Today I want to talk to you about how your expectations of your child may overwhelm him. Many parents have requirements for their children in learning and life, and there are standards. This is normal, but now more and more parents are treating their children. Expectations of children are too high for children to stand. We must be clear that excessively high expectations are not necessarily a good thing for children and can become a huge pressure that overwhelms them. This anticipation is like making dumplings. You want the dumplings to be filled with a lot of stuffing, and the dumpling skin can't stand it. Often too much force, can not wrap the dumplings, so the dumplings are broken. Parents' expectations for their children should be when the child will be able to bear to rescind the contract and accept it. Only in this way can we effectively help the child's progress.
Zhou Yi's parents should reasonably grasp the expectations of their children, so what can they do specifically? You are here to give you three suggestions. First of all, your expectations must match your child's actual situation. We must first objectively and comprehensively understand the child's own situation and set appropriate goals for the child according to the words. At the same time, set yourself a reasonable expectation of your child. There are two points to be aware of here. One point is your goal. It must be realistic. You can't use your experience and cognition as a criterion for judgment. For example, just as the parents of your high-achieving child have heard about the way they educate their children, their children should learn the same way while imitating what they take for granted. So, the learning plan for your child is planned according to their method, but this may not be suitable for your child.
What you want to say is that objectively understanding the child's actual situation and accepting the child's imperfection can better help the child find a method that suits him, improve the child's learning efficiency and learning interest, and give the child a relatively comparative idea. Easily achieved goals will also help him build confidence and face the next challenge more positively. Well, the second point is that he can't get fat in one bite, and he craves it. On the contrary, he is prone to bad things. Everyone should know that when we bring him into the child's growth process, we can understand that learning is a gradual process. As a parent, if you are as anxious as a farmer in an allusion, even if the flower is big and powerful, it is difficult to get anything. Well, the second is to do a longitudinal comparison.
I am also, many parents like to say that other people's children are good, so good, how can you not compare? This is a side comparison. In fact, this kind of talk will not have a positive impact on the growth of children. It will also make the child sensitive, inferior, and even rebellious. You suggest that you can do more vertical comparisons, that is, look at the child's present and past. This will give you a clearer picture of your child's progress. At the same time, it will also play a positive role in helping children build self-confidence and promote children's continuous efforts. Third, self-cultivation, setting an example for children, and growing up with children is a good opportunity to promote our inner growth. In fact, there are many problems we find in children, and they are also the problems of parents themselves. Parents are the sea.
This is the most direct imitation object. Managing yourself well and guiding your child with actions can better stimulate your child's internal drive, and you can also make your child subtly motivate yourself to become motivated. You know, the impact of positive energy is far-reaching, far more effective than the pressure and blame of negative energy. Children are independent individuals. They need to have their own room to grow, accept the sun and rain, and develop their personality, rather than blindly following their parents' arrangements and meeting their parents' expectations. It is also hoped that parents will give their children more opportunities to express themselves, more time to understand their ideas, and let them feel respected, so as to better choose the education and learning methods that suit them.