not at ease, and everyone is falling apart.
04 I hate the poor and love the rich, and like to show off that I have money
There is also a big taboo between brothers and sisters, that is, do not be poor and love the rich.
You know, life is a process of continuous reincarnation, and now your family is rich, but you can't stand that there is an incomplete child in the family, maybe it is just an accident, and it will beat you back to its original form.
And the brothers and sisters who started to have a bad family situation, the family united and loved, worked together, and the people with difficulties twisted into a rope, never afraid of suffering or being affected, and the family situation will slowly become better.
Thirty years west of the river, thirty years of east of the river. Don't underestimate your brothers and sisters who are not well-off, and don't be complacent because you have money at home. Money is an external thing, making money is the ability, and being able to keep money is the ability.
Families with many brothers and sisters, sometimes there will be one or two people who are poor and love the rich, who look down on the poor family, but are eager for a good family.
Such a person can be said to be a rat's eye, in reality, everyone must have met such relatives, when you were poor, they looked down on you, and even ridiculed you in every way, and when you flew yellow and tengda, they came to be flattered.
At the end of the day, the character is low. Hopefully we don't do that.
The Book of Poetry reads: "The power of death and mourning, brother Kong Huai." The ridge order is in the original, and the brother is in a hurry. Every good friend, there is an eternal sigh. Brothers are on the wall, and they are insulted outside. ”
Brotherhood is connected by blood and passed down from vein to vein. The fate between brothers and sisters is the fate of playing from childhood to adulthood, and it is a rare fate in this life, which can be cherished for a long time.
At the end of life, family affection is the place to come and go.
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