Shenyang Li Chenyang: After reading so many parenting books, these 8 books are most recommended

The list of books promised to everyone may be slower than expected to share, from the hundreds of books full of two large bookcases, selected within 10 books of parenting book list, self-improvement book list recommendation, is not as simple as I imagined.

From the decision to share the book list with everyone, the child was born and has purchased at least hundreds of parenting books, basically read it simply, and finally decided to share the following to everyone.

This book was originally recommended to me by a friend, when I got it, I was not out of the moon, and I used four words to describe the feeling of this book, that is, "seeing and hating late", written very comprehensively, the care and feeding problems of children within one or two years old, this book basically has answers, and most of the methods are more effective.

For example, how to milk powder, how to brew formula milk, how to let the child out of the bottle, such as when to add solid food to the child, what to eat, how to eat, etc., is almost an encyclopedia for new parents.

The book was edited with care, with each minor question displayed in the table of contents and accurate page numbers when citing questions from other chapters, allowing those who use it to find their own points of information as quickly as possible.

At the beginning, in addition to its scientific and practical, it also gave me the right guidance when I was most busy.

When the child is just born, there is a time when the child cries and ignores it, but the guidance given by this book is: when the child cries, do not hesitate, directly pick up the child, only the child's needs are met, in order to establish a sense of security, and it is easier to separate later.

According to this method of parenting, the children's entry into nursery and kindergarten is relatively smooth.

The author of the book is also a rare family combination:

William Sears is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics, one of the most well-known pediatricians in the United States, and has been practicing pediatrics for nearly 40 years, based on psychological theories, he created the "Attachment Parenting" (Attachment Parenting), advocating early parental and young children through breastfeeding, sleeping with the baby and other ways to establish intimate relationships with parents and young children.

Martha Sears is the wife of William Sears, a registered nurse, a parenting consultant and breastfeeding counselor, with 8 children;

Robert Sears and James Sears are the husband and wife's son and a physician at sears pediatric clinics.

Capturing Children's Sensitive Periods

About children who love to throw things, suddenly become stubborn, beat people at every turn, love to eat hands, suddenly interest in their own sexual organs... The problems we may encounter in the process of children's growth, Teacher Sun Ruixue has shared with us in the form of stories in this work on children's mental growth.

When we understand that many "incredible behaviors" are only inevitable in the process of children's growth and development, we are no longer so anxious, and this calm will in turn help children successfully pass through a sensitive period.

"Positive Discipline for 0-3 Year Olds"

Regarding positive discipline, I initially only knew the five words "kind and firm", and I didn't have much experience with how to carry it out. So when the child is getting bigger and bigger, I also go deep and systematic to learn positive discipline, and when I look back and think carefully about my parenting path, I know how some "bad problems" are formed after the child is three or four years old, and I rarely get angry and angry because of the problems in the child, but see it as an opportunity for the child and me to learn.

For example, from the time the child understands the conversation, we discuss it before going to the supermarket every time, and each time he can only choose one thing, and insist on implementing it until now. So now that he's 4 years old, when he wants a certain toy that we don't buy, he'll be unhappy, but he won't cry; but this rule, following the old man, will occasionally be broken.

For example, the article I shared before, "Relatives have blocked me, but I don't regret it", the concept is to respect the children's property rights, which is also presented in this book: we can encourage children to share, but at a certain age, his failure to be "selfless" does not mean that he is stingy, but they are not ready to share.

Positive discipline may not teach us exactly how to do an event, but it will change our philosophy to a certain extent, such as understanding the problem from the child's point of view, such as no longer taking the child's independence as a provocation against us.

I don't recommend the book "Positive Discipline" here, because it is more theoretical, while "Positive Discipline for 03-year-olds" will be more story-based, and some methods can be easier to learn and use.

Understanding Virginity 1

(Sexual development and care for children aged 0 to 6 years)

Once, at dinner with a friend, he took his 5-year-old daughter with him, and when his daughter went to the toilet, the father blushed and said to me roughly: "I don't know how to open my mouth about this, such a child, he will pinch his legs, and finally his face is red and red, and he is sweating." ”

It is not appropriate to talk about such a private issue in public, I just sent the title of "Understanding Innocence" to this anxious father, and after reading it, he should have calmed down a lot.

In life, we tend to be pale and discolored, but it is a topic that everyone cannot avoid talking about in the process of growing up. So special thanks to Teacher Hu Ping, bringing us such a good book, let us know the harm of forcibly bringing urine to children; let us understand the existence of desire period; let us learn to be generous to children's interest in other people's bodies; let us face the Mom, where did I come from such questions no longer poor words...

How Children Learn

I was shocked by a lot of the ideas in this book, so in many books, I took this one out – anyone who cares about the real learning of their children can't miss this good book.

"Words are better than deeds", we all know. But it ignores that when allowing children to increase their skills, parents are a little stupid, and children try and make mistakes a little more, which can make their thinking divergent.

For example, when a child first starts playing with blocks, I always expect him to build a house and show it to the child, and he always stacks as high as he can according to his own wishes until it collapses. When I kept telling him he should swing it this way, he got angry, pushed the bricks to the ground, and for a long time, never touched them again—I used the power of an adult to destroy the confidence of a child under two years old.

John Holt, author of "How Children Learn", observes children's behavior with a very delicate and sensitive mind, and divides children's exploration tendencies into answer type and question type.

The obligation of our adults is not to force the child to the answer type, the meaning of respecting the child is that it can be properly guided, but it cannot stifle the child's self-confidence, and most of the uninvited "teaching" is superfluous.

Give your children freedom and they will progress much faster than we think.

The author of this book is Mr. Nao Matsui of the "Father of Japanese Picture Books", who tells us how important parent-child reading is and passes on to us a lot about picture books:

"Picture books are not used to learn things and recognize words, but to feel happy"

"The more interesting a picture book is, the more deeply its content can remain in the child's memory"

"Parent-child reading should be emotional and warm, which can make the child's experience more three-dimensional and rich."

Some of the criteria for my choice of picture books can be seen in this book, such as vivid pictures, interesting stories, and unlimited imagination (select "Little Catfish", "Little Ladybug Sticker Game Book", "Little Kitten Missing Series", "Traditional Chinese Picture Book", etc. are reflected).

Reading and reading, we will inadvertently find that "what we want to say is said to the child when the parents and children read together."