What to take to save your cell phone-controlled child?

I remember hearing such a real story, that is, the child played with the mobile phone, the parents did not let it, there was an argument, the parents snatched the mobile phone over, and then threw it on the balcony, this time the child was very angry, ran to the balcony and jumped, followed the mobile phone, jumped from a ten-meter tall building, jumped down, a young life ended like this, leaving his parents and family for the rest of their lives, living in guilt and shadows. Playing mobile phones today seems to have become as normal as breathing, the same important thing, more and more children have become low-headed people, inseparable from the company of mobile phones, even can not sleep, can not eat, can not go to school, is not without mobile phones, there are more and more parents because of children over-play mobile phone addiction, and distressed.

So let's share this lesson, what should children do if they are addicted to playing mobile phones? What are the negative effects of playing mobile phone addiction on children? How should we use the right guidance to let children get out of mobile phone addiction, the first thing to share is the negative impact of children playing mobile phone addiction.

The first one is for the eyes

This is a lot of children, the original learning burden is relatively heavy, with the eyes is very excessive, that coupled with the continuous play of mobile phones, closer and closer to the eyes, this time the damage to the eyes is very large, very very easy to cause myopia of the eyes, or weakness.

Then the second one is also the effect on the body

It is that he will affect the development of the child's body, will affect the child's exercise time, affect the child's exercise ability, there are many children because of the mobile phone to become hunchback, young age has produced spinal deformation, in fact, it seems that there is no spirit at all, then it has caused a lot of harm to the child's body, there are many children because of playing mobile phones, do not go out and do not exercise caused the body's obesity, in short, play mobile phones on children who are developing, the negative impact of the body is still relatively large.

Then the third negative effect is the obstacle that is easy to cause sleep

This is a lot of children will be playing mobile phones in the middle of the night, and even play until 2:00, 3:00 or even play mobile phone games all night, that slowly formed a bad biological clock, can't get up in the morning, can't sleep at night, why?

Point 4 Because of the trouble caused by playing mobile phones, playing mobile phones will not only affect children's eyes, physical sleep will also affect children's thinking ability and language expression ability

Why? Because when playing mobile phones, he rarely reads deeply, he rarely calms down for 30 minutes to think about a thing, he rarely communicates and communicates face-to-face, some are communication in the unreal world, communication in the unreal world is fragmented, so excessive playing with mobile phones will have a great impact on children's thinking ability and language expression ability, which will further affect children's academic performance. Further affect the child's ability to learn.

The 5th point of impact is that excessive playing with mobile phones occupies a lot of time for children, resulting in children communicating with parents, and the frequency of interaction is greatly reduced

It is very easy to cause obstacles and contradictions in parent-child relationship, which will affect the atmosphere and relationship of the whole family.

The 6th point of influence is that it will make the child's personality slowly introverted, become irritable, become grumpy, especially easy to cause autism, anxiety, depression, it will change the child's personality

Even will affect the child's life above the six points, is to play mobile phones excessively or even play mobile phone addiction, the negative impact on children, can be said to be very serious, at this time in fact, many parents are very anxious, very panic, very helpless, how to do? Then I will share a few suggestions for everyone to teach everyone how to avoid children's addiction to playing mobile phones.

The first suggestion is that parents should correctly understand the fact that their children play mobile phones

Many times children play mobile phone addiction, and parents excessive control, opposition, rejection of children play mobile phones is actually inseparable, sometimes parents excessively exclude children play mobile phones, too much control of children play mobile phones, resulting in children's distrust, causing children to use retaliation to continue to play excessive mobile phones, so parents we have to accept appropriately, in fact, play mobile phones is normal, but play mobile phone addiction is not normal, we must know that children play mobile phones are not flood beasts, he also has some positive significance, For example, if all of the child's classmates are playing with mobile phones, if the child does not play with mobile phones at all, how can he socialize with everyone? How he mingles with his classmates, so children playing with mobile phones is not a big disaster, it is an effective way to socialize, and it can also be an important way to open up learning, which is the first point, which is the parents to establish a correct cognition.

