After a child enters puberty, what are parents most afraid of?
The answer must be early love!
After the child enters puberty, the physical development and psychological growth make their emotions rich and begin to have a hazy liking for the opposite sex. Young boys and girls grew the bud of love, began to have their favorite people, and some bold children talked about love.
However, in the eyes of parents, early love is a big trouble, originally junior high school learning is the key to determining life, at this time distracted love, not only delay learning, but more terrible is that in case the child can not control themselves, take the wrong step, may delay is a lifetime.
Therefore, the parents' attitude towards early love is that they must be strangled to death in the bud!
Children know that their parents will overreact to their early love, so most babies will turn their backs on their parents when they fall in love. This also leads to many parents can not find the phenomenon of early love in their children for the first time.
An experienced homeroom teacher said that children who fall in love early often have 3 signs, one catch a quasi-child. Parents should observe more.
Although some children's early love will grow up with each other and their grades will rise, this is only a minority. Most children will have a significant decline in grades after early love. Some are only temporary, and some are in a slump, and they can't come back for a while and a half.
Babies who fall in love early, especially when they are just together, especially like to wander when learning to listen to lectures. Girls, in particular, are more affected. In class, the eyes no longer follow the teacher, but like to stare at the boy they like, and their hearts are restless.
Writing homework is also absent-minded, often in a daze or like to look at the phone, always can not calm down.
If the child has these problems, teachers and parents must first consider whether the child is in early love.
Adolescent children are not yet mature, their self-control is still relatively weak, the control of emotions is not strong, if you look closely, children in early love often have great emotional fluctuations.
When the two people are good, he will be very happy every day, and the communication with his parents will become extremely smooth;
When two people have a conflict, the child will be depressed, unable to learn to learn, unable to read books, and inexplicably anxious;
If the child's mood fluctuates during this time, the changes are great, parents should pay attention to it, and basically can be judged to be affected by love.
Adolescent children, once they enter early love, especially love stinky beauty!
Originally, adolescent children are very sensitive to appearance, especially after starting to have people they like, you will find that he begins to love to dress up!
I have to look in the mirror eight hundred times a day, wash my hair and take a bath very frequently, pay great attention to my skin condition, and start to pay attention to how to dress.
More than half of the reason for such a baby is that I have begun to fall in love.
Parents and adolescent children, in the early love is like a cat and mouse, one desperately hides, one desperately grabs, many families with early love and early love are usually chickens flying dog jumping.
Educator Sukhomlinsky believes that "the problem of love is a major problem in the formation of personality." "Adolescence is a stage in which children's emotions are gradually enriched, and it is actually quite normal to have love throbbing for the opposite sex."
Love is beautiful, even for adolescent children, can be liked by the opposite sex, indicating that there is a shining point in the child, this kind of admiration can increase the child's self-confidence.
Children in this period are sensitive and rebellious, and if their parents are strongly opposed, it is easy to backfire, and the more they suppress, the more they fall in love. Once the child turns into an underground situation, parents can really only be helpless and anxious.
Therefore, parents, in the face of children's early love, we must outsmart and not force demolition!
Psychology professor Tai Yaohong once said: If you get enough attention and love from your parents, your child will have a clear goal when looking for a relationship with others, and know how to cherish himself, rather than being able to coax anyone to go. On the contrary, those children who lack love from an early age are more likely to be deceived by bad elements in the name of "love" when they enter adolescence.
Some children have early love because they can't find love in their parents, and once someone has a little bit of kindness to themselves, it is easy to fall into it.
If you want your child not to fall in love early, parents must first create a warm and harmonious family environment for their children.
Children whose parents love each other and have seen the best love, their standards for love are very high, so they will not be easily subjugated by the little good in front of them. They have their own bottom lines and principles for love, and they will not be easily broken by others.
If you want to keep your child away from early love, first of all, parents should set a good example for their children and let their children see the true appearance of love.
Don't equate early love with influences on learning and bad kids. Early love is not terrible, what is terrible is that after early love, it triggers a series of negative chain reactions such as parental anger, family quarrels, and child rebellion.
Which is more dangerous to fall in love under your nose or to fall in love behind your back?
If you find that your child is in love early, instead of obstructing it, it is better to accept it gladly and give the necessary guidance.
Parents learn to be calm, learn to be calm, let themselves become a good listener, a person worthy of their children's trust, in the face of early love problems, with your wisdom, tolerance and understanding, the child's early love firmly controlled.
When you know that your child is in love early, you should congratulate your child on finding someone he likes and likes himself, which is something to be happy about! Most importantly, you want your child to know that he is loved because he has different advantages, improves his self-confidence, and makes his child have a drive to become better and better.
You can tell your child the stories of your youth, and through these stories, you can consciously or unconsciously mention how your child should do in love, which is more appropriate and correct.
You can tell your child that you are willing to be your child's emotional mentor, and if you have love problems, you are happy to help him solve the problem.
The more you respect and understand the child, the more the child will trust the parents, and it will be easier for us to grasp the direction of the child's early love.
No matter how mature the child is, they are also underage children, and if there is a relationship, it is a blow to any family. Therefore, the physiological education of children must be in place.
Many parents of boys think that their family is a boy who does not suffer losses, do not have such a psychology, so that only your children have an irresponsible mentality, affecting his life's view of love, marriage, and even attitude towards the opposite sex.
For boys, we must teach him to respect women, cherish women, love women, the more he likes girls, but also to take care of her, can not do anything to the other party she does not want.
For girls, we must teach her to cherish herself and learn to love herself. Let her understand that once something goes wrong, it is not only the body that hurts, but also the mind.
The physiological knowledge that should be told to the child must be told little by little. Even family planning supplies at home can tell him where he is, and if something goes wrong, the child can at least protect himself.
Psychology believes that adolescence is an important transition period from children to adults, and is the final key period of personality formation. Adolescent children, facing the various physiological changes during development, experience the troubles caused by insufficient psychological preparation. They are conscious, interested in the opposite sex, and the emotions of youth arise naturally, although the production of emotions cannot be controlled, but their development can and must be grasped.
In the face of puberty from time to time to make a few moths of the baby, parents must fully mobilize their wisdom, rational and sober face rebellious, sensitive, unconvinced children, in case the more oppression, the higher the child jumps.