Old people often say that there is really no way to compare the children of the past and the children of the present. In the past, a family had four or five children, and even if there was time to take good care of the children, the children were scattered and raised. Children don't eat well, don't dress well, and live a hard life. But it is also strange that the child seems to have grown up very healthy and is also filial to his parents.
Of course, the times are different, and the education method of scolding children is no longer suitable for today's children. In today's family education, the phenomenon of parents doting on their children is much more than the phenomenon of beating and cursing children. We all know that it is not okay to scold children, but in fact, the harm of doting on children is even greater.
I have seen a case on the Internet before: a mother in Shaanxi brought her daughter to the hospital to see a doctor, and in the process of waiting for the queue, the child wanted to drink a drink, and the mother did not buy it for her, and then there was such a scene of the daughter beating the mother.
According to bystanders at the time, this girl, who was almost the same height as her mother, punched and kicked her mother six times before and after, and this mother not only did not resist, but also did not say a word, nor did she accuse and reprimand her daughter. The people around them couldn't see it, so they intervened to stop the girl's behavior.
Respect for the elderly in the front, love for the young in the back, parents give us life, children grow up under the care of their parents, parents should be respectful and deeply loved, filial piety to parents is also the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation. However, in recent years, some children have insulted their parents in public, some children have beaten their parents with their hands, and some children have caused great harm to their parents.
If you know that your child will become such a person when he grows up, it is better not to have children.
At the beginning of man, nature is good, and the child's behavior and the parents' family education are inseparable. Parents love their children and take care of their children, why do children have the behavior of beating their parents?
Children are doted on by their parents, but they become "white-eyed wolves" who do not understand gratitude.
The better the parents are to the children, the more filial the children will be? Not necessarily. We look at these many living examples, many children do not know how to respect their parents, do not know how to be grateful, all because parents are too good to their children, too much love for their children, but let the children have no gratitude.
Spoiling children is the most wrong behavior of parents. Many children have the highest status in the family from birth. The family serves him unconditionally, and any request of the child's parents must be satisfied as much as possible, although sometimes the parents are quite embarrassed. When the parents' ability is limited and they cannot meet the growing needs of their children, the children will feel that their parents are incompetent, cannot give themselves the best, and are not inferior to their parents or even fight hard.
Parents often scold their children, and children will follow suit
There is also a kind of parent, sometimes very good to the child, sometimes very impatient, as soon as the temper comes up, they have to beat and scold the child. Children are beaten and scolded by their parents from an early age, and their hearts are greatly hurt. Moreover, when the child grows up, if there is no way to let go of the hurt he suffered when he was a child, there will be a sense of revenge.
When the parents are old and can't beat the children, the children in turn beat the parents. Therefore, the statement that hitting is kissing and scolding is love does not exist at all, and will only leave a psychological shadow on the child's soul, which is just a cover-up statement of parents' wrong behavior.
Moreover, children's words and deeds will be very similar to their parents, they observe and imitate the way their parents do things from an early age, and some bad habits are difficult to change. Parents scold their children, and the child feels that this is the best way to solve the problem, and he will also like to solve the problem in this way.
Each of us hopes that our children can become an excellent and filial child, and behind every good child is the parents' education and guidance for the success of their children.
How should parents properly educate their children? This is a relatively broad question, and there may be too many answers. We only target some younger children, and what should we do when they appear to want to scold their elders?
Children have unconscious scolding behavior, parents should stop it in time.
Sometimes, children reach out and hit people, just think it's funny, not intentional. Even if the child does it unconsciously, we must teach the child to do this is not right. We can sometimes try, the child hits you, you fight back, let the child know that it will hurt.
Parents should communicate more with their children and guide their children to correctly channel negative emotions.
Children and adults are the same, sometimes children's emotions are not good, they will use some incorrect words and deeds to vent out. We should pay more attention to communicating with children in normal times, teach children how to channel their negative emotions, and do not use the behavior of scolding others to vent their temper.
If the child deliberately beats and scolds the parents, stop the child and give him a serious warning.
If the child belongs to the rebellious period, he is deliberately doing it, at this time, we can use strong means to stop the child. The whole family should give a serious warning to the child's behavior, telling the child that such behavior will make the whole family oppose and anger, and let the child know the severity of it.
It is difficult to educate a child well, but it is easy to destroy a child, and parents must often reflect on their own way of education.