Frequent intersections with the opposite sex can easily allow a person to gain emotional dependence, which in turn creates the illusion of love.
We like someone, it's actually very simple.
Like what:
A certain advantage of the other party is displayed and won your favor;
The other party has a good personality and good temperament, and you feel that he is very careful when you get along with him;
The two of you have a lot in common and chatting with him will make you feel "addicted".
The appearance of these moments is the performance of liking a person.
The premise of falling in love with a person is to like, and only by first generating a good feeling can you gradually fall in love with him.
In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, if you also have these feelings, it means that you are "getting deeper and deeper" in this relationship.
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When chatting, you are always proactive
The frequency of the chat and the depth of the topic of the chat determine the direction of the feelings of the two people.
When dealing with the opposite sex, if you take the initiative to provoke the topic every time, every time you initiate a chat.
This means that in this relationship, you are the one who gives more.
At least, the person who moved the feelings first was you.
In contrast, the other side seems to be more calm.
In the interaction between men and women, initiative is very telling.
He takes the initiative to be nice to you, he takes the initiative to invite you to date, he takes the initiative to chat with you, and under these initiatives, his attitude and feelings towards you have become obvious.
If you are with the opposite sex, you do not talk to each other for a day and you feel very empty in your heart and feel that something is missing.
It's enough to say that you're already in love with each other.
Emotional fluctuations, indicating the other party's language and behavior, will affect your mood.
He does not take the initiative to find you, you always can't help it, even if you are humble, you will take the initiative to find him.
In the process of chatting, you are willing to express yourself without reservation.
You trust him and are willing to confide in him everything that concerns you, including your feelings, your family, and even your little secrets.
From a psychological point of view, this is called "self-exposure."
When two people get along, the higher the degree of self-exposure, the more trusting and dependent the person is.
In your relationship, are you like that?
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Can't help but pay for each other
Paying is also an important basis for measuring the relationship between two people.
Anything that you want to get rewarded with, you have to give first.
If you want to see the flowers bear fruit, then you have to sow the seed in the early stages, cultivate it carefully, and water and fertilize it.
Under your careful care, the seeds take root and sprout, become more and more vigorous, and finally flower and bear fruit.
The front is your efforts, and the back is your return.
In any relationship, this is true.
If you want to get something, you have to give it first.
Between the opposite sex, the order of payment is also sequential.
The person who is emotional first, the first to pay, is also the party who pays the most.
Every holiday, you want to prepare gifts for each other;
Seeing something interesting, you yourself are reluctant to give to each other;
When he's in trouble, even if he doesn't say it, you'll be the first to show up for him.
This kind of active and willing to give is a sign of falling in love with someone.
I saw a post online some time ago.
The boy chatted with classmates who had not been seen for a long time, and they talked about their feelings as they talked.
However, the biggest problem for the two men is that the female students are still studying in graduate school.
In order to be able to pursue the girl, the boy drove thousands of miles to the girl's city; before that, he quit his job in his hometown.
The boy's plan and purpose are clear: to work in the city where the girl is studying, and to make money while pursuing her.
Such determination and dedication is the greatest honesty of boys.
When a person is in contact with the opposite sex and is willing to pay more than usual, it means that he is in love with the other party.
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Irrepressible possessiveness and jealousy
Falling in love with someone will naturally produce possessiveness.
For example, you have saved up money for several years and finally bought the car you want.
After buying a car, you drive it carefully every day, wipe it every day, park the car in the garage and get used to sitting on it for a while.
At this time, if others want to borrow a car from you, you will often choose to refuse.
Because of what you like, it's hard to lend to someone else, and it's your possessiveness.
Similarly, if you like a person, when you see the other person talking and laughing with other people of the opposite sex, you can't help but feel jealousy in your heart.
Your jealousy is jealousy; your possessiveness is that you want the other person to belong only to you.
The relationship between the opposite sex should be "point to the end".
If you are too close, the other party may retreat because of your initiative;
If you don't grasp the sense of proportion, you may make the other person more and more distant from you.
If you perceive that you are getting deeper and deeper in this relationship, let yourself slow down first.
One person's initiative often fails; two people walk toward each other before they have a chance to meet.
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At this moment, have you ever been distressed by a relationship?
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