The new type of nibbling is spreading, and parents are unaware of it, but think that their children are filial piety

In the heart of every elderly person, in his later years, he can live with his children, enjoy the care of young people, and listen to the laughter of his children and grandchildren. Such a scene is probably what everyone hopes for in their lifetime.

Chinese is traditional, and most people expect that's all. It is a pity that in the current environment, few children can be filial to the elderly, but they are also the old people.

The new type of nibbling is spreading, and parents are unaware.

In the past, when it came to nibbling on the old, people would naturally associate with unmarried youth. In particular, young people who have left society but have no stable jobs were once labeled as parasites chewing on the old people. But now, there is a new version of the old, the new type of nibbling is spreading, many parents are unaware, but praise their children's filial piety.

Kobayashi is the only child in the family, and his parents have always been very fond of him, and they bought him a house before they got married. Later, Kobayashi talked about an object, and the two soon got married and had children. Considering that she would have to go to work after marriage, the daughter-in-law decided to let her in-laws come and take care of her. This point surprised Kobayashi's parents: many daughters-in-law rejected their in-laws, so how could the daughter-in-law warmly invite them?

The old couple was relieved, packed up their things and went to live. But what they didn't expect was that the hard life had just begun. When they arrived at the son's home, the son and daughter-in-law did not pay attention to the child, did not do the usual housework, did not care about buying vegetables, and all the expenses naturally fell on the head of the old man. In the past week, the thousands of dollars of cash brought with me have been used up.

Although Kobayashi's parents love their children very much, they have long been used up in order to buy a house for their children, and their pension is limited, if they continue to make up for it in this way, I am afraid that when they really need money in the future, they will be empty around them. But since the children have already opened their mouths, they can't refuse, so they can only continue to make up for it. In fact, there are many old people in such a situation as Kobayashi's parents, and the old man praises the filial piety of the child on the surface, but in fact, there is a lot of helplessness behind his back.

How can we avoid the phenomenon of children nibbling on the elderly?

1. Strengthen your position

The elderly must also have their own lives, and they should take a firm stand before their sons get married and tell their children their plans. While helping children to the best of their ability, they must also leave a way back for themselves, and they can only choose one way to pay and contribute. After all, the elderly are old, there are many unstable factors in the future, if the adult children are exhausted and the savings are exhausted, the old age life may not be guaranteed.

2. Be bold and express your opinions

If the elderly come to the child's home to help, but the children are throwing their hands in the cabinet, at this time the parents should not be forced to endure, but should communicate with the children, usually a reasonable division of labor, whether it is in the child or the cost of money should be planned.

3. Give yourself a proper holiday

Parents give their children all the love, but children will take it for granted, even if they have become a family and become parents, this kind of thinking can not be changed. Therefore, the elderly should take the initiative to give themselves a holiday, often go out with old friends to travel, so that children can see their position.

Parents are not easy to raise their children, if they have tried their best to help themselves when they are old, as young people, they should still be more considerate, do not squeeze their last bit of energy, and should give parents more space. Today's topic: What do you think about the new type of nibbling?