So the second point is that parents should accompany their children with high quality

Do not let the child take the mobile phone as their own nanny, we found that the child playing with the mobile phone is seriously addictive, most of it is accompanied by parent-child, most of it is accompanied by insufficient companionship, that is to say, the child at a certain stage, a year's time, half a year' time, or even three years' time, the parents' companionship with the child is far from enough, then how can the child relieve the worry, only the mobile phone. Because he found that the mobile phone is more reliable than the parents, the mobile phone is more sufficient than the parents' companionship for him, if the parents give the child continuous high-quality companionship, the child does not have to wrap around the mobile phone, this is the second suggestion.

Then the third point is that parents should lead by example and not be a low-headed person

Who is the child playing with the phone like? Who did you learn from? He may have learned from classmates, but there is a large proportion, children play mobile phones are learned from parents, children chat with parents when parents are looking down, children are asking questions, parents are playing with mobile phones down, children when you need help, parents are playing with their heads down, it is parents who teach their children to become low-headed, it is parents who teach their children hand in hand, and become addicted to playing mobile phones. So first of all, we parents should lead by example, we do not bow our heads, and set a good example for our children.

That point 4 is to agree on the time to play the phone, and jointly screen for quality content

Reading on the mobile phone, browsing, playing with the mobile phone is a disaster, you completely do not let the child play the mobile phone, in fact, it is also a disaster, because after all, living in an information-based modern society, if the child's mobile phone and computer do not touch, then how does he connect with the modern society, so we are not going to completely let the child say goodbye to the mobile phone, but let the child and the mobile phone live in harmony, it will not be controlled by the excessive addiction of the mobile phone is enough, so what we have to do is to agree with the child at an appointment time, For example, today we will play for an hour, today Sunday, we can play for two hours, the exam will be taken immediately, I want half an hour, we and the child agreed on a good time, and agreed on the general types of content to browse.

So what about point 5, parents can guide their children to accompany their children

But parents don't stay with them forever. Let parents supervise the child or guide the child, this is not a long-term solution after all, the real fundamental is to cultivate the child's self-control ability, self-management ability, his self-guidance, self-requirements, so fundamentally speaking, we have to cultivate the child, the ability to control their own desires, we want to cultivate the child's ability to allocate time reasonably, so that the child can have the ability to get along independently with the mobile phone, even if there is no parental supervision, even if there is no parental guidance, He can completely use the mobile phone as a normal tool, serve his own life, serve his future work, this is the fifth suggestion is to cultivate the child's self-control ability and time allocation ability.

Then the sixth suggestion is to divert attention and enrich your child's spare time

Almost everyone is more or less addicted, some people are addicted to drinking, some people are addicted to smoking, some people play table tennis, like me, I am addicted to lecturing, and some people are addicted to playing mobile phones. So if you don't want your child to play mobile phone addiction, then you can let your child for example play table tennis addiction, such as let the child race addiction, such as children's academic performance addiction, then you can let the child divert attention, let him enrich more amateur life, if the child has no other choice of life, only play mobile phone, then he will play mobile phone addiction, if the child has a very rich, colorful life, he will not play mobile phone addiction.

Then the 7th and last piece of advice, people have no far-reaching worries, there must be small problems without big ambitions, if the child does not have great dreams, there is no clear goal, the child does not play the mobile phone and what can he play?

So I think the most important thing is to let the child have great dreams, have a clear goal, at this time you don't have to care about him, he will put down the phone, he will run for the dream, he will fight for the goal, in fact, this is what we want to see most, not how I want the child to be, but how the child says how the parents want to be. Well, the above 7 suggestions are for all parents, which can support their children to come out of mobile phone addiction and go to the sunshine and be happy, healthy and transparent, and powerful.