Wen 丨 Qingxin Junyue
Since ancient times, deep affection cannot be retained, only routines win people's hearts.
One day we will be able to awaken that things are not empty of two heads.
In the TV series "Xiao Min's Family", if Jin Bo before the reform of evil is the most annoying character, then Xu Zheng, who is extremely controlled and almost twisted in his heart, is the most frightening character, and he always feels that he may do something extreme to hurt Liu Xiaojie in the next second.
As an audience member, I saw that Liu Xiaojie chose the latter between Qian Feng and Xu Zheng, and deleted his friend Qian Feng for more than ten years for Xu Zheng.
Some people say that Liu Xiaojie chose Xu Zheng, to put it bluntly, because Xu Zheng has money.
But in my opinion, Liu Xiaojie did not choose Xu Zheng entirely because of the desire for money, which can be seen from Xiao Jie's ex-husband, she is not a gold worshipper, in addition, when she was injured, for the chicken crisp bones sent by Qian Feng and the flower glue soup sent by Xu Zheng, she did not prefer either side because of the price difference.
So, what is the reason why Liu Xiaojie chose Xu Zheng? Personally, I have some humble opinions that I want to share and discuss with you.
Xu Zheng is more able to satisfy her vanity as a woman
In terms of appearance, Xu Zheng is more likely to attract women than Qian Feng.
While sometimes we're reluctant to admit that we're members of the Appearance Society, it turns out that physical attraction does play a crucial role in the early days of an intimate relationship.
Moreover, this phenomenon is not only reflected in men, but also in women.
In Social Psychology, experimental research proves that "the more attractive a woman is, the more men will like her and be willing to continue dating her." Similarly, men's physical attractiveness has this effect. ”
In other words, Xiao Jie is more likely to have a good feeling for Xu Zheng, which is a normal phenomenon, and her choice of Xu Zheng is also more in line with the expectations of female colleagues and friends around her, and it is easier to gain the recognition of others.
In terms of economic conditions, Xu Zheng also has an advantage over Qian Feng.
Although Liu Xiaojie does not worship gold, it does not mean that she hates rich people.
A handsome and golden-looking man is the ideal type of many girls, and Liu Xiaojie chose to be with Xu Zheng, and also gained the envy of people around him, which greatly satisfies Liu Xiaojie's vanity, which we can intuitively appreciate from the reaction of Liu Xiaojie's female colleagues.
For example, a colleague said that Liu Xiaojie had a good life and married Xu Zheng; for example, a female colleague asked Xu Zheng if he had any friends like him, introduced him, etc., and heard these words, the happiest person was Liu Xiaojie.
If men are more than careers, then women are better than men.
Therefore, in this emotional competition between Xu Zheng and Qian Feng, whether it is appearance, economic conditions, and work, Xu Zheng is more likely to satisfy Liu Xiaojie's vanity as a woman, and she has always enjoyed it.
Choosing Xu Zheng can fill the subconscious feeling of inferiority after the divorce
Although Liu Xiaojie's ex-husband is not worth nostalgia, this marriage still brings her hurt and influence, and the feeling of inferiority is one of the most important influences.
From a beautiful single woman to a beautiful divorced woman, Xiao Jie's heart has changed, and the inferiority complex in her subconscious has sprung up, although she is unwilling to accept the label of so-called "second marriage", but she is also clear in her heart that this "label" is what she has to accept.
At this time, how to prove that the "second-married woman" is not bad is the truest desire in Liu Xiaojie's heart.
Before meeting Xu Zheng, she put the desire to prove herself on working and living well, and when Xu Zheng appeared, and she learned that Qian Feng had a crush on her for many years, the desire to prove herself unconsciously shifted to the choice of a mate.
Then, from an objective and rational point of view, Xu Zheng can make Xiao Jie prove his charm more than Qian Feng, so as to make up for the inferiority complex in the subconscious and gain more self-confidence.
Xiao Jie once said to Xiao Min that she felt that she was not worthy of Xu Zheng, but she never said that she was not worthy of Qian Feng, that is to say, in Xiao Jie's heart, she was also unmarried, and Xu Zheng's conditions in all aspects were completely superior to Qian Feng.
From this point of view, from another point of view, Xiao Jie thinks so, other people around him will also think so, and once Xiao Jie chooses Xu Zheng, it is enough to prove that although he is married twice, he is not worse than anyone, and he can even capture the heart of a man with superior conditions and younger than his own age, and can also harvest enviable marital love.
This is something that Qian Feng can't give Xiao Jie.
Xu Zheng has many routines and understands women's hearts better
Putting aside the external conditions mentioned above, from the perspective of chasing girls, Xu Zheng understands women's hearts better than Qian Feng.
No conditions, manufacturing conditions
Xu Zheng fell in love with Liu Xiaojie at first sight, but he did not have many opportunities to get along with Xiaojie like Qian Feng, but there was no chance, he tried to create opportunities.
Xu Zheng heard about Xiao Jie's work unit, so he pretended to meet Xiao Jie in the drink shop, and in the face of Xiao Jie's doubts, he showed that he was going to the company opposite Xiao Jie Publishing House to do legal advice, so that everything looked so natural and full of fate, which greatly reduced Xiao Jie's vigilance.
With this encounter, the "hero saves the United States" after that, sending Xiao Jie home, is obviously taken for granted, and after that, it is the encounter in the tennis hall.
Xu Zheng's smartest point is that under the premise of confirming that Xiao Jie does not hate her, he told Xiao Jie that all the encounters he had intentionally done, and his subtext was to tell Xiao Jie that he was very hard for her, a man who was willing to work hard for himself, spend time and energy, and attach importance to himself, it was difficult for a woman to refuse.
Qiang Xian Qianfeng confessed one step at a time
When Qian Feng, Xu Zheng and Xiao Jie were eating together, Xu Zheng saw Qian Feng's intention to confess, in order to stop Qian Feng, Xu Zheng pretended to be splashed by crayfish juice, prompting Xiao Jie to clean his eyes for him, Qian Feng, who lacked courage, looked at the scene in front of him, and did not dare to confess, but Xu Zheng expressed his heart to Xiao Jie in the next second.
This is another routine of Xu Zheng.
From a psychological point of view, we are more likely to like people who like us, Xu Zheng's high-profile confession, does not disrupt Qian Feng's confession plan, and has left a deep mark on Xiao Jie's heart, compared to love but dare not say it, show love loudly, it is easier to gain the favor of women.
All kinds of sweet words, fancy pursuits
Xu Zheng talked about sweet words, which was beyond the reach of "straight man" Qian Feng.
Qian Feng put all his love into action, silently caring for and protecting Xiao Jie, while Xu Zheng was different, not only sweet words and baskets, but also creating surprises.
Which is easier to get girls to like, the answer is obvious.
Of course, like many friends, I don't like Xu Zheng, this person is too clever, too twisted, but as the audience, we are because of the opening of god's perspective, and the party xiaojie in it, she may only feel full of love, so for this, we may not be able to blame her, after all, women like good love words, sweet words in real life are also used.
In summary, Xiao Jie's choice of Xu Zheng is also understandable, although as an audience we are not willing to accept, and we are not willing to see Xiao Jie repeat the same mistakes, but we are not Xiao Jie, can not influence her decision, only hope that in real life, we can treat the choice of marriage and love more rationally, do not be blinded by a momentary routine, vanity.
Perfect first impressions and pursuit techniques are sometimes important, but long-term love and marriage cannot be sustained by these alone.
Qingxin Junyue, an emotional observer, ta said book critic, film critic. Warm you, me with words.